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To want to cry at my sister's washing?

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summeroccupation · 30/06/2024 20:08

She has three girls and is currently on holiday with them. I'm house sitting until next weekend and there's washing everywhere. I've filled four ikea bags and still have a pile that's filled the bath. I'm planning to get it washed and dried for her but I'm honestly looking at the pile and don't know where to start. She has a washer dryer and it's taking ages per load (no laundries around here, just forecourt washers that are like £10 a wash!)

No she hasn't asked me specifically to do it but she was complaining about the state of her house last week so I know she won't mind. She's been struggling with her MH lately and having it looming over her can't be helping! And she's starting a new full time job next week so if I leave it it'll never get done!

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Copperoliverbear · 30/06/2024 21:44

I go to the forecourt ones and do it all and dry it in the garden and then spend the rest of the time deep cleaning and anything that need throwing, throw it.

fiftyandfat · 30/06/2024 21:44

I wouldn't bother with the dryer function at all.
Sort and 2 to 3 loads per day.
Use the mixed load and fast spin.
Find as many coat hangers as you can and suitably ventilated places to hang things up. I have a lot of cheap wire hangers just for laundry, you can peg socks and underwear on them and hang them on a shower rail or curtain rail.
The weather is good, so it should be possible to get things dry by hanging them up on the airer and in doorways or anywhere you can, leave the windows open.
I don't think ironing is essential.
If using the heated airer throw a sheet or duvet cover over the top, it helps stuff dry faster.

DailyMailHater · 30/06/2024 21:43

@summeroccupation as someone who has struggled with MH can I just say what you are doing is amazing, getting things sorted for her before she starts a new job, will give her a chance to get to get into a
new routine with a clean slate……you are a star.

summeroccupation · 30/06/2024 21:42

PriOn1 · 30/06/2024 21:20

You’ve got a whole week, so as the mother of three children, I’d say pace yourself. Two loads each day and hang them. If you have good weather they should dry overnight, then you can sort and fold them before you hang the next loads.

Are you planning on ironing too?

She had a steamer that's brilliant and much quicker than ironing 😁

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Nazzywish · 30/06/2024 21:42

And definitely do the declutter with her whilst the clothes are clean and can be taken to a charity shop or sold on vinted etc. Toys too! Makes life much happier all around

Nazzywish · 30/06/2024 21:41

Thank god for sisters like you OP!

summeroccupation · 30/06/2024 21:40

Imbusytodaysorry · 30/06/2024 21:17

@summeroccupation
Does she have a washing line much easier and quicker to dry. ?
does she have clothes hangers to hang around t the house. ?
I must admit I swear by a heated clothes arier can you afford to purchase her one of those . Make both your lives easier .
very cheap to run . Pennies!

Yes, she has two big lines and a heated airer. Using all three atm 😁

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DedicatedCakeEater · 30/06/2024 21:37

It's lovely of you, but maybe offer to help her declutter, or it will happen again.

OCaledonia · 30/06/2024 21:36

PonkyPonky · 30/06/2024 21:15

Jeez I must be the dullest person on the planet because this all sounds so bloody exciting to me! I’d actually be in my element tackling all this and sorting it all out. The weather is on your side OP and you have plenty of time so don’t stress. You should be able to get 3 loads done and dried outside per day and maybe one load on the indoor clothes horse. Get all the dirty stuff piled high in one room, go round the house and double check you’ve got everything then just sort into smaller piles by colour and just work your way through it one load at a time. Once it’s clean and dry fold it all up into piles by person that they belong to.

I agree with you (not being the dullest, but the exciting bit) I love doing laundry and in fact I get paid to do so for one of my customers. And when they go on holiday I'm allowed to catch up on all the laundry and fold/rearrange the drawers. 😂

Shybutrude · 30/06/2024 21:32

@summeroccupation @katiemarnie is correct I've got the same washer (or a slightly older version) but still being aware of overloading it. The fast wash is literally for a few items so may not be the bast option .
The mixed load on mine is under and hour

ZoomDoomZoom · 30/06/2024 21:30

Eco on my Bosch is a longer wash, almost 3 hrs. I put on a load at teatime so it's ready to hang overnight. Then programme a delayed timed wash to finish at 8am next day to hang out another load before leaving for work.

NeedToChangeName · 30/06/2024 21:29

Sagarmatha · 30/06/2024 21:27

Eco would be shorter wouldn't it?

@Sagarmatha eco programmes tend to be longer, not shorter. They use less energy cos they heat up water slowly

LividLoved · 30/06/2024 21:28

DO NOT ECO ITS LIKE 14 HOURS

Youdontevengohere · 30/06/2024 21:28

Sagarmatha · 30/06/2024 21:27

Eco would be shorter wouldn't it?

My eco wash is the longest cycle! 3hr15m

Rosscameasdoody · 30/06/2024 21:28

OhBumBags · 30/06/2024 20:12

And if she's got 3 kids, there's a pretty high chance she's a Mumsnetter, so I would've just got on with it instead of starting a thread where she might recognise herself.

This. She has a MH problem. She hasn’t asked OP to do anything. So why post to strangers on the internet unless it’s for Kudos ?

LividLoved · 30/06/2024 21:28

I have this exact machine!

Bought it recently. Only have space for one machine, so I dry things for an hour and then hang on a pulley to finish off.

Follow PP’s advice about the wash cycle. Honestly I wouldn’t try to dry it all in the machine. I’d get a load of hangers and get it hanging round the house. Does she have a curtain on a pole that you can use to hang a load off hangers on or something?

Sagarmatha · 30/06/2024 21:27

summeroccupation · 30/06/2024 20:24

Washer pic.

I tried the fast 15 but nothing felt very clean so have gone for the mix which is the next shortest at 2 ish hours.

  • [Pic removed by MNHQ at OP's request]

Eco would be shorter wouldn't it?

NeedToChangeName · 30/06/2024 21:27

I'll go against the grain. I'm sure you mean well, but I think you risk overstepping the mark by doing laundry without checking in advance if your DSIS is OK with that

But, since you're doing it, you say she has a heated airer. They're pretty good at drying clothes overnight

And you can use timer on washing machine so it's ready to hang up first thing in the morning l. If dry and windy outside, it'll dry in a few hours

ZoomDoomZoom · 30/06/2024 21:27

Can you do a timed delayed wash overnight so the programme finishes at a set time in the morning? I put a wash to come on at 5am & finish at 8am so the laundry is ready to hang out before I leave for work.

Lotsofhealthybutshitontop · 30/06/2024 21:24

Awh I have 4 kids 7 and under and the washing is relentless . If I don’t put a wash on each day I fall behind. And it must be so hard to come back from
esp. if you are on your own.

this is such a lovely thing to do for her. Hopefully she can stay on top of things once it’s done. And how lovely for the girls to come back to clean bedding.

I think you’re a lovely person and what a nice thing to do for
your sister and her kids x

SuncreamAndIceCream · 30/06/2024 21:22

Well done OP for even trying!

The weather is good at least currently so hopefully some of it can be hung outside

That washer sounds like a nightmare to use though, no wonder she struggled to keep on top of it

Lifeomars · 30/06/2024 21:22

You are lovely, this means that when she comes back from her holiday she will still feel the benefit of having time away as she steps into a clean home and finds all that fresh laundry . It's not just the practical side of things, it is the way it shows that you care about her and her kids.

PriOn1 · 30/06/2024 21:20

You’ve got a whole week, so as the mother of three children, I’d say pace yourself. Two loads each day and hang them. If you have good weather they should dry overnight, then you can sort and fold them before you hang the next loads.

Are you planning on ironing too?

Moonshine5 · 30/06/2024 21:18

You sound lovely

Imbusytodaysorry · 30/06/2024 21:17

@summeroccupation
Does she have a washing line much easier and quicker to dry. ?
does she have clothes hangers to hang around t the house. ?
I must admit I swear by a heated clothes arier can you afford to purchase her one of those . Make both your lives easier .
very cheap to run . Pennies!