ExDH new GF posting photos of children

I agree with this, you say she's reasonable so ask nicely, suggest she changes access to family and friends only if she doesn't want to delete then block her a little while later - do it straight away and you might lose her co-operation.

Unblock her to get her to take down the pictures then re-block.

Depends on the situation. I share pics of my DSD from family hols etc but it’s not a new relationship and I’ve been in her life since she was 2 and married to her Dad since she was 5. I’m not giving the idea of a happy family, I have a happy family and she is part of that. However I have a private page, I post maybe a few times a year, and, crucially, her Mum and Stepdad also post intermittently and are fine with her Dad and I doing the same.

There’s not unless you can show it’s an invasion of privacy or harassment which is quite hard to prove. That’s why press have to blur out children’s photos where their parents are celebrities because it would be an invasion of privacy but they could take photos of eg a crowded beach featuring lots of kids but not need the consent of anyone to publish. There’s nothing illegal about posting a photo on your own social media, even a public profile, of someone else’s child. It’s not the same as plastering their faces on the front page of The Sun when their dad is the prime minister or something.

No there's an under 18 rule where you can't post pictures of kids without parental permission. This applies to photos in public too, and is why often on TV or in publications you sometimes see kids faces blurred out.

The caveat is you can post under 18s photos with parental permission, which is where the OP is a bit stuck. It doesn't need to be permission from both parents.

Personally though I think it's dreadful she's posting them without your permission OP

A girlfriend of a part time parent is not on any planet helping 'raise' a child, she has zero parental influence.

I had several of these women in my childhood through my father (they would last anywhere from 2-5 years) and absoloutly non of them where anything close to being like a 'parent'. They where factually just where he was temporarily parking his dick for a while, I had a REAL mother who raised me.

I don't dislike them either, they where mostly nice people (only one wasn't) who where always polite and friendly to me. I actually liked them better than him overall but at best they where like a random 'aunt' or 'friend of the family' not a parent.

Spending time with, looking after temporarily or feeding a kid does not make you a parent, if so all the dinner nannies at my kids school etc... are his parent which is such a ridiculous concept. A girlfriend also should not really be 'looking after' these kids, she might be their while their DAD is looking after them but she shouldn't be being left with them.

If the dad has said it’s ok then the argument is null and void. Whether people agree with that isn’t really relevant.

Honestly I think there should be a blanket rule that no photos of kids are posted online without the kids informed consent. We have all done it, but I stopped a long time ago after a very eye opening talk about what happens to kids pictures on the internet. Not being unreasonable at all to tell her to stop. They are not her children, she doesn’t get a say. End of discussion.

What about the children? Are they old enough to be able to express an opinion? Mine have always been absolutely adamant that they don’t want to be on any of my social media without consent.

Usually to stick it to the mum or virtue signal about what a great SP they are. I'm sure there are a few that do it out of genuine love and wanting to share their life(which includes dsc), but they're the minority. And they probably don't do it on a public page. That in itself smacks of "look at me!"

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I would unblock her to ask her nicely. "I'm aware that ex doesn't mind, but it does bother me (I dont share pictures of the kids publicly for this reason)."
You can always block her again afterwards.

How old are your kids?
Are they old enough for you to discuss this with them?

What I don’t get is just why would some woman want to post pictures of someone else’s children. Is it to make her feel her relationship is secure. Is it to try and give the idea that they are a happy family. I mean yeah some people post pictures of their own children but I don’t get why your exes girlfriend would even want to.

I think it's a reasonable request is to ask that the photos she takes are made private and not public.

"I personally don’t think anyone should be posting any photos of people who cannot give informed consent."

This would basically mean never posting any photo. It's not practical to hand out forms to potentially tens on people whenever you want to take a photo.

There is a right to be forgotten on Google.

I personally don’t think anyone should be posting any photos of people who cannot give informed consent.

imagine having a digital footprint before you’re able to understand what one is? all in the name of ego. It’s exploitative.

if you want to share photos of your kids with friends and family, share them privately, they don’t need to published online for the world to see …

"The other parent, and step parent, are morally obliged to consider this view"

Morality is subjective.

Well the same way the mother indicates an issue. It is a nightmare with very out of date law not appreciating the current issues.

If she is seemingly dependent on your opinion, then unblock her and tell her about the picture problem. I'm sure dh would hate if the two of you got along and communicated directly. I get that you don't want to interact with the girl, but if her taking down the pics is truly important then play the part and use what power she is giving you. Otherwise ex dh will keep sticking it to you and your hands are tied.

I’m assuming if he hadn’t, he would ask for them to be taken down.

Really? But how would they know that the father has given permission?

Bloody social media. I've always been protective of putting my child online. He said all his friends Googled themselves at school and he was the only one who didn't have anything come up. He was really glad. He's 13.

I’ve never posted my DSD on anything - people that mostly know me online wouldn’t even know she exists . I am not her mother so it’s not my right to post pictures of her - shes a beauty and I just wouldn’t have wanted to put her at risk anyway - she’s an adult now