To not want to ‘sit in the park’ on a second date?

Very much depends on the park and weather. If someone suggested going to the Royal Botanical Gardens in Melbourne for a date, I'd be fine if the weather was.

I'm assuming the proposed park is a cut above the ordinary, with a cafe.

Yeah I am sure if he looks hard enough, he will find some sad lonely woman who is desperate for a man - ANY man - and is happy to go for 'walking dates' with a man who is too tight fisted to put his hand in his pocket to buy her a coffee even. I am sure a handful of women like this exist.

Fuk me sideways. I am glad I have been married 35+ years, and am not on the dating scene now. I come from a time where men bought women drinks and meals and treated them like the fucking Queens they are. I'd still be single at nearly 60 if all the men I met were so tight-arsed, they just wanted to go on 'walking dates' and dates where we just 'sit in the park.' Nah, fuck that! This kind of shit is for 14 year olds! 😆

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I said I would rather sit on my arse alone watching a film at home, than GO FOR A SIT IN THE PARK for a SECOND DATE! I didn't say I would rather sit on my arse alone watching a film alone, than go out at ALL.

But you knew that. You just twisted what I said to suit your agenda.

I would be saying "No thanks, let's meet at x instead".

Given he seems to have a lot of plus points - and it is NOT easy to find decent men online dating - I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, but would say hmm it looks like it might rain, maybe let's save the park for a drier day?

It’s a ‘2nd date’ - you don’t really know each other.

Personally I’d rather get to know someone in a casual setting like this one as opposed to committing to a ‘romantic’ meal with someone I barely know.

I love sitting in the park chatting with a cup of coffee. Also most early dates I’ve organised with men I’ve been really into have been a posh picnic in the summer. Unless the weather is awful I wouldn’t want to be stuck indoors having a meal.

I’d say try it out. Your dating styles may just be a bit different, ie you seem to like old fashioned and formal and he is into casual and easygoing. Nothing wrong with either, just make sure you’re not too different, for example him being an outdoors enthusiast and you appreciating the finer things in life.

He sounds lovely. I hope he finds someone more suitable

Lol or maybe he is thinking of a stroll around the gardens in Regent’s Park and then champagne and strawberries on a blanket? I’d be much more impressed with that than a table at Dishoom.

Why do dates need to be overwhelming or grand gestures? Why the expectation of him to spend money? Your literally just getting to know each other. Whether you're a teenagers or 60 that part of dating is still the same.

Sounds like you're not bothered @LookOverHere . I'd tell him you're not feeling it and it's best to not prolong it. He'll find someone he's more compatible with, and you'll find someone to bring you on those romantic dinners.

(Although excellent point from the poster above about eating not being exactly romantic!)

Depends on the park is it a big park nice to walk around. We have a local Victorian park it's beautiful just to walk around and have an ice-cream. We still go now even though DC are young adults. There's an outdoor gym now as well good fun.

Yeah true, some people go there for the slides and swings. Five year-olds, mostly.

I don’t think it is that bad, but not exactiy overwhelming. I think say weather not looking great, prob better inside.

Sorry but what?

Exactly.

It's just seen as effort because it generally means the man pays for it all.

Effort doesn't have to involve spending money.

I often go to restaurants, they are generally full of people who have gone there to eat a meal with family or friends. Only a few of them are on dates.

Once again a poster lacking in imagination - do you really think that is why people go to parks

Yep, this.

Can you not understand that not everyone is the same as you? I don't need to "raise my bar" thank you, and would be more than happy sitting in the park. I actually don't see how eating - which is something we all have to do - is such a wildly romantic thing to do, and would rather get to know someone without an audience of diners/drinkers.

Some of you are really lacking in anything approaching imagination if you have such fixed ideas of what a date consists of.

I think so too.

I always find it amusing on here that those who are quick to label someone tight or a skinflint are the same people who refuse to open their purse at all let alone going Dutch.

Christ knows. Don't know why all those restaurants bother being open. It's not like anyone ever goes into them on dates. Why would they, when they could get some fruit cider and a twosies by the duckpond.

I would far rather sit in a park than have a "romantic" meal. What's so romantic about sitting somewhere eating food?

I'm thinking that maybe this bloke is suggesting this date to weed out people like you! I reckon this poor guy would be really confused by all the accusations on this thread; (he's a tight cider drinking dogger, perhaps with either a dog or a duck that he's overly fond of, who doesn't make an effort).

Love the pp idea of him being a secret millionaire, it sounds like a 90s rom con.

Whatever you think of this date, I feel like you have to go now to report back. Please say you will.

Perhaps ducks are very important to him, and he wants to see how you react in an encounter with ducks before he can commit to taking this further.

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