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The post person entered my house.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:12

I've just seen it on my Ring doorbell.

17yr old DD had left the door unlocked for her friend so she didn't have to come down to let them in. Not uncommon.

Post arrived, including a parcel, during this time. When no one answered the door, the post person tried the handle, opened up the door and came into my home.

Granted, DD shouldn't have left the door unlocked, but it doesn't make what the post person did ok.

Just me who thinks it was completely unreasonable for them to have even tried the handle?!

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Arlanymor · 30/06/2024 16:50

Depends on your relationship with your postie. Where my parents used to live they knew her by name and she would always try the door if they were out, pop the parcel inside the door and give the cat (guard cat!) a stroke - in fact she and my mum are still friends on Facebook and they moved two years ago! In the new place they have a porch, leave that open with a note to drop stuff inside, they don’t even ring the bell now. I honestly think your postie was trying to do you a favour, but if you don’t like it then have a word.

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:49

i’d wager your dd left the door open / ajar OP

iamtheblcksheep · 30/06/2024 16:49

You lost any sympathy I may of had for you at postperson. FFS. It’s clearly a man, even from his arm. Say man for the love of god.

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:48

in interested why this happened yesterday afternoon

and for some reason you’re checking footage now?

bipbopdo · 30/06/2024 16:48

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:44

Really? People like to steal stuff while people are in the upstairs of the house or watching TV or whatever.

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Genuinely. Sometimes we even leave the front door(s) fully open on hot days to get a cross breeze. The chances of something bad happening are so much less than things being totally fine. I’m very relaxed about it

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:48

Wontletmeusemynormalname · 30/06/2024 16:46

So did he actually come in or just open the door and put the parcel down, this mass hysteria is laughable.

op doesn’t want to answer

Wontletmeusemynormalname · 30/06/2024 16:46

So did he actually come in or just open the door and put the parcel down, this mass hysteria is laughable.

IncompleteSenten · 30/06/2024 16:46

No you are not unreasonable to not expect someone to just open your door and walk into your home.

Sometimes I think Jesus could post on here and he'd be told he was unreasonable to only provide loaves and fishes and entitled to expect people to be respectful in a temple. 🤣

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:46

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:43

No I think the appearance of a parcel inside the house would.

And presumably the rest of the footage

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Who's ring doorbell shows inside their house?

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magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:44

bipbopdo · 30/06/2024 16:42

I mean, we lock it when we go out. I don’t see the problem with leaving the doors unlocked when we’re home unless we’re asleep. Never had an issue yet. They always call out to say they’ve left the parcel there

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Really? People like to steal stuff while people are in the upstairs of the house or watching TV or whatever.

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:43

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:42

that is a still picture of a corner of a red t shirt and outside the property

you think that proves a postman entered the property

quite the imagination!

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No I think the appearance of a parcel inside the house would.

And presumably the rest of the footage

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:43

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:42

that is a still picture of a corner of a red t shirt and outside the property

you think that proves a postman entered the property

quite the imagination!

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If I'd posted a picture of no one, I'd be accused of a picture showing nothing 🤣

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bipbopdo · 30/06/2024 16:42

MasterBeth · 30/06/2024 16:36

Yes, OK, but WHY WOULD YOU LEAVE BOTH YOUR DOORS UNLOCKED WHEN ANYONE COULD JUST COME INTO YOUR HOUSE?

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I mean, we lock it when we go out. I don’t see the problem with leaving the doors unlocked when we’re home unless we’re asleep. Never had an issue yet. They always call out to say they’ve left the parcel there

AbraAbraCadabra · 30/06/2024 16:42

I would much rather they left the parcel inside than outside which is where most of my parcels are dumped. Just dumped on the doorstep for anyone to take.

If all the postie did (and wtf is a post person?!?) was pop the parcel in, I'm not sure why you are annoyed. If they came in, used the loo and made themselves a cup of tea which they drank with their feet up on your coffee table while watching countdown, I'd understand your annoyance. Take a chill pill. They did you a favour.

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:42

AgentProvocateur · 30/06/2024 16:41

If he rang the bell, why did your daughter not answer the door? Anyway, I’d be grateful to not have to collect my parcel from the sorting office, which is a drive away. No harm done. S/He didn’t go through your knicker drawer.

You don't HAVE to open a door just because someone asks you to

fieldsofbutterflies · 30/06/2024 16:42

Globules · 30/06/2024 16:35

I don't have a porch.

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Okay...if your door was open, why shouldn't he put the parcel in your house?

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:42

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:40

What do you think the red shirt is? Why would the ring DOOR bell not be placed by a DOOR

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that is a still picture of a corner of a red t shirt and outside the property

you think that proves a postman entered the property

quite the imagination!

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:42

I wouldn't be worried about burglary just car key theft and weird stabby men

AgentProvocateur · 30/06/2024 16:41

If he rang the bell, why did your daughter not answer the door? Anyway, I’d be grateful to not have to collect my parcel from the sorting office, which is a drive away. No harm done. S/He didn’t go through your knicker drawer.

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:41

tinkertailorsoldierpie · 30/06/2024 16:41

As an ex postal worker, 'in this day and age', yeah, notes on the door can be useful. It let us know if someone was disabled and slow to attend the door, if babies were sleeping, or if someone was on nights. So it's also helpful to us (as we don't want to be lugging your parcel around or making a second attempt delivery the next day!) if you can direct us towards a safe space of your choosing. For some people, this is by leaving the door to a porch, or somewhere else indoors and dry, open. Your postie tried to do you a solid favour here, and yes, I understand that maybe they shouldn't have done it, but they were probably thinking they were helping you out. It's not like they came inside and took their lunch break on your couch is it?

For future reference, you can download the Royal Mail app, if writing on a bit of paper is beyond you or considered old fashioned. There is an option on it to assign a designated safe space, in which you can put 'Shed' or 'Garage'. It comes up on the handheld device we use to scan your packages, so there's no chance of the postie missing it as it basically takes up the entire screen and you have to click on it to make it go away.

Or, if you wish to be more direct, speak to your postman. Tell them where you want any parcels to be left and that will be the end of it, but my recommendation is to get the app to save yourself any further trouble (and I say that as an ex-RM worker, not trying to promote it but it's really quite useful).

Shes told them the shed is the safe place

tinkertailorsoldierpie · 30/06/2024 16:41

As an ex postal worker, 'in this day and age', yeah, notes on the door can be useful. It let us know if someone was disabled and slow to attend the door, if babies were sleeping, or if someone was on nights. So it's also helpful to us (as we don't want to be lugging your parcel around or making a second attempt delivery the next day!) if you can direct us towards a safe space of your choosing. For some people, this is by leaving the door to a porch, or somewhere else indoors and dry, open. Your postie tried to do you a solid favour here, and yes, I understand that maybe they shouldn't have done it, but they were probably thinking they were helping you out. It's not like they came inside and took their lunch break on your couch is it?

For future reference, you can download the Royal Mail app, if writing on a bit of paper is beyond you or considered old fashioned. There is an option on it to assign a designated safe space, in which you can put 'Shed' or 'Garage'. It comes up on the handheld device we use to scan your packages, so there's no chance of the postie missing it as it basically takes up the entire screen and you have to click on it to make it go away.

Or, if you wish to be more direct, speak to your postman. Tell them where you want any parcels to be left and that will be the end of it, but my recommendation is to get the app to save yourself any further trouble (and I say that as an ex-RM worker, not trying to promote it but it's really quite useful).

magnoliablooms · 30/06/2024 16:40

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:39

the corner of a red shirt!

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What do you think the red shirt is? Why would the ring DOOR bell not be placed by a DOOR

CosFuckThatGuy · 30/06/2024 16:40

Do you honestly care? What did he do, take a handful of steps inside your doorway?

The things that people waste their mental energy on blows my mind.

He delivered something you wanted. You got it safely. End of bloody story.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:40

trextape · 30/06/2024 16:37

the shed is by your front door?

or in your back garden?

The shed is outside my front door.

Crazy, but true.

The picture shows the post person at the point of them opening and walking through my front door.

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trextape · 30/06/2024 16:40

oh and outside the front door
whsat the hell does that demonstrate! 😆