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Favour for a friend

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MyOhSaid · 30/06/2024 18:22

I have a friend, not super close but we share a hobby, see each other once a month on average.

She asked me recently if I could look after her dog for a couple of nights; she'd messed up some dates for boarding him and would have to cancel plans if I couldn't look after him. I said yes (her dog is easy to care for).

This was a couple of weeks ago - it was fine, dog was very happy, but I admit I am a bit surprised that she didn't offer anything like a bottle of wine, or chocs, or even a card to say thank you.

My DH thinks I'm unreasonable as you shouldn't expect anything from friends, that you do favours and that's that. It's not that I expected it, but in her place I would 100% have bought something to say thank you.

I feel a little differently about her now - just a bit used, but hopefully I'm being daft so please tell me if I am!

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Roundroundthegarden · 30/06/2024 18:55

bfsham · 30/06/2024 18:52

Rude
You've saved her at least £60

And the cost of her plans.
Yanbu she used you and took advantage of you. Horrible person, who does that.

bfsham · 30/06/2024 18:52

Rude
You've saved her at least £60

Sunnydiary · 30/06/2024 18:49

I look after my friends dog and she buys me flowers even if I just have him for the day!!!

Scousefab · 30/06/2024 18:48

me personally I would buy a gift! As you have helped her out of a situation. Personally make an excuse if she asks you again! Can’t stand people that aren’t grateful. Even a card would have sufficed

MyOhSaid · 30/06/2024 18:37

Short version - aibu feeling used after I did a favour for a friend!

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