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The post person entered my house.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:12

I've just seen it on my Ring doorbell.

17yr old DD had left the door unlocked for her friend so she didn't have to come down to let them in. Not uncommon.

Post arrived, including a parcel, during this time. When no one answered the door, the post person tried the handle, opened up the door and came into my home.

Granted, DD shouldn't have left the door unlocked, but it doesn't make what the post person did ok.

Just me who thinks it was completely unreasonable for them to have even tried the handle?!

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worriedconfused · 30/06/2024 18:55

trextape · 30/06/2024 18:51

not the basis of a bit of red t shirt!

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If a post person entered someone’s house; uninvited, and left a parcel.. it’s breaching all kinds of policies and would 1000% be investigated as gross misconduct.

Ive not read the whole thread so apologies if I’ve missed an update

AgentProvocateur · 30/06/2024 18:54

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:42

You don't HAVE to open a door just because someone asks you to

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Normal people look and see who’s at the door, and would open it if it’s the postman.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 18:54

worriedconfused · 30/06/2024 18:49

I work for RM, you’d be surprised… but you’re right, it would be GM and likely dismissal.

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I'm not going to put someone out of a job. The footage is clear as to what they've done though.

On this basis, RM clearly think IANBU. That's enough for me.

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theDudesmummy · 30/06/2024 18:52

I live in rural Ireland. The postie does this nearly every day. Both our front door and back door are hardly ever locked in the day time, whether we are here or not. When we are on holiday we do lock the doors but not the garage, so he puts everything in the garage. (I used to live in central London where obviously you could never do this, I so appreciate the different way of life!).

Jem57 · 30/06/2024 18:52

No words really

trextape · 30/06/2024 18:51

worriedconfused · 30/06/2024 18:49

I work for RM, you’d be surprised… but you’re right, it would be GM and likely dismissal.

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not the basis of a bit of red t shirt!

NotAgain1963 · 30/06/2024 18:49

What is with people who see an open or unlocked door and think it's OK just to walk in?! A couple of years ago,I had my front door re-painted,so I had to leave it open for 4 hours for the top coat to dry. I live on the second floor of a block of flats,so I didn't see it as issue. I was sitting on my bed looking at my phone when I heard someone coming up the stairs. I assumed it was one of my neighbours. The next thing I knew a man's voice called out 'Hello?' . I went into the hallway to be greeted by a man I'd never seen before standing INSIDE my front door,and a woman standing behind him outside. They were JW. I said a few choice words to them about just walking in and said I hope you didn't touch the front door? They seemed rather put out! Bloody cheek.

worriedconfused · 30/06/2024 18:49

Ifyouhavetoask99 · 30/06/2024 16:16

Trying the handle (and there’s a ring camera), instant loss of job. I’m not sure i believe this sorry!

I work for RM, you’d be surprised… but you’re right, it would be GM and likely dismissal.

Magnastorm · 30/06/2024 18:48

Americano75 · 30/06/2024 18:05

No, sorry I don't think this is OK. You don't enter anyone's house without being asked.

Are you a vampire?

Just asking.

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:48

diddl · 30/06/2024 18:47

Ah very good.

Without using a key.

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Yes. The door is still locked.

diddl · 30/06/2024 18:47

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:40

I should hope you can.

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Ah very good.

Without using a key.

Trinity65 · 30/06/2024 18:47

Post Person !

YABU

Threeboysadogacatandakitten · 30/06/2024 18:45

That’s quite normal here. I’ve only started locking the front door these last few weeks as my indoor cats now have the run of the house and I’m worried they will escape if anyone opens the door. We have put a bin out with a note to put parcels in there.

Hankunamatata · 30/06/2024 18:43

Did they actually enter your house? Or open the door, put parcel in and close the door whole standing on doorstep?

Wontletmeusemynormalname · 30/06/2024 18:42

Our safe location is the workshop to the side of the house which has £1000s worth of tools. Every single parcel is left in the porch. I don't have a neighbour so I'm thankful.

The only one that actually rings the bell is a new evri driver because he has a dog phobia, if the dog is in the garden he will call us from the van. If we're not around we just tell him to drop it at the front gate (and remind him to close it)

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:40

diddl · 30/06/2024 18:38

Well not exactly as I can open it from the inside.

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I should hope you can.

diddl · 30/06/2024 18:39

Grammarnut · 30/06/2024 18:35

Would you rather he'd left the parcel outside or taken it back to the depot and left you a re-delivery card? He was being helpful. Say thanks next time you see him. He did not come into the house ffs.

I expect Op would rather he had left it in the place requested it be left when no one answers the door.

diddl · 30/06/2024 18:38

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:30

So, yes.

A door that can't be opened without a key is locked.

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Well not exactly as I can open it from the inside.

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:35

DerekFaker · 30/06/2024 18:31

Because I don't see the need. What do you think is going to happen?

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Probably nothing. But possibly someone coming in and stealing something.

It only has to happen once.

Why risk it?

Grammarnut · 30/06/2024 18:35

Would you rather he'd left the parcel outside or taken it back to the depot and left you a re-delivery card? He was being helpful. Say thanks next time you see him. He did not come into the house ffs.

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fieldsofbutterflies · 30/06/2024 18:35

DerekFaker · 30/06/2024 18:31

Because I don't see the need. What do you think is going to happen?

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What happened to my parents - two men entered their home while they were upstairs, stole mum's handbag, all her bank cards and the car keys, plus the car off the drive.

This was in a safe, chocolate box town in Cumbria, so hardly a crime hotspot.

Mrsknowitall · 30/06/2024 18:35

I’m baffled at the responses on here and the amount of people that wouldn’t mind them just walking into their home, say the op daughter had been in the shower so didn’t hear the door and came down just wrapped in a towel just as he was coming in! I’m with you op i would be fuming too and tbh i would put a complaint in, i would rather a trip to the depot them have a stranger walk in my home.

DerekFaker · 30/06/2024 18:31

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 18:23

Yes. Of course. Why wouldn't you?

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Because I don't see the need. What do you think is going to happen?

VeryStressedMum · 30/06/2024 18:30

A delivery driver tried our door but it was locked. I had never had that before so I was surprised.
Would I mind? Not really if they just left the package I probably wouldn't care that much but I have two dogs that are in the house and when one hears the deliveries he goes nuts he does not like people knocking and it's dangerous for him and the delivery person (he is a small dog).
So no I would not be happy