I was friends with a woman who has 2 DC, a boy and a girl. I would frequently babysit both children alongside my own and we were very close
We fell out last year as my DD was supposed to stay at hers for the night but when I rang my DD to wish her goodnight she sounded really u comfortable so I went and got her but ex friend didnt want me to come to the house and met me half way, she said a mutual friend was watching her children whilst she brought me DD and I repeatedly asked her if she was telling the truth as I knew for a fact mutual friend would never go to her house
It turned out my friend had asked DD to lie to me about friends abusive boyfriend staying whilst my DD was there, she had taken DD out for a nice meal but told me she was eating pasta in the kitchen & she had told me DD was sleeping in friends old tshirt but she had actually gone and bought DD new pyjamas but not sent her home with them. She told my DD to say mutual friend was there instead of her boyfriend
When I asked her about all of the above she said she didnt get children to lie because of sexual abuse and at the time I thought it was really odd that she randomly mentioned sexual abuse. She denied getting my DD to lie and called my DD a liar until mutual friend confirmed they never went to my friends house to watch her children all she said about it was " I thought we'd moved past it"
There had been occasions in the past where I knew shed gotten her children to lie about things + she had lied about things but as they were minor things i just looked past it,
It has recently come out that my ex friend has accused another child of sexually assaulting her DS. At first it was that her son had pulled his pants down and said another child had showed him and now it has progressed to the other child has raped her child, other child is a girl. Children in question are 4 and 5
I used to frequently pick up her children from school and her DD would frequently wet herself at school and complain she was getting pains. Teacher mentioned it to me several times that she needed to see a doctor and I passed the message onto ex friend
The reason I didnt like her boyfriend was because the children would frequently tell me he was horrible to them, had locked them in the car for 2 hours ( ex friend and friends colleague confirmed this was true ) and that they didnt like him. Friend knew I didnt want him around my children. I had the children a lot because I knew ex friend was struggling and I'd rather have the kids at my house than them being with her boyfriend
Since she mentioned sexual abuse I've been worried about her children but I've never had any solid proof, I still dont now I suppose,
But none of this looks good does it? Her accusing another child of sexually assaulting her child has really rang alarm bells for me and I'm really wondering if she has only said that because shes trying to cover for her and her boyfriend, especially with Her mentioning sexual abuse when co fronted about asking my DD to lie to me.
It's a big accusation for me to say though isnt it?
What should I do? I feel horrible, not that I might have to make this accusation to a proffesional, but that I didnt say somthing sooner
What do you lot think? Should I speak to social services?