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What is better - great sex or your favourite food/meal?

69 replies

Voi · 01/07/2024 15:31

Maybe it’s because I am on a diet right now (fast 800) but I am obsessing over food. Stuffing myself with my favourite food is better than sex imo. I’m only 31 and think this. Maybe I’ve been unlucky with men. I probably would answer different when not restricting (possibly not)

Which is better to you?

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JacquesHarlow · 02/07/2024 05:47

betterangels · 02/07/2024 05:07

Nothing beats great sex.

100% agree.

I also believe something which is often controversial on Mumsnet..

.. which is that good sex is as much a state of mind, and wanting to experience pleasure and connection, as it is finding a “unicorn” person who can “give” orgasms.

Don’t get me wrong - no amount of “state of mind” will compensate for a selfish, penis-obsessed man who jackhammers away and is ultimately selfish, misogynistic or weird.

However I’ll stop here before I get food thrown at me by the food > sex mob, but I think how we feel about ourselves, our state of mind, our body confidence, there’s so many things that need to be “right” to access good sex.

JacquesHarlow · 02/07/2024 05:41

IncompleteSenten · 01/07/2024 19:28

I've never seen the appeal of sex so maybe that's why I'd choose food.
Sex is a lot of fuss, mess and sweat for what is basically just a series of genital contractions and involves another person being uncomfortably close to you. Far too much touching for my liking, regardless how powerful the contractions are.

Could I as a question please @IncompleteSenten ?

I know from previous threads you said you were or are married.

Did/does your DH also feel similar about sex, which is why it all works out?

That’s quite a visceral, detailed description of why you dislike the concept of sex. Fair enough, and each to their own, I respect it. I’m just curious - is there an acceptance from your DH that you think all these things about sex, and perhaps therefore he does too / or has other reasons to avoid it, thereby everyone being happy in the end?

CheekyHobson · 02/07/2024 05:27

I would have to be absolutely dying of starvation to pick a great meal over great sex. 99 percent of the time I’d go hungry, even though I love good food.

In fact that’s what happens almost every second Friday when I finally get to see my bf. End up having toast instead of a proper meal haha.

betterangels · 02/07/2024 05:07

Nothing beats great sex.

aurynne · 02/07/2024 05:02

Food. Great sex is amazing, but food does not give me UTI, thrush and is not as messy.

Sunnytwobridges · 02/07/2024 02:14

I’ve had good sex and I’d still choose food.

SwordToFlamethrower · 02/07/2024 01:28

I love eating a nice piece of chicken after sex...

ArtichokeAardvark · 01/07/2024 22:04

Food. Sex is very occasionally great, but usually brief and perfunctory and at a time when I'm knackered and just want to go to sleep (and no, sex doesn't help me with that, I have no idea where that belief comes from).

Whereas a really special meal is always divine, satisfying, and can be lingered over for hours. Again, unlike sex.

ALunchbox · 01/07/2024 21:56

Food > sex

Epicaricacy · 01/07/2024 20:41

Simonjt · 01/07/2024 19:36

Sex everytime, plus its free and you don’t have to clean the kitchen afterwards.

😂

But you do have to do laundry, so it kind of evens up 😂

MargotMoon · 01/07/2024 20:40

Simonjt · 01/07/2024 19:36

Sex everytime, plus its free and you don’t have to clean the kitchen afterwards.

😂👌

Simonjt · 01/07/2024 19:36

Sex everytime, plus its free and you don’t have to clean the kitchen afterwards.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 01/07/2024 19:28

Sex. No contest.

IncompleteSenten · 01/07/2024 19:28

I've never seen the appeal of sex so maybe that's why I'd choose food.
Sex is a lot of fuss, mess and sweat for what is basically just a series of genital contractions and involves another person being uncomfortably close to you. Far too much touching for my liking, regardless how powerful the contractions are.

MoreThanThis78 · 01/07/2024 19:07

dudsville · 01/07/2024 18:38

Also food. I've never had really great sex but I've had countless truly delicious meals.

I think that’s maybe the pattern here? I’d have said food too until I had really great sex. Now feel I’ve missed out and missing out on the equivalent of the juiciest, ripest, most fragrant mango - or something!

Chillilounger · 01/07/2024 18:47

Sex. Hands down.

dudsville · 01/07/2024 18:38

Also food. I've never had really great sex but I've had countless truly delicious meals.

SiobhanSharpe · 01/07/2024 18:34

Look at it this way -- you haven't eaten for two weeks. You haven't had sex for even longer.
I think my answer would be the same, even after a good meal. Food every time.

WappityWabbit · 01/07/2024 18:25

Food definitely. Not had sex for several years and don't miss it. 😂

Epicaricacy · 01/07/2024 18:22

MoreThanThis78 · 01/07/2024 17:16

Yes, sex. The good sort. Unfortunately for me it’s much harder to source than food

That won't help, but it's harder for everyone. It' s just pure luck to find the right sexual partner.

I would give up chocolate and prosecco for the best partner I ever had, but chocolate is everywhere, he's not!

DaffydownClock · 01/07/2024 18:06

Food. Definitely food.

Binman · 01/07/2024 17:46

I swear I have sometimes eaten food that has been so good it has felt orgasmic, think it must endorphins or something. But great sex would be my choice, burns calories too.

Icannoteven · 01/07/2024 17:29

Food. Doesn’t even have to be my favourite.

MushMonster · 01/07/2024 17:21

Food!!!!!

MoreThanThis78 · 01/07/2024 17:21

Also, jealous of all the pp regularly having amazing sex! Aghh