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To ask you to have a word with me

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Slowhorses1 · 02/07/2024 13:05

DD 8yo wants to cut off all her hair. I KNOW this isn't something I should get steamed up about. I had short hair as a kid, it grows back etc etc.
BUT for some reason I care. If Im being honest I really don't want her to do it. She wants to have hair like Bill in Mallory Towers, but DD hair is fine and straight. She keeps saying she wants 'boys' hair.
Ive booked her into my hairdressers on saturday, and Ive tried to look at inspiration photos but I cant find anything that doesnt make me shudder a bit.

I dont know what my problem is. Please have a word with me, and also tell me what to say to the hairdresser!

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FatmanandKnobbin · 02/07/2024 13:22

I've always let my dd have full say over her hair, over the years she's had long hair, undercut, shorter on one side, bob, every colour you can imagine, buzz cut.... she has grown up (well 16 now so almost) knowing that she has full autonomy over her body, she has been through so many phases she knows what she feels comfortable with, and what style she feels best in.

Just go with it, it's only hair, the message you send her is far more important than hair, which will grow back anyway.

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Slowhorses1 · 02/07/2024 13:19

@Coconutter24 Ive tried to convince to have a short bob. She has a longer bob at the moment.

@Roundroundthegarden I also think it looks awful! I dont know why she wants it so much. Ive tried telling her she has different hair and it wont look good like that but she really wants it.

I dont want to control her choices about things like this, I think it will backfire. BUT I was thinking maybe i can say something to the hairdresser and he can convinces her a very short bob would be the best option.

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Roundroundthegarden · 02/07/2024 13:17

Sorry I think it looks awful and especially with fine straight hair even more so. Why does she want this style so much. I have an 8yo and tbh I really don't think that if they are going to look a bit silly you have to go along with it.

Coconutter24 · 02/07/2024 13:13

I have to admit if my daughter wanted that haircut I would also be doing everything to talk her out of it. Will she agree to slightly longer like a long bob?

PenguinLove1 · 02/07/2024 13:13

The actress that plays bill on the tv adaption looks amazing with her short hair! It will show off her lovely face. Im so happy you are letting her have the autonomy to make this decision you hear so many parents not wanting their kids to cut their hair and its a shame.

Think of the positives- it will be neat, tidy, less maintenance, less drying time, whats not to like?

Dont let her feel your uneasyness or she could get self conscious about it

xILikeJamx · 02/07/2024 13:09

I didn't know who Bill in Mallory Towers was, so I was thinking it was maybe like a buzzcut or something and I would understand your hesitance.

Having just looked Bill up, YABU

Mouswife · 02/07/2024 13:09

It’s a sign she is growing up and making choices. It’s ok. I was the same and once cut I agreed it did look nice ! It’s all about facilitating choices (reasonably!). She wants to look a certain way as we all do, something she is comfortable with.