I just want someone to tell me what to do

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Wobblyheart · 02/07/2024 07:59

I am completely and utterly burnt out. I've suffered for crippling anxiety for very long time. For the last 20 months I had only two nights where I had 5 consecutive hours of sleep.

I have been trying to get to the bottom of my physical condition that leaves me utterly exhausted for over 18 months and not getting anywhere.

I have worries about my 20mo development and I feel that he is likely to be on thr spectrum (and possibly I am myself too!).

I tried therapy, I am on meds, I try positive attitude, I try and try but I just seem to fall and hit the ground hard.

Our new beautiful house is a mess. I worry about damage to our new fittings because i just can't look after it properly. For the first time ever I am struggling at work to the point it affecting my performance.

I am so lost, I struggle to plan supermarket shops and end up spending too much.

I am a total mess and I don't know where to get help.

I don't want the cbt. I can't afford talking therapy right now.

Where do I start? How do I pull myself together and get my life back???

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iwonderland · 02/07/2024 08:06

Wobblyheart · 02/07/2024 07:59

I am completely and utterly burnt out. I've suffered for crippling anxiety for very long time. For the last 20 months I had only two nights where I had 5 consecutive hours of sleep.

I have been trying to get to the bottom of my physical condition that leaves me utterly exhausted for over 18 months and not getting anywhere.

I have worries about my 20mo development and I feel that he is likely to be on thr spectrum (and possibly I am myself too!).

I tried therapy, I am on meds, I try positive attitude, I try and try but I just seem to fall and hit the ground hard.

I am so lost, I struggle to plan supermarket shops and end up spending too much.

I am a total mess and I don't know where to get help.

I don't want the cbt. I can't afford talking therapy right now.

Where do I start? How do I pull myself together and get my life back???

Hi I get how you feel! You will have to try CBT First as nhs will refer you for that then they can refer other things like counselling, or groups you can join. I would also speak to the GP about meds maybe they need changing or need to be upped? Sleep wise I would also speak to the GP see if they can give you something for a couple weeks to get yourself into a routine as sleep is defo something that affects the brain in regards to mental health it's soo important to get the sleep you need. Also are you eating? You need to eat too as it gives you energy. Do you have any hobbies at all? Painting? Swimming? Going for walks? Maybe try and do something you like once a week and can look forward too to keep your mind occupied. I've been like this the last few weeks it's horrible just feel like you're in a hole and can't get out of it. I have to push myself as I have 4 children and I'm a single mum. I just feel life is boring and tedious at the moment 😩

Stopthatknocking · 02/07/2024 08:05

Sleep will help so much.
Have you taken sleeping tablets? Will your gp prescribe some?

I found after a week or so of good sleep, I was more able to tackle things.
Or at least to make a plan to tackle things.

GoogleWhacking · 02/07/2024 08:03

Take some time off work. Get signed off sick. Seek private therapy. I did this. It worked.

Sending hugs

FatfunandADHD · 02/07/2024 08:01

I'm not sure I can offer any advice but I wanted to say your not alone and the things you describe quite regularly are how I feel too. I'm just trying to get DS ready for school and then I'll come back and message more thoroughly and maybe we can pull ourselves out of the darkness

magnoliablooms · 02/07/2024 08:00

I don't want the cbt. why not?

Unfortunately the NHS has a set route of help so you'd have to take up the cbt they offer before they'll offer anything else.

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