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to be an equally shit neighbour?

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SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 17:48

In 2019 a new family moved in next door and immediately they started acting a problem. Then lockdown happened and it escalated. Big heavy basketballs thud constantly from morning till night, kids (6 of them) scream at each other (and I mean blood-curdling screams at times) they think it's fine to jump into my garden whenever they fancy. I had a word with the dad, his response was that other than them jumping in my garden, they're not breaking any laws so he wouldn't be telling the kids to quiet down. Fair enough, they're not.

So I've bought some Bluetooth speakers. Whenever they get too noisy, I play music in my garden which effectively drowns them out, and can only be really be heard from NDNs garden. The dad has this weekend asked me to keep it down.

AIBU to think that if they can have the 'fuck everyone else' attitude, then so can I?

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rainfordays · 01/07/2024 21:19

YANBU OP, your neighbours need to realise that if noise bothers them, it also bothers you. They can be considerate and keep their own noise down, or they can put up with the noise from your speakers. The world does not revolve around them and what they want! You get back the respect you give, and since they are giving you zero respect...

Rockchicknana · 01/07/2024 21:08

SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:47

I like this 😈😂

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We did this to neighbours whose dog never stopped barking. Got up one morning to find they'd climbed over the fence in the night and cut them down!!

Hmm1234 · 01/07/2024 20:18

I’m in a similar situation with the thuds! I always worry when I’m ’getting Them back’ they will end up recording me and reporting to council/ environmental health. Then it backfires!?

venus7 · 01/07/2024 19:28

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 17:37

This is the most pathetic thing I've read on hear for a while. You aren't even funny, it's just sad.

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You appear to misunderstand sarcasm. It may be the lowest form of wit (according to the great Oscar Wilde) but it IS witty.

suburburban · 01/07/2024 19:27

PotatoLove · 01/07/2024 18:36

Keep on playing your music, may I suggest "Shuddup Ah Ya Face" by Joe Dolce 😈😈

Yes, my suggestion earlier in the threadSmile

Very apt

Or world shut your mouth - Julian Cope

Runnerinthenight · 01/07/2024 19:26

Jeannie88 · 01/07/2024 19:20

As others have said, you're playing it loud to drown out their noise. Also, I can never understand the families who spend all day every day at home and let their DC loose to just screech all day in the garden or inside, the type who never take them out ever. I'm sure most of us take our kids places, visit family and friends etc but some just don't seem to move outside of their home. I don't know many people like this but do through neighbours of friends who complain about the same thing. They just play on x box or in garden all weekend, every weekend, evenings, school holidays. X

They won't because they've had flippin' six!!! Imagine the stress and expense of taking that lot anywhere, with no manners either!

Runnerinthenight · 01/07/2024 19:24

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 17:37

This is the most pathetic thing I've read on hear for a while. You aren't even funny, it's just sad.

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Who pissed in your cornflakes?

venus7 · 01/07/2024 19:22

beckybarefoot · 30/06/2024 17:58

hm.. his children are not intentionally making a noise to disturb you, this is what kids do and are entitled to do, you on the other hand are intentially making a noise to disturb them! Can i assume that this noise only goes on during normal hours and do not go on into the wee hours of the morning?

have you spoken to the council re the noise disturbance, do you have a noise diary? what about making contact with your locaL PCSO to see if there is some form of mediation available.

The children's behaviour is not being moderated by the parents. The parents are responsible for the noise their children.....six? Good grief!........make.

Runnerinthenight · 01/07/2024 19:22

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 15:58

You both sound petty tbh

Scintillating contribution....🙄

Jeannie88 · 01/07/2024 19:20

As others have said, you're playing it loud to drown out their noise. Also, I can never understand the families who spend all day every day at home and let their DC loose to just screech all day in the garden or inside, the type who never take them out ever. I'm sure most of us take our kids places, visit family and friends etc but some just don't seem to move outside of their home. I don't know many people like this but do through neighbours of friends who complain about the same thing. They just play on x box or in garden all weekend, every weekend, evenings, school holidays. X

Runnerinthenight · 01/07/2024 19:19

NothingVenturedAndAllThat · 01/07/2024 11:45

Because they're playing basketball. They're not robbing dust caps and bricking windows. They're kids.

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I don't care what they are. No decent parent allows their children to be a nuisance and disturbance to the neighbours, Basketball can be played without screaming.

I'm sure you are a joy as a neighbour.

ShesRunningOutTheDoor · 01/07/2024 19:08

Also I’ve spoken to the police about said neighbours harassing my children out of their garden and they are totally on my side and have offered for me to press charges. I haven’t, cause I’m not a twat unlike my neighbour who is a twat.

ShesRunningOutTheDoor · 01/07/2024 19:04

I have two boys who enjoy using their garden to play football from time to time. They don’t scream, but they do chat to each other in the garden (how very dare they). My twat of a neighbour plays loud music via a speaker sited in her garden to punish my children for enjoying their childhood. The music is awful and is turned up loud. I think she’s a total c&£t. Hth.

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SkyeB86 · 01/07/2024 19:01

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 17:37

This is the most pathetic thing I've read on hear for a while. You aren't even funny, it's just sad.

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Some of you are very easily wound up, considering no insults came from me... Maybe find something to control thine temper, or do I need to call the grumpy police? 👀

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MelainesLaugh · 01/07/2024 18:58

Sod decent music I’d be playing “My Heart Will Go On” on repeat!

WearyAuldWumman · 01/07/2024 18:57

PotatoLove · 01/07/2024 18:36

Keep on playing your music, may I suggest "Shuddup Ah Ya Face" by Joe Dolce 😈😈

Oh great! Now I've got an earworm!

has a thought

I have a piano accordion...I could come down and serenade the neighbours from the back garden.

I can't sing for toffee, but my dad always told me that I was good, so....

PotatoLove · 01/07/2024 18:37

Also, windchimes are a wonderful idea 😌👌

PotatoLove · 01/07/2024 18:36

Keep on playing your music, may I suggest "Shuddup Ah Ya Face" by Joe Dolce 😈😈

Hodnett32 · 01/07/2024 18:08

SkyeB86 · 30/06/2024 18:41

Good point. Although I've got endless footage from my cameras of them coming into my garden, which I think I could report to the police for repeated trespassing. Oh and damage, when one of the teenage lads decided to take a penknife to my fence. They know it's only me and my daughter here, I do wonder if they'd have done the same if I had a big burly bloke here!

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I'd be planting something prickly along that fence line.

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 17:37

SkyeB86 · 01/07/2024 17:07

Thank you again for your message. I apologise unreservedly that my sarcasm wasn't appreciated. Noted that neighbours who barely know me must hate my sarcasm via the boundaries. Making notes 📝 😄

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This is the most pathetic thing I've read on hear for a while. You aren't even funny, it's just sad.

JudgeJ · 01/07/2024 17:29

GrumpyPanda · 01/07/2024 00:50

@Abigorange @MessyHouseHappyHouse
Classical music is a good recommendation but to drive the neighbours utterly crazy I'd vote for avant-garde. Had some sterling success in the past using Meredith Monk's vocal arrangements in similar circumstances.

Gregorian Chants and then go out for the day, leaving them chanting.

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SkyeB86 · 01/07/2024 17:08

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Withdrawn at OP's request.

I actually saw a video once of a guy that made a device, that recorded neighbour's noise, and as soon as they reached a certain volume it would play it back to them through the walls, amplified 😂😂

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SkyeB86 · 01/07/2024 17:07

Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 16:37

No wonder your neighbours hate you. You have come across very sarcastic and rude in this thread

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Thank you again for your message. I apologise unreservedly that my sarcasm wasn't appreciated. Noted that neighbours who barely know me must hate my sarcasm via the boundaries. Making notes 📝 😄

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HeapsOfStuff · 01/07/2024 16:44

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Greenlittecat · 01/07/2024 16:37

SkyeB86 · 01/07/2024 16:29

And you sound so helpful ☺️ thank you for the really useful and helpful comment, I cant express just how much this will help me 😀

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No wonder your neighbours hate you. You have come across very sarcastic and rude in this thread

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