Hi, looking for advice please, and whether we are being unreasonable.
I have recently found out I'm pregnant after trying for around 14 months. We are obviously over the moon. I can't quite believe it.😅
I had a 7 week early viability scan last week which showed a heart beat, but
I am aware of miscarriage statistics, and conscious to keep this pregnancy to ourselves until we pass the 12 week mark/scan.
I have extremely bad nausea,sickness and fatigue, not to mention my huge bloated belly and boobs. Pretty much been spending the past week in bed as it's gotten the better of me.
However here is our problem.. MIL had arranged to come to our house with BIL and his wife, and also my DH's auntie (who is visiting from Korea).
This would be before the 12 week mark, so we've asked them to come any weekend after the 12 week mark instead.
This would mean we could tell them the news, and hopefully symptoms would simmer down by then anyway. I don't see how I could hide my symptoms if they visited when they planned originally (week 9).
MIL is questioning this, and wants to know exactly why we can't do any date before then, questioning if it's something bad and demanding a phone call etc.
We don't really know what to say apart from 'we're sorry but we can't do those dates anymore' but she isn't buying it.
Are we being unreasonable to not tell her why and move the date?
For context, DH isn't close to his family at all, and has only seen them maybe 3(?) times in the last few years. However, I appreciate an auntie is visiting from Korea, which is making us feel bad and unsure how to navigate it, he hasn't seen/spoken to his auntie since he was 5, when he left Korea himself.