DH tries with his mum but she doesn’t reciprocate very consistently. He will check in with her, acknowledge her birthday/Christmas but it doesn’t come back the opposite way at all. She doesn’t even text on his birthday. I can’t imagine being like that with my own child but hey ho. She had him before she turned 20 and seems to be acting much younger than her now age. Her new (ish) partner is only one year older than DH- both in twenties. We are having our baby this year. Should the partner be given a grandparent type name? Is it insulting to them? I don’t even know if MIL wants to be called grandma herself. She’s only asked about me/baby once this pregnancy and seems to just want to talk about what’s going on in her life whenever we make contact, oh and seems to think she will be first to meet baby…
They live at the other side of the country and we maybe see them twice a year. Should I reach out to see what they would like to be called to our baby? Is it appropriate to call the partner anything? I must admit, the age gap makes me feel awkward and I think it does DH too but it isn’t our place to judge that on its own. I would rather not offend them or make any assumptions and hope they will both come round and show some more interest nearer the time, mainly for DH sake more than anything