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Saying hello and goodbye

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hellogoodbyebye · 01/07/2024 09:44

DH does this irritating thing and it is doing my fucking head in.

Yesterday he went to the barbers. Before leaving he said 'I think I'll go to the barbers'. Twenty minutes later, I went upstairs and I was surprised to see he had left. Later he said 'but I said goodbye'.

When he enters a room of people, he will walk in, everyone will notice someone new has entered the room, but he will not say 'hello'. It makes the room awkward and someone else will have to say hello to him first.
If he is leaving the house he does not say goodbye. He will just leave.
If he is entering the house he does not say hi, I'm home - or something along the lines of this.

I'm heavily pregnant. What if something had happened and I was completely unaware he's not even in the house?

Other times he just leaves. AIBU?

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Waitingfordoggo · 01/07/2024 10:04

I don’t think it’s all that weird. Sometimes I’ll say to DH something like ‘I’m going to pop up to the shops in a bit’ and will leave a while later without going to find him to say goodbye. If we happen to be in the same room when I am leaving then yes, I’d say goodbye but I wouldn’t specifically seek him out for that purpose, especially if he’s in a different part of the house/in the garden.

Glitterybee · 01/07/2024 10:03

i have family members who do this! My mum especially will never say hello or goodbye. Weird AF!!!!

my sister and I suspect that our mum may be autistic (this is one of her many quirks) but we’ll never know as she won’t hear anything we have to say about it, nevermind speak to a professional.

DappledThings · 01/07/2024 10:01

I would take "I think I'll go to the barber's" as announcing his departure and I do think that is a goodbye. I wouldn't assume it needs a follow-up. "I'm doing that thing now that I already said I was going to do".

Just leaving without any warning at all is different.

Saying hello to a room is neither here nor there. Maybe he doesn't want to interrupt. I hate saying hello, I find it awkward. I certainly wouldn't walk into a room and announce myself to everyone there

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 01/07/2024 09:56

When he says 'I said goodbye' and you point out that no, he didn't, what does he say?

If you say to him that you're asking him to actually say the word 'goodbye', not something that he thinks means the same, then how would he react to that do you think?

Closetheblinds · 01/07/2024 09:47

That’s very strange behaviour. I don’t know what to suggest other than a bell by the front door 😆