When do you expect your children to move out?

My 30yr old and my 29yr old niece still living at home. Niece says she is never moving out, even though she’s got a boyfriend of 5yrs, they seem happy both living at home. Niece likes to spend her money on clothes and nights out and know she can’t do this if has own place. Lives in a cheap area too, so it’s not impossible for them to have their own places, but neither seem in a hurry

No, never moved out and I don’t think they ever will. She’s 71 and still does the cooking, cleaning and washing most days, they do some of the shopping and cook the odd meal but she does most of it. She still pays for the takeaways on the weekend, DH goes mad at them

The most depressing thing about this is the number of parents who think their children's goal in their 20s should be to save up a deposite for a house. So they stay at their parental home through their 20s and into their 30s saving up. Dynamics of a family home and the parent child learned roles stay the same and the children sacrifice their 20s and 30s to meet some weird goal of being able to spend all their didposable income on a mortgage and house repairs until they are 60, whilst the parents think they are being supportive, but actually just perpepuating a dependency.
They need to leave home, rent, share, move to cheaper areas, travel, find out what they like and don't like in their 20s and 30s, not live with their mammy and daddy to save to buy a house.
And adult children can be completely independent in their 20s if they want to be, even in lower paid jobs, but it means a lower general standard of housing and disposable income than being at home. But that's the reality.

As long as everyone is happy with the situation, it’s fine. The important thing is to realize that when you’re an adult, your parents don’t “have” to provide housing for you and if they do, you need to be respectful of their space and house rules.

Plus, circumstances change so no adult should assume that their parent will be able to house them indefinitely.

I do mean it. They’re wonderful kids. I know they will leave eventually but if they want to stay they’re welcome.

Honestly, I would expect them both to move out after Uni and both to go “away” to Uni, possibly even overseas. Neither are really home birds and honestly, my view is that your twenties should be for doing stuff you don’t want your parents to k ow about. You’ve got the rest of your life to have clean pants and a mortgage.

Ds is almost 23 has two years left of University working on his masters. I’m assuming he’ll get a good job where he can support himself within a year of his masters; so about 26. However if he wants to save for a house down payment that would be fine…so I’m thinking by 28 or so?

I moved out at 25 and tbh I loved living home in my 20s! Most of my friends did too.

The relationship and bond I had with my mam was wonderful (my dad worked away) and meant I could go to a local uni.

At 25 I moved to the city I was born in and when I had my youngest my parents moved up too.

I'm so pleased they did as we lost my mam a couple of years ago but my dad has his family support network here.

I hope my boys know that their home is always their home but I'll support them to find their own way in life.

My grandma has had at least one of her ‘kids’ living in the house at any given time. Now she’s starting to outlive them…

I don't expect them to move out, we plan to instead!

Plan currently is that they can live here for uni and can rent out the other rooms in our family home as a house share splitting the profits 3 ways. They'll get about £1000pm each to supplement their income and be able to live rent free, so should be able to save hefty deposits, and we'll get a boost to our pension. Meanwhile, we'll move into our holiday home on the south coast.

Still?!! Have they never left?! Jesus

My four all went off to uni . Number one was away 5 years and has moved home . Number 2 has been away for 10 years but due to a relationship breakdown is now back home . Number 3 left at 18 and never moved back . Finally number 4 went to uni and came home with a partner and child who now all live with us !!! This is their home as far as we are concerned and always will be . They are mid 20s -early 30s

I'm twenty years off retirement age.

I left home at 19 ((90's) rented with bf for a couple of years, bought a house at 21, 100% mortgage.

Both my two went to uni . Eldest stayed on in her uni town for a year after finishing. Then went travelling for a year. She's moved back but currently saving for a House deposit. Plans to own a house by 25 .

Youngest is 21 just finished uni. Just got a job plans to live at home and save for a deposit. Hopes to own a house in next 3-4 years.

Mine moved out aged 18 and 19.

DD finishes Uni next year and has already told me she is not coming home, her BF parents have two houses on a lot of land so they plan to go there. DS off to Uni this year but who knows if he will come back. My door will always be open to both but I would prefer them to become independent of me in adulthood. I love them both to bits but as adults I think they need to find their own way.

I first moved out at age 19 then was back and forth a bit until age 25. House shares, boyfriend etc.

My half brother is 54 and still lives with his mum.

We're looking to move to a house with land and outbuildings we can convert into accommodation for DC if they need it. The older two 23 and 20 have pretty decent deposits saved but eldest is struggling to find a job in chosen field.

Gosh ..I'd have all mine back tomorrow.. even at age 40 and 32 along with all Grandkids.
Luckily they only live 5 minutes from me.
Both were 22 when they moved out and in with partners.
Now Both single parents and very very happy.
Eldest Grandson is 19.
Daughter doesn't want any to move out.
I was 26 when l moved out.. been with him 10 years.. we were given an house from his Grandparents.

Depends where you are, up north, we all left for uni and were properly moved out by 23, only occasionally going back for longer holidays. Down south, I’m guessing it’s much longer given the house prices.

Here I am hoping not forever.... but I have bought my 3 year old a house already- tenants are in and it costs me £50 a month (after tax and insurance) should be paid by the time she is 20- if I have more shewing have to share the assest- but I can afford it...

It's not cold to expect grown kids to think about a place of their own. Each case is different of course. For perspective, my PILs still have a 40 year old 'kid' living at home. The 40 year old is severely autistic (low functioning) and quite frankly, an arse. My MIL is pushing 70, my FIL is 75. They should be enjoying retirement, but no, they have a 40 year old layabout on disability benefits living with them. They're going to be forced to move out once my PILs pop off this mortal coil. They don't have a job and no hope of meeting someone, so there might be pain on the horizon for everyone involved.

I was 23 when I moved out, my now DH was 22.

I would not mind having a grand house so my children can live with me forever (their families included).
They are fun, kind, smart, helpfull amd love me.
How tbe hell could I not want them around??

I guess it depends on why they are there, saving for the future, health issues, or unavoidable housing difficulties. Temporarily, yes, I'd expect it at any point. If they are workshy, lazy, immature, nope..door is at the front, they need to use it. Houseshare, renting a room, concentrates the mind on maturing.

I'm 30. I moved out when I was 25 as me & my partner bought our own home.

I do think if I hadn't have had a partner then I couldn't have moved out as the house prices are so high so I think if yours don't have partners then it will be hard for them to afford to move out.