Sister stole her flatmate’s deposit

Oh FFS, slightly different story then! Thanks for the correction 👍

No. You have no obligation whatsoever. Block the flatmate. Don’t get involved

Why you so involved?? You’re not her mother - and even if you were, she’s an adult. Very strange. Though your sister did act poorly. But so did the flatmate.

Tell your sister and her mate to sort it out amongst themselves and you will hear not a word about it anymore. And neither will your parents.
If your parents tell you to do anything just refuse. 'It's not my responsibility and she won't listen to me. I tried and failed and will not discuss the matter further.'

I don’t think the other girl has a leg to stand on. She broke the bed and made such a mess it costs the LL £££

At a lost to them both.

It only happens that the deposit wasn’t protected that DS got anything at all.

I wonder if DA lost all the deposit the family would sue the other girl for it seeing as she made them lose it.

2 different things.

Shes done nothing wrong.

Lol. This is Mumsnet @Huhy people don’t read posts or updates.

I’d bow out from the thread, and from the drama your sister has caused. Not your problem.

The first post does include all you need to know - the sister lied to get both shares of the full deposit paid into her account. The mentioning of the £400 was not irrelevant - it's what alerted the sister to the fact that the landlord had not fulfilled his obligations re: deposit protection, which enabled her to demand the return of the full deposit.

OP, if she gets in trouble (unlikely) then it's up to you whether to support her at that point but for now, at 21, she is old enough to make her own decisions and mistakes. It's good to be part of a supportive family but this sounds like an overly-enmeshed situation with irrational thoughts of karma and vicarious shame etc. You and your parents have told your sister what you think. That's enough. You do neither her nor yourself any favours by trying to rescue her "moral integrity" in this situation. You talk about being a parentified child so you are aware of this family dynamic - perhaps you could use this incident as a springboard to begin to liberate yourself from that role.

I agree with this. Plus it was your sister who did all the legwork to get the money back.

But she is an idiot for telling the other girl.

Why did she say anything? She should have just given back the £200 (half the £400) not that her friend really deserved it after the damage she had done.

It was abit unfair of her to steal the deposit then just give it to another friend, your sister didn’t even need it.

Id just stay out of it and block the girl on social media. Its not your problem.

You could reply to the housemate that this is the link https://www.gov.uk/make-court-claim-for-money if she wants to take your sister to small claims court. I really don’t think that the police will be interested as it’s all a bit “he said, she said” for them. I think they would say that it is a civil dispute.

I think about English comment, she was explaining her parents want to be involved but as they don't speak English cannot handle everything themselves and have involved OP into this matter.

I agree op should distance herself. But I also think that her sister and the said flatmate both are wrong in different ways.

The sister got £2400 back. It's confusing because of way the opening post was written referring to an irrelevant £400. It took 8 posts before the full information was given. OP now getting stroppy because people "can't read"

Nothing wrong with your English but the unilateral consensus is to block the friend and stay out of it because it is absolutely nothing to do with you.

If you don't want to do that then go and pay the friend back yourself, not sure what other advice you want people to give you. The conversation is just going round in circles over technicalities

Agree with Chocloca

Since your sister got the full deposit back. She should give half to the flatmate. Since she gave it away she should give her half to her. All you can do is tell her that you think she should give the half to the flatmate. Then stay out if it. Block the flatmate. Not your circus, not your monkeys. Stay out of it.

Yes I think we all read it the same. It's theft.
In position of the full facts it is ovious, but in the first post we did not have them.

@Huhy your post is perfectly clear and there’s nothing wrong with your English.I’m sorry the masses can’t read.

Your sister is absolutely in the wrong. However, she is an adult and there is nothing you can do to force her to give it back. I would probably have one strongly worded conversation with your sister telling her she should give the money back because it’s theft, and block the roommate.

The fact that the roommate was a slob, a drama queen, and a foreigner has nothing to do with this. Your sister did something illegal. She was then very stupid to rub it in her friend’s face.

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Sorry I just read Op's other posts. I posted after read her op and understood Ll only returned 400 which sister kept as there was no mention of 2400.

I agree it is a theft.

So all being well your sister should have had £600 back but actually lost some because of the flatmate - I’m with your sister here. The other girl would have received nothing anyway.

Block away and let her try and sue. Your sister has pictures as evidence. She deserves to keep the money on the basis of the cum towel alone.

Your sister got the deposit back, the other girl was happy to walk away with nothing. Especially as the place was left a state. What your sister has done wrong is taunt the other party. Block this girl and move on.

Oh FGS.

Your sister took the money, she will have to deal with any consequences that arise.

Tell the flatmate who keeps messaging you that you are not getting involved and it is their problem to sort out. Then ignore ALL messages.

Tell your parents to chill the fuck out. Your sister is not a child and she isn't your responsibility.

And tell yourself this isn't your problem and STAY OUT OF IT.

Job done.