Any teachers out there with one-off childcare issues? Really need some advice please.

School doesn't have to let you leave for those appointments. Not a good idea as they could and do say no.

I've been in this situation before. I spoke to hr or slt. I think once was paid and one unpaid.

Temp nanny is the obvious answer. That's what they're there for.

I’d be asking other parents at nursery. Say that you are happy to return the favour over the summer.

Just read the OP's OP.

He was happy with the arrangement and now isn't.

Ask at the nursery. I think it's highly likely if you offer a great hourly rate that one of the staff would take her home to yours and look after her.

Why is everyone blaming her DH?

He agreed to the first two weeks. Presumably M/F for two weeks, not an early finish the week before.

i can see it's up to both of them to find a solution, but it's not 'on his time' or when he agreed. So why is it 'his problem' (alone)?

No they can go home at lunchtime. Everyone has a half day. I used to just go straight home towards the end as I hated the place!

It’s far from ideal but in a similar situation I phoned in sick. If you normally have good attendance and it’s one day, I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m HOF and really wouldn’t judge a member of team for doing this.
or you could have an emergency gp appointment or dental appointment that meant you have to leave early.

You could trade frees with colleagues
or
offer to pay for supply (which I once did in a similar situation as retired department members often came in. I felt better being truthful, the head understood and kindly arranged cover).

Your DH was designated childcare duties for the Friday afternoon - he has double booked so he needs to rearrange.

But now he has a new client, and it’s very important to him financially that he works on Friday.

What would this new client do if your dh already had an appointment with another client that day? Or if your dh were at a hospital appointment, or the funeral of a close relative?

Obviously I have no idea what your dh does, but, he has had his diary blocked out for that afternoon for a long time, so that should be respected, and he should work with the new client to find a time they are both free. that is generally how appointments work - you offer a time you can do, not a time you are already doing something else.

I'm a teacher (primary) with a young child of my own. In situations such as this I've taken parental leave. It's upaid but they can't refuse it if you are unable to find childcare.
Or could your husband take time off work to have her?

That is a really infantile answer. The OP's pupils deserve to have their teacher that day.

If it’s anything like the private schools I’ve worked in they’ll be having an end of term staff lunch for those leaving/retiring. It will not be compulsory and the staff may well prefer to take the little girl out for a picnic and a play in the park and earn £50.

But the staff will still be being paid to he end of the day.
If they choose to excuse themselves from saying farewell to colleague who are leaving, and probably the one opportunity in the year to relax with the whole staff, then they are actually still working and would need to go back into the rooms to work there, not nip off to a second job,

Are any students off school? That's my go-to. I also have about 3 parents of other kids at pre school who I would ask in a pinch. Good luck 👍

I can't see where you have answered this perfectly reasonable question (sorry if you have and I didnt see)

Why do YOU have to sort out when HE has gone back on the arrangement?

Can't your husband see the client on a different day? Or he collects her and takes her with him to see the client.

Don’t lie about being sick. It’s wrong.

Your husband needs to find a way to be absent from his work for the few hours. Presumably you could leave by 3:30.

I have seen it happen - the childminder was ill, so the mum put it to the school that she would have to take emergency dependant's leave, unless they were happy for her to bring her child in. She spent the day either in the department's team room if someone had a free, or colouring in mum's classroom.

It's more difficult in your situation as you've presumably known about this half-day for a while. I'm guessing the staff are having end-of-term farewells to leavers or similar, and so none of them are likely to be available for private babysitting.

Is there a parents' whatsapp or similar? You could ask whether anyone is able to help you out. Others may be in the same boat, or may be taking the day off and therefore freeing up a sibling's place with a childminder.

Do any of your colleagues have year 13/student offspring who might be able to help?

If you can find a solution but not near enough nursery to collect DD, maybe she misses the morning so you can drop her somewhere for the whole school day.

He agreed to it, so if he's going back on it it's his problem to fix!

My previous primary school did it occasionally for staff members, except we'd put the staff child in the appropriate aged year group. Was never an issue, only on the occasional training days that didn't align across schools.

You don't have a childcare problem, you have a DH problem.

Can DH work Friday morning, see client, then pick up at lunchtime?

Does she not have any friends at the same nursery whose parents could mind her for a few hours? I'd do it for someone in need.

What childcare do your friends use? Is it childminder? If yes could she go with them just for the day?

That's assuming you can't get a key worker to look after her which would be my first port of call.

It's your husband's problem to sort. He can find alternative care, reschedule the appointment or take the child to the appointment.