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The post person entered my house.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 16:12

I've just seen it on my Ring doorbell.

17yr old DD had left the door unlocked for her friend so she didn't have to come down to let them in. Not uncommon.

Post arrived, including a parcel, during this time. When no one answered the door, the post person tried the handle, opened up the door and came into my home.

Granted, DD shouldn't have left the door unlocked, but it doesn't make what the post person did ok.

Just me who thinks it was completely unreasonable for them to have even tried the handle?!

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Globules · 30/06/2024 17:18

tinkertailorsoldierpie · 30/06/2024 17:15

It really does help. We don't enjoy disturbing people, but it was such a relief to see a note on a door. We had customers who left their windows open so we could drop them through there and everything. I had swollen knuckles on my right hand from knocking on doors hard enough for people to hear, so the relief was physical as well! I think people don't realise how much they carry, and like I said in my last post, we want to clear the round. We WANT to get your mail to you.

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I'm not disputing that at all.

Just leave it in my shed like I've asked please.

You said yourself that a big notice comes up on the reader.

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Kassalah · 30/06/2024 17:17

They may have thought it was a porch.

trextape · 30/06/2024 17:17

17yr old DD had left the door unlocked for her friend so she didn't have to come down to let them in.

how big is your house?! how many staircases would she had had to navigate?!

Megifer · 30/06/2024 17:17

Globules · 30/06/2024 17:11

I don't think it is important. They shouldn't have let themselves in my home. Full stop.

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Agree op. Might be worth flagging it up with your local sorting office? I wouldn't give any info that might get the guy in trouble, but a heads up that their people are putting themselves at potential risk maybe?

Magnastorm · 30/06/2024 17:17

Globules · 30/06/2024 17:11

I don't think it is important. They shouldn't have let themselves in my home. Full stop.

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Well, it is though, because fairly obviously there is a huge difference between someone just cracking the door a wee bit to put some post inside and someone going into your fridge and helping themselves to your leftover pizza.

Just keep your door locked if it really bothers you. Don't be the twat who complains about a postie just trying to keep your parcels out of the rain/ out of sight or having to give you a "we missed you" card.

Arlanymor · 30/06/2024 17:17

Globules · 30/06/2024 17:16

Both are uninvited scenarios.

A no different to B.

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Uninvited, but one is genuinely helpful and one is invasive.

Snowpatrolling · 30/06/2024 17:16

Christ I used to leave the back door open for the Hermes man! I miss him!
new postie knows my back door is open if I’m in, he knows I’m hard of hearing, he puts it on my table! 🤷‍♀️

bipbopdo · 30/06/2024 17:16

Globules · 30/06/2024 17:12

I'm not going to complain, as a relative worked for RM for years. Hence being trained to use post person.

There is never a reason to try to open someone's front door unless you think a person inside is in desperate medical need imo. Doesn't matter if they walked in, dropped it in or made themselves lunch. They shouldn't invite themselves into my property without my prior permission.

Especially when the shed right next to them is set up as the safe place to leave parcels.

DD is aware that she can't leave the door open for her friend again. Which makes me really sad, but it's the outcome of yesterday.

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Did he actually walk in though? It’s quite different to just open the door to quickly drop something inside and fully walking into the house.

If it bothers you so much then just lock your doors. I’m sure he thought he was doing you a favour

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Globules · 30/06/2024 17:16

Arlanymor · 30/06/2024 17:14

Well it is, it’s:

a) They opened the door, put my parcel inside and closed the door. Saving me a trip to the collection office.
b) They opened the door, had a mooch around my hallway, picked up my posh glass paperweight from Libertys, put their head around the lounge door and fondled my Axeminster, left the parcel and departed.

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Both are uninvited scenarios.

A no different to B.

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tinkertailorsoldierpie · 30/06/2024 17:15

Ihopeithinkiknow · 30/06/2024 17:08

I tape a note to the front door telling them to leave any packages in the outhouse or just chuck it in the hallway lol even when I'm in the house lol I imagine that in this day in age knocking on peoples doors with constant packages is a pain in the arse so I try to make it easier all round

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It really does help. We don't enjoy disturbing people, but it was such a relief to see a note on a door. We had customers who left their windows open so we could drop them through there and everything. I had swollen knuckles on my right hand from knocking on doors hard enough for people to hear, so the relief was physical as well! I think people don't realise how much they carry, and like I said in my last post, we want to clear the round. We WANT to get your mail to you.

NightOwlEarlyBird · 30/06/2024 17:15

So since you're saying it's not important what the postie did, I assume that means they just put the parcel inside and then left?

NigelHarmansNewWife · 30/06/2024 17:15

I'm concerned about your daughter's personal safety. Anyone could let themselves in. I'm willing to bet she found the parcel and hadn't heard him ring the doorbell, which led you to review the footage.

trextape · 30/06/2024 17:15

I don't think it is important. oh op

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SparkyBlue · 30/06/2024 17:14

This reminds me of a neighbour of my mother's who complained that her post on one occasion got wet. It was during a period of miserable torrential rain. The postman in question is an absolute gent and has done that route for years and maybe he accidentally dropped the letter or whatever and the rest of the neighbours who normally love a bit of drama or gossip were actually disgusted with her complaining him and all told her so.

Arlanymor · 30/06/2024 17:14

Globules · 30/06/2024 17:11

I don't think it is important. They shouldn't have let themselves in my home. Full stop.

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Well it is, it’s:

a) They opened the door, put my parcel inside and closed the door. Saving me a trip to the collection office.
b) They opened the door, had a mooch around my hallway, picked up my posh glass paperweight from Libertys, put their head around the lounge door and fondled my Axeminster, left the parcel and departed.

trextape · 30/06/2024 17:14

trextape · 30/06/2024 17:06

what made you check this more than a day later op?

why keen to avoid answering?

tuvamoodyson · 30/06/2024 17:14

So, if you’re so sure you’re not being unreasonable, what exactly is your AIBU?

fleabites · 30/06/2024 17:14

Where did they go inside your home? How long were they in there?
Or did they simply open the door and put the parcel inside and then leave?

Make sure you and everyone who lives in your home locks the door at all times if you don't want people opening the door and going inside.

Geordie01 · 30/06/2024 17:13

OhcantthInkofaname · 30/06/2024 17:10

This is important and I haven't seen the answer here: But what did he do after he entered your home?

Well she’s making it like he made a cup of tea, raided her fridge, had a shit in her sink and kicked the cat. Your guess is as good as anybody’s 😂

JaneJeffer · 30/06/2024 17:13

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Globules · 30/06/2024 17:12

tinkertailorsoldierpie · 30/06/2024 16:53

I know you're just being silly, but don't give OP ideas like this. I had colleagues struck off due to minor complaints like this, long term workers who were just trying their best for their customers.

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I'm not going to complain, as a relative worked for RM for years. Hence being trained to use post person.

There is never a reason to try to open someone's front door unless you think a person inside is in desperate medical need imo. Doesn't matter if they walked in, dropped it in or made themselves lunch. They shouldn't invite themselves into my property without my prior permission.

Especially when the shed right next to them is set up as the safe place to leave parcels.

DD is aware that she can't leave the door open for her friend again. Which makes me really sad, but it's the outcome of yesterday.

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Globules · 30/06/2024 17:11

OhcantthInkofaname · 30/06/2024 17:10

This is important and I haven't seen the answer here: But what did he do after he entered your home?

I don't think it is important. They shouldn't have let themselves in my home. Full stop.

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OhcantthInkofaname · 30/06/2024 17:10

This is important and I haven't seen the answer here: But what did he do after he entered your home?

Lilacapples · 30/06/2024 17:09

Of course you aren’t being unreasonable. Boggles the mind that anyone thinks this is ok ! .

Megifer · 30/06/2024 17:09

Yanbu posties who do this could open themselves up to all sorts of accusations.

I've genuinely never come across this round here, though I've said before they probably know they risk getting a smack in the mouth or someones grumpy "I hate strangers" dog charging at them 🤣

Ime the 'rule' is if you know the person you'll know if they wouldn't mind. If you don't know them then don't risk it. Some people don't like strangers just opening their door.