To tell friends and family about IVF to shut them up

I'd be absolutely blunt and leave the IVF part out (because it's only going to make them keep asking), saying something like "Look, we've been trying for ages, we can't conceive so please stop saying this because it's very hurtful."

It's a tricky one. We kept our ivf journey a secret from everyone except my parents. We had initially told people we were having difficulty and mentioned I was on Clomid. I was constantly asked about how it was going, when I might see results, what the drs said etc. it stopped me being able to just enjoy peoples company. So I told my friends that the dr had said to stop all treatment until I'd lost some weight. So they stopped asking.....while we secretly did ivf.

Could you not just say that you aren't even considering ttc until you've had a year of being newlyweds? Then that gives you a years grace to try ivf and it also doesn't become the elephant in the room all the time.

Good luck on your ttc journey x

Is there a middle ground where you can let them know you have been trying for a while, don't want to go into detail as focused on wedding etc (and don't mention ivf)

So sorry it's such an awful experience when people 'mean well' asking these things and they have no clue of your reality

You could always try to put the questions off by saying that you are going to wait for a year or two. It might bide you a bit of time?
I feel your pain as we went through the exact same thing - people can be so incredibly intrusive!!
Good luck with the ivf 🤞🏻

If it were me in this situation, I'd tell them. I've kept my IVF away from my in-laws so far, and I'm going for investigations on the 24th, which they know about and because it's private and they know how many losses I've had, they've offered to pay. It could go either way, but I'd tell them in the hopes they stop talking about it. I'm so sorry you're going through this 💐