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The "terrifying threat from Labour"

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BigWordAtlas · 02/07/2024 13:50

I know that Tory HQ staff often come on here and post, and will be doing even more so at the moment.

I also know that Kier Starmer has done a terrible job in gender critical thinking, and members like him, Rayner and Lammy are currently an absolute shitshow when it comes to the rights and protections of women and children. I'm not looking forward to the battle we'll face after the election to reverse the damage that's been done and to protect those rights, and fully bring down all the MRA policies that have formally or informally kicked in over the last few years.

But does anyone else feel like the absolute barrage on here in the last few days about the Holy Bloody Handmaid Terror that will be Labour's government is a bit... overblown? A bit Tory HQ-flavoured? They're absolutely panicking at the moment and will do any kind of astroturfing they can to chip away at votes, particularly in swing constituencies like mine.

No party is perfect, and Labour is currently far from perfect for me and my children. But realistically, I have to vote Labour where I am if I want to keep a Tory candidate out. I hate their gender ID policies, but this nail-bitten tone of total and complete apocalypse (and yes, I've heard posters use that word in this context) feels unhelpful and not really equipping anyone to improve things after the GE. They made me feel extremely anxious until I just hit a wall with the frantic language, and now I'm feeling much more pragmatic and ready to fight with Labour on this stuff, rather than against them and allowing another party to get in.

So AIBU to feel that most of these posts are at least seeded by Tory HQ, rather than actual Labour voters like me?

<hard hat donned>

OP posts:
saraclara · 02/07/2024 19:28

AhNowTed · 02/07/2024 18:32

Or help women, or children in any way, whatsoever.

No. Nothing.

They've actually removed protections.

I've been horrified at the complete absence of all the services that used to be available to confirm from birth to five (and beyond). I've mentioned before, that our local clinic is empty and boarded up. It used to provide a paediatric dentist, a speech therapist, a chiropodist (who my little daughter saw for a casting and an insole to minimise her hereditary bunions), an NHS physiotherapist, and a large team of health visitors and midwives. As well as hosting ante natal and post natal classes. And probably more that I didn't use.

It's not that those services have just moved somewhere else. They just don't exist. There are still health visitors, but a fraction of the number. But that's it. My daughters ante and post natal support was almost non existent. And my granddaughters delay not picked up because checks were missed, or done several months too late.

My little granddaughters have had none of those services. Sadly, severe buck teeth run in our family. Both my daughters had free orthodontic treatment. Now my grandkids can't even get a normal dental check up.

Health and education are my worries, so no, I'm not going to vote based on a narrow single issue, especially as I don't believe it would be addressed.

Underthinker · 02/07/2024 19:25

Starmer will learn pretty quickly that the mechanisms that actually power the country don't have much time for 'but this grown man wants to be in the Ladies', please BeKind'.

I hope you're right OP but I think you are probably over optimistic. Most people are moderately gender critical if they ever consider it, but many of the people influential in our institutions are not.

I think Maya Forstater said before her tribunal that she was sure the "grown ups" would come in and sort the mess out, until she had the horrible realisation that she was the grown ups.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 02/07/2024 19:15

Oakskn · 02/07/2024 14:02

I started a private school thread under another name. People don’t actually realise or care what’s going on in many private schools (and worse they don’t bother reading it if I write it). I got called Tory HQ. I’m just a random person. I don’t know why I got called Tory HQ - just for disagreeing with a labour policy. Often on this website if you don’t worship the Labour Party, you get called Tory HQ.
FWIW I am terrified of Starmer - I don’t expect anyone to care, but I am allowed my own feelings. Didn’t vote for Bojo either. Still terrified of Starmer. But I’m not Tory HQ. If people want to call someone Tory HQ - essentially that’s troll hunting. They should report to MNHQ if they don’t think it’s a genuine mumsnetter. It one kind of troll hunting that MNHQ seem to allow - because they are pretty left leaning IMO.

Why would I care about private schools since we could never afford to use one even if we wanted to.

cardibach · 02/07/2024 19:13

Which then makes you wonder how really Fked this country is if Nigel Farage is looking like a better leader than the current encumbents of the 2 main parties
No worries then, @Yalta , because he’s not. The only circumstance in which I’d vote Tory is to keep Farage or one o& his employees out. Because even more Rishi and Co is preferable.

NOTthisOldchestnut · 02/07/2024 18:39

Hopebridge · 02/07/2024 15:02

I had the same thing happen once when I asked a question 🙈 I don't like how Keir Starmer doesn't seem to know his own mind on the gender issues. I won't be voting labour for a number of reasons.

But if you're not voting Labour, there is only Conservatives and Reform?!😱 🤮

AhNowTed · 02/07/2024 18:32

Theunamedcat · 02/07/2024 17:44

Just consider in 14 years what the Conservative party has done to protect women

Or help women, or children in any way, whatsoever.

No. Nothing.

Yalta · 02/07/2024 18:26

BigWordAtlas · 02/07/2024 17:38

It is life-destroying to live on a financial knife-edge long-term, I don't disagree. But it's 14 years of a Conservative government who have got us to this stage, and if we stayed with them another 14 years there's not a single indicator that it would improve. I think we need to stop conflating what's happened already with what could happen under a different government just because for 14 years the Tory slogan has been "Well, Labour would be worse".

And who would actually make it better, if you don't want to vote Labour? (That's not rhetorical, I just haven't seen any manifestos or financial plans that make me think aha! That's the one that will improve the UK economy for sure! I mean, even the IFS have put question marks next to every party's plans.)

People have been living on a knife edge for thousands of years what ever government was in power
I do think messing with that and tipping people into debt for the good of public services is not going to end well

I actually think that if there wasn’t the campaign to get rid of Boris we wouldn’t be in such dire circumstances now (A case of be careful of what you wish for) We wouldn’t have had a prime minister with his hands tied trying to defend himself he would have been getting on with running the country. The whole Covid restrictions were ridiculous.
We wouldn’t have had Liz Truss and the budget which brought so much damage
And we wouldn’t have ended up with a PM who made a good chancellor but was completely out of touch with reality and wasn’t fit to run a country.

Personally I am not voting. I think policies and manifestos aside I think Starmer isn’t a strong enough personality to keep control of those in the Labour Party who have been waiting and hiding their own agenda for when Labour are in power and to stop any of the infighting I see happening
I think no matter how much of a landslide there is in Labours favour I think it will be wasted

The Conservatives are led by someone who not only has no idea of the reality of peoples lives but also has no interest in winning (he has already bought his next home and it isn’t in the UK)

That leaves Reform’s leader Farage
Here is someone who you feel knows what he wants the country to look like, whether you agree or disagree with him and unlike Starmer he I feel is someone who couldn’t give a flying f**k about trying to keep everyone happy. He also has some understanding of what people are going through at the moment

Which then makes you wonder how really F**ked this country is if Nigel Farage is looking like a better leader than the current encumbents of the 2 main parties

Mycatsmudge · 02/07/2024 18:22

Melisha · 02/07/2024 15:04

@Mycatsmudge Oh no!!! International treaties!!! We can't have those international treaties that negotiate peace and support international trade.
I know you are just scare mongering to people who do not understand what you really posted. But some people do make a lot of money if we have more wars and more people dying. I would like to see an international peace treaty that stopped war in the Middle East, especially involving Israel and Palestine. But you are obviously afraid Labour might do that and want no extra international treaties/
I would also welcome an international treaty that dismantled some of the trade barriers British businesses have with Europe. The amount of red tape is ridiculous. But you would prefer for that red tape to remain.

As a result of these international laws and treaties the UK courts are constantly being challenged when we try to deport convicted foreign criminals and as a result many remain either free in the community if they’ve completed their sentences or if not they continue to be are kept in prison at the cost of the taxpayer

cardibach · 02/07/2024 18:19

BloodyHellKenAgain · 02/07/2024 18:12

But the thing they both have in common is that they are now both outside state education and privately funded by the individual so if its acceptable to add VAT onto 1, why not the other? Especially as Labour have already mentioned the need for uni fees to increase. See also private tutors.

You might think it's a nuts thing to worry about, but people worry about all sorts of things whether those things are nuts or not and it's a major concern of mine.

No, they aren’t. There’s no free alternative. Totally different. Private universities (of which there are a few) maybe as there is a much cheaper alternative which is supported by the state.
Edit: people worrying about nuts things are usually doing it because nutters have suggested it. The Tories are scaremongering about all these things and you are buying into it (assuming you aren’t. Shill/bot).

OrwellianTimes · 02/07/2024 18:17

Theunamedcat · 02/07/2024 17:44

Just consider in 14 years what the Conservative party has done to protect women

I can’t name one thing.

PowerTulle · 02/07/2024 18:15

both women and (good) men are waking up to and will have more luck fighting for under Labour than they did under the last government.

Yes @BigWordAtlas I do agree to some extent, that actually some of the more extreme madness has lit up the issue. Labour could be the petrol on the fire now.

BloodyHellKenAgain · 02/07/2024 18:12

cardibach · 02/07/2024 17:51

In fairness that’s a nuts and Tory shill type worry though so I can see why people might conclude that’s what you are. University has no free alternative people could choose. It’s quantifiably different from a private school.

But the thing they both have in common is that they are now both outside state education and privately funded by the individual so if its acceptable to add VAT onto 1, why not the other? Especially as Labour have already mentioned the need for uni fees to increase. See also private tutors.

You might think it's a nuts thing to worry about, but people worry about all sorts of things whether those things are nuts or not and it's a major concern of mine.

QuickMember · 02/07/2024 17:56

Cooper77 · 02/07/2024 15:07

The left have FAR more influence than the right. In fact, I don't know how the left can complain about bias and keep a straight face! They dominate everything!! The 'long march through the institutions' is pretty much complete. The left dominate the BBC, the universities, the arts, the publishing industry, even the libraries. For crying out loud, just wander through Waterstones and you'll see book after book attacking British history and British heroes. The media in this country is overwhelmingly liberal-left. If you really want to be a counter-cultural rebel, you have to be a patriotic conservative!

I regard myself as a moderate conservative. Actually, I'd say 'left-wing conservative' best suits me. But I am terrified of what's coming, and I say that with my hand on my heart. We are about to elect a socialist government with a massive majority. Obviously they will wreck the economy, that kind of goes without saying. But they will also do nothing to control immigration. On the contrary, it will get worse. Some Labour activists believe in open borders ffs. If the Tories let in 750,000 people in one year, what the hell are Labour going to do? If they have a huge majority, they'll disregard any protests and open the floodgates. That means endless, and I mean endless, house building. Make the most of those fields where you walk your dog. In fact, make the most of any quiet rural spot where you go to escape the noise and traffic, because after ten years of Starmer, central and southern England are going to be covered in ghastly rabbit hutch houses jammed on top of one another.

I have to say that I agree.

JaneV1984Madness · 02/07/2024 17:56

@TempestTost yes and unfortunately there is already a strangle hold in nealry every area of life including the NHS, education and the police, councils!

JaneV1984Madness · 02/07/2024 17:54

I don't see how op, in Rotherham, no one felt they could mention the abuse at all under labour for fear of being called racist.
Things still are not great now but that dam broke almost as soon as Labour went and it all came out..

TempestTost · 02/07/2024 17:53

Ithink women here are worried because once you get laws passed that enshire gender ideology , it becomes extremely difficult to get rid of them, and they actually prevent people from doing what is necessary to get rid of them.

Oldfatandfrumpy · 02/07/2024 17:53

Anyone that doesn't bow down at the feet of Kier seems to be labelled a Tory bot, A lot of Labour supporters are very unoriginal but at least they are consistent Hmm

Maybe, just maybe, some people are fucking scared that he'll dismantle the rights that have been hard won over the years by women in order to appease the TRA/MRAs and we'll never get them back?

JaneV1984Madness · 02/07/2024 17:52

@PowerTulle it's so embedded into our fabric of Society it needs teams of specialists to un pick it.
Keep the obvious good stuff and bin the rest.
Stonewall reach is far and wide. They have even got into women's refuges asking them to take trans men.
It's mind boggling.

BigWordAtlas · 02/07/2024 17:52

PowerTulle · 02/07/2024 17:46

but I'm just not convinced that the second Starmer's in power women will cease existing completely in legal form

Perhaps BigWord. But much of the problem is about social and behavioral norms changing, not just legal status. Labour is much more likely to swallow the ideology and continue to permit the law to be abused or ignored in favour of being progressive. We see this already where legal exceptions are not being applied and women are disadvantaged and pushed to take legal action themselves by default.

And as for the comment about Starmer stating gender ideology will not be taught in schools. How does that square with their manifesto stating there will be no ‘conversation’ therapy for gender identity? Which is basically saying only affirmative care is permitted. This completely contradicts the Cass recommendations.

Yes, you're right, lots of this is social norms, and as wise women on here have said on the FWR board, parents who have transed their kids will be extremely hard to win around on the disaster of gender ideology for all children and wider society.

But there's a much wider issue with women's rights that both women and (good) men are waking up to and will have more luck fighting for under Labour than they did under the last government. Sick of all of it, sick of women having to fight these legal battles, sick of the increased violence against girls and women, but it still seems like Labour is our better bet.

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QuickMember · 02/07/2024 17:51

hamstersarse · 02/07/2024 14:18

I think anyone earning over £50k will be pretty pissed off with the prospect of a Labour government. They make it clear time and time again that 'rich' people are their target, and by rich they simply mean high tax earners.

For me it will be the lack of incentive to do well because of the tax burden that is terrifying - when will people realise that socialism doesn't work?!

Absolutely this and the massive mess Labour have made over getting involved in gender ideology.

cardibach · 02/07/2024 17:51

BloodyHellKenAgain · 02/07/2024 15:22

I voted YABU because I've been accused of being a Tufton St based Tory shill on here just for commenting on my worries around Labour adding VAT onto uni fees.

I'm nothing of the sort.

I think you're falling into the trap of assuming if someone has views you disagree with then they must be somehow dodgy and up to something, rather than an individual who just has different priorities to you.

In fairness that’s a nuts and Tory shill type worry though so I can see why people might conclude that’s what you are. University has no free alternative people could choose. It’s quantifiably different from a private school.

JaneV1984Madness · 02/07/2024 17:49

Raising the tax threshold has really helped me, I was in nmw and I just above but slightly raising my tax and ni has been good.
Not amazing, and I still pay some but it's definitely helped a little.

At this precise moment in time, I'm just about balanced.
Do I think keir will help me? Perhaps he's said so and I've missed it?

cardibach · 02/07/2024 17:48

FOJN · 02/07/2024 15:13

Well of course, he's a globalist, neo liberal FFS. A Labour government will carry on transferring wealth to the rich.

FFS. He’s Schrödinger’s Starmer. Simultaneously rinsing the rich and transferring all money and power to them.

newnamethanks · 02/07/2024 17:48

I'm not one to call ism at every possible slight but this, @HarrietPierce, I agree that's what it is and it's a particularly seedy nudge nudge, wink wink, to certain voters. Intentional and disgraceful.

Greenismyfav · 02/07/2024 17:47

We pay £800-900 more a month in tax because we live in Scotland. We could easily move to England, with the advantage that it’s low hassle as it’s still in the UK and we have no particular family ties, but we don’t move and neither do a surprising number of others as we cannot be bothered.

if Labour put 20% on the top rate of income tax people will move. But if they just added a percent or two people wouldn’t.