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to be an equally shit neighbour?

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 17:48

In 2019 a new family moved in next door and immediately they started acting a problem. Then lockdown happened and it escalated. Big heavy basketballs thud constantly from morning till night, kids (6 of them) scream at each other (and I mean blood-curdling screams at times) they think it's fine to jump into my garden whenever they fancy. I had a word with the dad, his response was that other than them jumping in my garden, they're not breaking any laws so he wouldn't be telling the kids to quiet down. Fair enough, they're not.

So I've bought some Bluetooth speakers. Whenever they get too noisy, I play music in my garden which effectively drowns them out, and can only be really be heard from NDNs garden. The dad has this weekend asked me to keep it down.

AIBU to think that if they can have the 'fuck everyone else' attitude, then so can I?

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billysboy · 30/06/2024 19:09

tell him to fuck off and carry on with your music

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 19:07

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:04

Like a public play park or woodland. Not a residential area.

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Do people seriously not think that children should not be allowed to be children in their own home?

i am truely shocked, and dispair at society today..

The OP alledgedly plays music so loud into their neighbours garden, but it would appear they don't hear this music themselves?? to drown out the noise of the neighbours children.... how does the Op hear the neighbours children if they are making that much noise, yet they can't hear the music they are blasting over the fence??

I shall leave it here.. it doesnt make any sense

Roadaheadclear · 30/06/2024 19:07

My neighbour asked if we minded the basket ball sounds when we moved in. Reasonable people know it’s annoying! We ignore it as we have 2 DC so can also make ball and trampoline noise.

suburburban · 30/06/2024 19:07

How big is the house for 6 dc

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:05

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 19:03

Kids can be as loud as they want in suitable recreational spaces.

like their own home?

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Or would you fight for my right to party all day because its my own home

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:04

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 19:03

Kids can be as loud as they want in suitable recreational spaces.

like their own home?

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Like a public play park or woodland. Not a residential area.

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:04

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:51

You only need a one track playlist. And ideally something they won't object to on first hearing it. Maybe they're football fans, so Sweet Caroline. On repeat. For hours. And not loud enough to cause a noise nuisance, just loud enough to be a constant in the background. All day. Every day.

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A one track playlist with songs that are censored but entirely inappropriate for kids so they take them out. Perhaps something lovely about bitches and hoes woth a lovely catchy tune that they might repeat.

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 19:03

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:01

I validate OP.

I have children and tell them people sleep in the day so they can be awake to help up at night so the least we can do is be respectful because we wouldn't like it if those people were loud when we were sleeping.

Kids can be as loud as they want in suitable recreational spaces.

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Kids can be as loud as they want in suitable recreational spaces.

like their own home?

EatTheGnome · 30/06/2024 19:01

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I validate OP.

I have children and tell them people sleep in the day so they can be awake to help up at night so the least we can do is be respectful because we wouldn't like it if those people were loud when we were sleeping.

Kids can be as loud as they want in suitable recreational spaces.

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 19:00

LaPalmaLlama · 30/06/2024 18:59

Man in Finance. Unbelievably irritating ear worm with no artistic merit whatsoever.

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But it misses out on the true evil of being something they'll hear again and again in the future, triggering the negative associations...

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 19:00

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 18:14

whats a resonable level? reasonable for who? you i guess!

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I think you know the answer to that

But definitely below screaming level

LaPalmaLlama · 30/06/2024 18:59

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:51

You only need a one track playlist. And ideally something they won't object to on first hearing it. Maybe they're football fans, so Sweet Caroline. On repeat. For hours. And not loud enough to cause a noise nuisance, just loud enough to be a constant in the background. All day. Every day.

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Man in Finance. Unbelievably irritating ear worm with no artistic merit whatsoever.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 30/06/2024 18:56

Tremeloes - Silence Is Golden

TerrysNeapolitan · 30/06/2024 18:54

We have neighbours like this. Same - children scream like they are being dissected alive, parents don't stop shouting and banging, the Dad plays his music at the same level as The Ministry of Sound, they cannot even close their front door without causing the house to shake. We have fallen out with them over something else and they made up a story that I keep them up all night banging. Where they have got this from I do not know I am definitely not even up, what is laughable is the dates they claim this "all night banging" was - I wasn't even here. I can only guess it was the birds on the roof here at dawn that sometimes make a noise at certain times of year. They still do not believe it is not me. It is hell. Fuck them OP.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 30/06/2024 18:53

suburburban · 30/06/2024 18:52

Joe Dolce - ahh shut up er your face

Would be apt

What's the matter you
Gotta no respect

I was just going to suggest that! Maybe Chas n Dave's Rabbit?

ifIwerenotanandroid · 30/06/2024 18:52

MaggieFS · 30/06/2024 18:50

And then attach a string to them. And attach the end of the string to a pram rocker so they are chiming even when it's not windy.

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Ooh, that's evil!

suburburban · 30/06/2024 18:52

Joe Dolce - ahh shut up er your face

Would be apt

What's the matter you
Gotta no respect

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:51

SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:48

Yes! I need a playlist 😁😂😂

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You only need a one track playlist. And ideally something they won't object to on first hearing it. Maybe they're football fans, so Sweet Caroline. On repeat. For hours. And not loud enough to cause a noise nuisance, just loud enough to be a constant in the background. All day. Every day.

Tara336 · 30/06/2024 18:51

I have a neighbour who's garden is side on to my house with an alley way in between my kitchen window faces the alley way. I have to listen to a football thudding the fence constantly with the added whacks when it hits my kitchen window leaving muddy marks on it.

The thudding drives me mad but I've never said anything, however, I have when it's hit my window but it's got me nowhere unfortunately as apparently they have a right to use their garden and their little jonny is football mad. I've not once said don't play football I've just asked for some consideration as I don't want my kitchen window broken (reasonable request really).

They now seem to think that the security camera that I put up to protect the kitchen window from the break ins that have been happening in the area (next door neighbour had attempted breakin via kitchen) is about the football issue I'm actually past caring if they do think that.

Why can't people just be considerate of each other? Saying you want to be a good neighbour isn't the same as actually being one

MaggieFS · 30/06/2024 18:50

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:46

A dozen sets of cheap windchimes from Temu tactically placed along the fence line. Just remember to order some earplug for yourself.

And then attach a string to them. And attach the end of the string to a pram rocker so they are chiming even when it's not windy.

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:48

mountaingoatsarehairy · 30/06/2024 18:45

Yeah they deffo wouldn’t do it if you were a single male covered in tattoos.

keep going. In fact I’d move it up a level by playing songs like ‘oh so quiet’ etc by Bjork

Yes! I need a playlist 😁😂😂

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:47

DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:46

A dozen sets of cheap windchimes from Temu tactically placed along the fence line. Just remember to order some earplug for yourself.

I like this 😈😂

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:47

Ok, Becky 😄😄

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DogInATent · 30/06/2024 18:46

A dozen sets of cheap windchimes from Temu tactically placed along the fence line. Just remember to order some earplug for yourself.

Motnight · 30/06/2024 18:45

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Old and a Karen! You can't get any worse an insult than this. Casual sexism and ageism.