I have NC for this as if linked to my previous threads could be outing. I manage a team at work who mostly seem to get on well together on a professional level. One person, I will call her Jill, has recently put her notice in and is starting a new job elsewhere in August. She has said for her leaving do she would like to go on a boat trip down the River Thames in London ending up with drinks and a meal somewhere, Greenwich probably. This will take place after office hours. People have been enthusiastic about the idea as Jill is very popular, are keen to attend and to give her a good send off. That is except for one member of staff I will call Kate. Kate does not like water or boats and has said she will not attend the leaving party as planned. I have suggested to Kate that she meets us at the chosen venue in Greenwich and can be part of the leaving event from that point onwards. This does not suit Kate at all. She wants the party to be held starting with an open top bus tour and then ending with drinks and a meal. I have reminded her that it is Jill’s leaving party, so she decides where and how the event is held. Kate says Jill and the rest of the staff are excluding her by making the decision to have a water and boat-based party and that this is discrimination against her. My feeling is as the party is out of office hours and is Jill’s event, she should be allowed to do what she wants. AIBU?