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to be an equally shit neighbour?

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 17:48

In 2019 a new family moved in next door and immediately they started acting a problem. Then lockdown happened and it escalated. Big heavy basketballs thud constantly from morning till night, kids (6 of them) scream at each other (and I mean blood-curdling screams at times) they think it's fine to jump into my garden whenever they fancy. I had a word with the dad, his response was that other than them jumping in my garden, they're not breaking any laws so he wouldn't be telling the kids to quiet down. Fair enough, they're not.

So I've bought some Bluetooth speakers. Whenever they get too noisy, I play music in my garden which effectively drowns them out, and can only be really be heard from NDNs garden. The dad has this weekend asked me to keep it down.

AIBU to think that if they can have the 'fuck everyone else' attitude, then so can I?

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InsolentNoise · 30/06/2024 18:16

Turn it up louder.

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 18:14

SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:05

The adults are intentionally not telling them to keep noise at a reasonable level. I grew up youngest of 4, and also 2 cousins. We had a great childhood, but if we'd have made half this noise we'd have been told to shut up or come inside

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whats a resonable level? reasonable for who? you i guess!

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:05

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 17:58

hm.. his children are not intentionally making a noise to disturb you, this is what kids do and are entitled to do, you on the other hand are intentially making a noise to disturb them! Can i assume that this noise only goes on during normal hours and do not go on into the wee hours of the morning?

have you spoken to the council re the noise disturbance, do you have a noise diary? what about making contact with your locaL PCSO to see if there is some form of mediation available.

The adults are intentionally not telling them to keep noise at a reasonable level. I grew up youngest of 4, and also 2 cousins. We had a great childhood, but if we'd have made half this noise we'd have been told to shut up or come inside

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kitsuneghost · 30/06/2024 18:05

'I'm more of a living and live kind of person. I haven't made one complaint about your kids have I?'

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 17:58

hm.. his children are not intentionally making a noise to disturb you, this is what kids do and are entitled to do, you on the other hand are intentially making a noise to disturb them! Can i assume that this noise only goes on during normal hours and do not go on into the wee hours of the morning?

have you spoken to the council re the noise disturbance, do you have a noise diary? what about making contact with your locaL PCSO to see if there is some form of mediation available.

Mouswife · 30/06/2024 17:55

“I’m not breaking any laws mate, so no I won’t quieten down. You calm your kids, I’ll calm my music “
done

Theimpossiblegirl · 30/06/2024 17:55

Seems fair enough. Just be aware if you ever want to sell you don't want any disputes on record.

Singersong · 30/06/2024 17:53

My response would be something along the lines of-

"I use the speaker to drown out the excessive noise from your house. Stop giving me a need for it and both our problems will be gone."

MrOscar · 30/06/2024 17:52

Tell him you only play music when his noise disturbs you.

Sometimes fire with fire is the only language these sorts of people understand!

GrumpyInsomniac · 30/06/2024 17:52

”Hi neighbour, I completely understand you can’t control the noise your children make, so in the interest of good neighbourly relations I’m just making sure I don’t have to listen to them. If this bothers you, I’ll be more than happy to lower the volume when your kids do.”

Hoardasurass · 30/06/2024 17:50

Tell him you will when his kids do