To want to do something other on holiday than lie on a sunlounger?

After the British weather the last two years I would love that sort of holiday yes but would be happier on the beach than by a pool. Sometimes I want to just relax .

I like a mixture of both on holiday but I definitely would want to see the historic sites and check out local restaurants.

I find it curious that you say "the people" you are on holiday with. Did you not know much about them beforehand? Why did you go on holiday with them when your interests are so radically different?

When we have resort holidays we have to compromise because I like to lounge and DH likes to sightsee. We tend to do day on day off, so to speak. Works nicely and we both enjoy the holiday.

It is common.

I personally cannot think of anything worse.

But each to their own.

Can you do your own thing each day?

A lying on sun loungers holiday is exactly what I need right now as I have three small kids and absolutely no time to sit down and relax. So YABU because I'd sell my soul for even a long weekend with a sun lounger, beer and a book!

But I get it. Under normal circumstances it's a bit boring and something I like to do on hols but not all of the time.

If you suggest an outing and the others decline then just go do it and meet up later. You're not connected at the hip so please yourself

Lots of people do, lots of people don't. You obviously know this OP and you know you're not in any way unreasonable to go off and see the sights so crack on. I can do a couple of days of nothing but not a full week so I'd be off in the day and meeting up later.

Of course it’s common. But surely you know that?

I like to mix it up a bit. Some days I like to flop and some days I like to sightsee. Can you not just take yourself out? Hire a car, or see if there are any bus trips to nearby sights etc.

Surely you actually knew these people before agreeing to holiday with them? Just go off and do your own thing if laying around isn't for you 🤷

I like to mix it up...out of seven days we got out on excursion and trips for three days and then rest on resort always get water park for kids. Love more trips but can't afford it.

This would drive me mad!!

That would do my head in tbh. You can do that in the garden - at home!

Can you not just do your own thing?

Did you not know what these people were like before you went on holiday with them?

Sounds blissful to me

Very normal, also depends where you are a lot of beach resorts don't exactly have a lot of other things to do as that's exactly why people go there. There's nothing stopping you going off on your own though.

Neither party are unreasonable. Why would they be OP? Do what you want on holiday.

Is there something stopping you from doing what you would prefer whilst the rest of your group lie in the sun?

I hate holidays like that. I can lie about on a sun lounger at home. I like to be doing & seeing new stuff.

So, YANBU.

Different people like different holidays. Some times you need a week of doing nothing. We do a bit of both. have done the fully packed schedule holidays where its all go and we are wrecked by time come back. Or the doing nothing but relaxing wondering and we are refreshed when we come home. No one is forcing you to do it get up and go somewhere if you want. Currently looking at my hols this year - hoping a holiday end of sept somewhere hot as this year has been very hectic for both of us we have both agreed a nice hotel with a pool and a few nice restaurants is what we need this time. With the odd excursion if we want to

Nobody has mentioned its possible to do a bit of both. Relax and swim and explore.
For those saying I hate lying in the sun, you can always go in the shade.

We are going on holiday tomorrow and DH is pulling together a packed agenda for each day. Next year I want to fly and flop.

I'm going on holiday soon and plan to do very little. Sleep in, lie in sun lounger either dozing, reading or listening to podcasts. I'll also swim, eat and drink. Will walk down to the private beach and swim there and might do some water sports. We have booked one excursion that we all want to do. We've had a few city breaks and skiing holiday in the past few months so a holiday with no schedule is needed.

I'm not a fan of lying in the sun all day either, I like to see the place I'm visiting, but I don't necessarily want to do loads of activities either.

My activities stretch to lots of walking (not hiking), hiring a car and actually exploring the place I'm holidaying in, visiting the big outdoor markets, lunching out in local restaurants, stopping in different places for a drink and then moving on.

My idea of hell is lying in the sun all day, sitting in the same bar all day, going to the same places/restaurants every day

is that even a question? Why wouldn't it be common?
People are even ready to fight to get a spot on a sunlounger, surely you must have heard of that.

Lying down all day doing nothing for a week is not my idea of a good time, so I just.. don't. I do something else.

I’ve just come back from a week in Majorca. I spent the majority of it on a sun lounger reading books. Myself and DH have had a really tough year so far and desperately needed some downtime.

We picked Majorca because we’ve been loads before and seen all the usual sights so didn’t feel the need to be up and off every day.

I am usually a sightseer but I’m not snobby about why people don’t move from their sun loungers - I don’t know them or what their stories are so I don’t try to guess or judge them.

That’s me! But to be fair I do a very mentally and physically demanding job, endurance sports as a hobby and run around after teenagers the rest of the time so holidays for me are an opportunity to lie very still in the sun for a week with a book and recharge myself. The only week of the year I’m not constantly active.