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What is better - great sex or your favourite food/meal?

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Voi · 01/07/2024 15:31

Maybe it’s because I am on a diet right now (fast 800) but I am obsessing over food. Stuffing myself with my favourite food is better than sex imo. I’m only 31 and think this. Maybe I’ve been unlucky with men. I probably would answer different when not restricting (possibly not)

Which is better to you?

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Imbusytodaysorry · 02/07/2024 09:39

Whyisthatonthefloor · 01/07/2024 15:35

Depends if you’re hungry or horny surely?

Personally I go for one then the other.

Haha exactly they both have there place .

KurtCobainLover · 02/07/2024 09:13

Food.

Loafbeginsat60 · 02/07/2024 09:09

Food. Always food.

I do like sex but not as much as food!

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/07/2024 09:08

Sex. Done right it can be almost spiritual. I love food but I’ve never had a transcendent meal.

JacquesHarlow · 02/07/2024 09:06

IncompleteSenten · 02/07/2024 08:39

Yes, been married 26 years.
Yes, he's happy with it too.
Our relationship isn't physical but it's very close and it works perfectly for us.
I don't want to hijack the thread with the big long story but it took a while to get to this point but we worked through it and worked out a relationship that suits us perfectly.

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That’s wonderful to hear. Thank you for sharing. 🤍

CrunchyCarrot · 02/07/2024 08:43

Food always!

Q124 · 02/07/2024 08:42

Great sex definitely. Nice food makes you feel great at the time but I always feel awful afterwards and feel disgusting for eating nice /unhealthy food. Great sex makes you feel good about yourself for ages after.

IncompleteSenten · 02/07/2024 08:39

JacquesHarlow · 02/07/2024 05:41

Could I as a question please @IncompleteSenten ?

I know from previous threads you said you were or are married.

Did/does your DH also feel similar about sex, which is why it all works out?

That’s quite a visceral, detailed description of why you dislike the concept of sex. Fair enough, and each to their own, I respect it. I’m just curious - is there an acceptance from your DH that you think all these things about sex, and perhaps therefore he does too / or has other reasons to avoid it, thereby everyone being happy in the end?

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Yes, been married 26 years.
Yes, he's happy with it too.
Our relationship isn't physical but it's very close and it works perfectly for us.
I don't want to hijack the thread with the big long story but it took a while to get to this point but we worked through it and worked out a relationship that suits us perfectly.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 02/07/2024 08:30

Great sex... haven't had it for a long time and the lack thereof definitely affects my mood. So if the choice is great sex or food, I'd go with sex as it really lifts my spirits.

On the other hand, mediocre sex I could live without, so I'd rather have food!

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 02/07/2024 08:26

Simonjt · 01/07/2024 19:36

Sex everytime, plus its free and you don’t have to clean the kitchen afterwards.

Clearly you're not having exciting enough sex then 😮

Lostsadandconfused · 02/07/2024 06:58

Great sex, and I’ll settle for my second favourite meal/food.

Yozzer87 · 02/07/2024 06:56

Good food over crap sex. Good sex over good food most of the time but it depends how hungry I am.

BuggeryBumFlaps · 02/07/2024 06:56

Food

CalicoPusscat · 02/07/2024 06:52

Food

WitchyBits · 02/07/2024 06:51

I love sex and my husband is an absolute champ when it comes to pleasuring me but if I had to choose between delicious tasty fisherfolk food or great sex I'd take the food.

Garlickest · 02/07/2024 06:47

I haven't had sex for 18 years, couldn't find the energy if I had the opportunity, and my libido drives past about twice a year these days. I'd still choose my rare, minimum-effort DIY sex replacement over a wonderful steak 😆

I LOVE food and used to love sex even more! Good thing I can remember how amazing it was - also good that I can have a steak fairly often, or I really would be sad.

Riversideandrelax · 02/07/2024 06:46

I would say sex.

Daisyinthegrass · 02/07/2024 06:38

Definitely sex

lacefan · 02/07/2024 06:35

Neurodiversitydoctor · 02/07/2024 06:01

I'm sorry, another one here who would go for sex everytime.I think I've had some pretty good meals but sex can be literally mind blowing for me, I see stars and everything. Food has never done that.

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Same here- sex.

EinekleineKatze · 02/07/2024 06:32

In most scenarios good food.

BeauSignoles · 02/07/2024 06:18

Sex - but only the mind blowing kind, would choose that over any meal.

StMarieforme · 02/07/2024 06:13

MavisPennies · 01/07/2024 15:32

Depends how hungry you are doesn't it?

This entirely!

After being sole carer for my disabled DD and working FT, the last 14 years of being single have definitely left me peckish! 🤣🤣🤣

Neurodiversitydoctor · 02/07/2024 06:01

ArtichokeAardvark · 01/07/2024 22:04

Food. Sex is very occasionally great, but usually brief and perfunctory and at a time when I'm knackered and just want to go to sleep (and no, sex doesn't help me with that, I have no idea where that belief comes from).

Whereas a really special meal is always divine, satisfying, and can be lingered over for hours. Again, unlike sex.

I'm sorry, another one here who would go for sex everytime.I think I've had some pretty good meals but sex can be literally mind blowing for me, I see stars and everything. Food has never done that.

Zanatdy · 02/07/2024 05:58

Depends who the sex is with. The guy I was seeing last year I’d choose the sex everytime but most other men I’ve had sex with, I’d take the food. Also on a diet!!

Usernamesarenoteasy · 02/07/2024 05:58

Sex. I'm having the best sex of my life now at 46, I would take that over my favourite meal Every. Single. Time.