To find it so wearisome constantly being called the wrong name

Not all language is phonetical and why should it be? It’s boring.

Irish is a phonetic language though, more so that English is.

The issue isn't that Irish isn't phonetic, it's that most people don't know the language so they don't know the rules that govern how letters and letter combinations are pronounced in Irish. However, if a fluent Irish speaker came across an unfamiliar Irish name then they would 'decode' the spelling and know how to pronounce it. That's the definition of a phonetic language.

The rules for translating writing to speech are different in other languages than they are in English, that's all. You can't decode spelling without being familiar with those rules.

I get you OP.

I'm over being annoyed by it now but being called an older woman's name (Joyce) or a boy's name (Josh) repeatedly gets a bit annoying. Usually through work emails and calls.

I wouldn't mind so much but I've always gone by my full name which could have the diminutive 'Joss' but only my mum uses that!

I think the worst recently was 'Joycieleen'. How hard is it to read an email signature 😅

Dan-yell or Dan-yella.

It annoys me too OP, I constantly get an E rather than an A at the end of my name.
Find it lazy and ignorant when people can't even show the basic common courtesy to get a very simple name right. Often repeatedly.

Does it though? Actually get you down? My name (surname) is never pronounced correctly, it's not an issue, same surname not a married one so I've been using it all my life

how do you say those differently?

That's completely different though isn't? This is more about lack of effort I think.

My name would consistently be misheard as "Sarah Davidson" before I got married and change my last name. Every single time. It was nothing like it! Used to make me chuckle. Then one day at work I spoke to someone called Sarah Davidson and told them the hilarious story of my perpetual mixups but they didn't laugh. 😄

But I'm guessing you wouldn't read an email and type back the wrong one or look at a female and call them a male name
If someone says "sorry did you say Danielle or Daniella" it's fine!

@Melisha it's not
It happens in emails
It happens if I say my name
It happens if they read my name off a chart/letter
It's exhausting to keep correcting people and I get quite snappy with it now but I haven't found a name to change to that can't be pronounced wrong, spelled in different ways or mistaken for male!

Chinese and Japanese people can not say my name correctly. I do not care. They try but can not make the correct sound.

Yep, been an issue all my life. Rare name but everyone has at least heard of it. Doesn't stop them butchering the spelling, pronunciation. And it doesn't help that the most common misspelling and mispronunciation makes it a male name... I am clearly female. It's just disrespectful when it keeps happening time and time again by the same fuckwits

Lots of people are hard of hearing and can not tell the difference between subtle variations in names.
I am hard of hearing. I genuinely try. But if I try and I am still getting it wrong and people get angry, I just avoid them.

I feel your pain, I’m called Sophia, I get called Sophie more often than Sophia, sometimes by people I’ve worked with for years….

A hurtful part of it for me was that my parents were happy to call my sister by the shortened form of her name because that's what she wanted. But they wouldn't do it for me.

I have a unisex name with different spellings for male and female. The amount of people who get it wrong, even when sending me a message on Messenger FFS, where my name is clearly displayed correctly, drives me nuts. Even more so when it’s a relative of my DH when we’ve been married 30 years. Yes, Aunty Gwyn, I mean you!

That sounds like an accent issue.

I have an unusual/commonly mispronunced name and it gets bloody annoying! Especially as the common mispronunciation is the name of a notorious criminal, the school bullies used to have a field day with that.
Once is understandable, but if someone does it again after being corrected, it’s downright rude.

Weirdly mine has only been an issue I would say the last 4-5 years, it's like the male and female version are all just one name

Not at all. They chose a lovely name for me and put a lot of thought into it. It's not my parents' fault that some other people are illiterate, lazy, or just rude.😂

I should add: my name is a classic name used in the UK and (with some spelling variations) most other traditionally Christian countries. There's no real excuse for people getting it wrong so often. And yet, last week I attended a work event where I was called Rebecca and Caroline. Neither of those are my name. I was wearing a lanyard with my name badge visible. My name was in the programme, and on screen while I was presenting. No one at the event was called either Rebecca or Caroline.

My dad used to correct us for shortening each others names, and otehrs if they got our names wrong. None of us ever wanted to change our name so there were no issues like that. I'm not particularly laid back about a lot of things but people calling me by the wrong name isn't something that annoys me.

I live in Denmark. Danes cannot get my official name right because it's the opposite of a very common Danish name. So I too have missed appointments because they come into the waiting room and say eg May Lucy followed by silence, then I say do you mean Lucy May? No no, it's May Lucy Female. No it's really not. I know my own name FFS!

Oh I get a lot of this. Not wanting to put myself but it’s like confusing jan for Jane. And it is very annoying!

You must have a very laid back personality!

My whole body tenses up when some one does it to me. But I know that relates to my relationship with my parents and their total disregard for my feelings being of any importance in any matter, not just them refusing to call me by the name I wanted to be known by.

I get this a lot my name is very like a Susan vs Suzanne situation but not those names, fed up of being called the wrong one. It is wearing.