ExDH new GF posting photos of children

she is constantly messaging me for validation of her relationship with him and reassurance

Like what messages for example?

I think it’s the same - no one owns a child’s image and think about how many holiday pics people take that you are probably in the background of. When my DH was doing his custody minute of agreement, social media posting was suggested by the solicitor as something they should come to an agreement on and they both felt the same way, but it was just a suggestion to avoid arguing later not a law.

@Pixie378 YANBU however, the law is not on your side. I personally don’t post any pictures of my dd online because I believe that all children should have the right to give informed consent. Until they are old enough to fully understand the internet and internet safety they are unable to give informed consent.

I can’t stop her dad from posting photos of her though and anyone else who he has given permission to. He knows my stance about children having the right to give informed consent, he doesn’t see the harm in posting photos of children.

Sometimes parents are just not on the same page whether they’re still together or split up. And one parent really can’t overrule the other or dictate what they can and can’t do.

You only have rights where you have an expectation of privacy. If people are in a public park unfortunately there is no expectation of privacy.

We don't post any pictures of DC online, but that is a choice, it's something like 80% of parents do. For us it's nothing to do with AI / perverts etc, it was about what I wouldn't have wanted when I was a teenager, which was loads of embarrassing baby pictures etc being available 😂
I'm not saying it's wrong to post them, just a choice we decided on, and obviously we are in the minority so we're probably wrong.

I do hate it when people refer to “the rules” and “the law” like some prim head girl. The only important and salient fact here is that one of the parents is unhappy having pictures of their children on public internet forums.

The other parent, and step parent, are morally obliged to consider this view, even though it’s more conservative than theirs, and perhaps show some respect and err on the side of caution for that parent’s sake, and the children’s. Or at the least have a proper discussion about it.

Anything else is just poor co-parenting.

Which is the law that says this?

What if they are taken without consent e.g. I am taking a photo of the park, but there are people there, including children? Obviously, I don't ask their permission.

In the eyes of the law she does not.

She does not need permission. Anyone can take pictures of anyone else including children and publish them online. Whether she should be doing this or not is another matter but as far as the law goes she is within her rights ad the owner of the photo to publish it online.

To post public pictures of someone else’s children? Of course she does!

If the photos were taken with consent in a private home or public place there is basically nothing you can do legally. Schools ask for permission for safeguarding reasons eg LAC, DV, situations where a photo could cause risk.

Unfortunately if her Dad has given consent then there’s nothing you can do. I agree with you though! I post my DSD occasionally but I’ve helped raise her for 7 years, have a private account with family and close friends and my DH and his ex also post and we are all friends on social media. I wouldn’t have posted at the beginning of our relationship or without knowing her Mum’s views on social media.

But they’re her partners children, sounds like he’s happy to allow it or do think, as their father, he shouldn’t be allowed to have an opinion on it?

Yes, I know that. Some people on here think it should only happen with the mother’s permission, I’m saying, the father is also the parent of the child, he has an opinion on the matter too…in this case, sounds like he doesn’t object.

She does need permission. Not her kids to post!

Their dad gets an equal say! Unfortunately OP doesn’t get to dictate to him what she wants. ( well she can, but he doesn’t have to listen!)

No I can’t because I’m asking the question.

I see what you're all saying , but if the dad gave permission then that's enough. Just the same as if mum's friend posted a picture of the child in question. Literally nothing you can legally do unless there are other factors protecting the kid's identity. Got this information from my solicitor.

Is that a legal right or safeguarding policies for school? Can you link to the law that says people can't post photos of children without permission?

I could be in my local park and take a photo of it with children visible in that photo and I can legally put that on FB. As far as I'm aware, people, including children, who are photographed in a public place do not need to give permission.

I live abroad and the law is different here...

Seriously? I know you have no right over your own photograph, but surely when it comes to children you have a legal right? Certain children, adopted for example, have rights not to have their photos posted, so surely other children do too? I mean, their parents consent.

Exh's new gf was posting pictures of our kids years ago , I went to see my solicitor as we were in family court at the time. There wasn't a thing (legally) I could do to stop it. He was on to the next girlfriend soon enough , the pictures were removed at this point. Very frustrating times.

The kids are grown now , but I'm convinced exh allowed this to upset me as I don't post images of my kids on sm. He's petty like that.

She doesn’t sound that reasonable if she keeps messaging you to the extent you have to block her. But yeah if you think she would take them down if asked, just ask her to do that. That seems the obvious solution.

Morally no but legally not much you can do.
if the OP tries to appeal to her horrible ex, he will just laugh in her face. It’s better to not let him know that she’s bothered.