When do you expect your children to move out?

I thought this but in reality I genuinely love their partners and they have fitted into our family seamlessly.
It's so lovely coming home to a house full of vibrant happy people and there's always someone to feed the cat.
That said, there are plans in place for all of them to move on in the next few months and I might have to get hobbies or foster kids because I know I'll be bereft.

3/4 gone, dsd planning escape later this year then bliss!

I wouldn't feel comfortable in my own home with people just coming and going and staying whenever. And it's important that I am comfortable in my home too

I would be fine with notice/once a week overnight stays.

I think a lot of parents just allow their kids to bring boyfriends/girlfriends/friends around as they please

It's no wonder they don't want to move out!

I can't imagine anything worse than having my adult children's boyfriends/girlfriends at mine all the time.

I can't imagine not letting our kids have friends round whenever or BFs/GFs to stay over for the older ones whenever they want. It's their home, and to us, it's important they feel comfortable having people here.

It doesn't seem to. Our children can bring friends round whenever and as soon as they were 18, have BFs and GFs to stay whenever.

Given trends in adult children staying on at home, I imagine it might be at least mid-20s for DS. Had I had any idea things would go this way, his dad and I would not have moved to where we currently live: it's a nice country town, which is a great place for kids, families and older people. For those in their 20s and 30s, it's really not.

Seeing the lives that my neighbours' older children who still live at home have, it appears pretty dull compared with the city-living flat-share life we all experienced in our 20s. It seems like London house-share life is going to exclusively for those who go into high-paying jobs straight away, or are subsidised by their parents - excluding the less well-off from work in areas that are creative, third sector, arts etc, that are still primarily London-based. Renting is so hard in other cities too, due to supply.

I was gone by 19 - to Uni, popped back for short periods like summertime. I would not have given up an independent life to live with my parents, - the fun we had living with people of our age - doing what suited us, no rules.
My brother stayed home until he got married, moved a couple of miles away, never travelled, only one out of six of us to live a sheltered life, he was also the golden child and could do no wrong. Family dynamics are a strange thing.

I think a lot of parents just allow their kids to bring boyfriends/girlfriends/friends around as they please

It's no wonder they don't want to move out!

I can't imagine anything worse than having my adult children's boyfriends/girlfriends at mine all the time.

My son is 21 and has grandly told me that he’ll be moving his future wife and kids in and staying forever. I just said, I’ll see what she’s got to say about that! He seems well ensconced and doesn’t look like he’s got any plans to move out. Me, on the other hand, I was gone by 20. I was really excited to have my independence.

Mine are teens. They already talk of moving out after university, as DH and I both did.
We both got jobs after university and wanted to live nearby, rather than commute from home. I loved being 21 and living in a city by myself, even though I was counting every penny.
I assume DC will be the same. We are fairly well-situated with bus and train routes etc, but I expect they will look for jobs nationally/internationally rather than just in a 15 mile radius of our home.
I suppose if one ended up with a very local job they might live at home, but I don’t think it would be their preference!
But we shall see what happens. I think they will be eager to go, but they are welcome to stay if circumstances dictate.

No, my dd's boyfriend practically lives with us. When younger (16-18) I had to have words as she brought back a couple of randoms, told her to move out if she wanted that.

Looks like she'll be here until she's 30 as she's at uni and living alone home.

Mine can stay as long as they like. I left home at 19 to live with my then boyfriend because my mother was pushing me and pushing me to “grow up.” Constantly rubbed her hands together with glee at the thought of her final child (me) fucking off. My boyfriend was abusive. That arrangement did not end well for me.

I’ve always said my children will have a space in my home as long as they need it and my husband agrees. I’d never want them to feel unwanted and worse, pushed into living with someone who hurt them. I know of other people (all women) who that exact scenario happened to: had to leave the family home or was kicked out, ended up trapped with an abuser.

Doesn’t living at home as adults restrict their social and love lives?

it is not that I want them to stay, @HowDidJudithSurvive i left at 19 to live and work in the big smoke
but i never minded that ds stayed until he wanted to move out

i dont think anyone said they wanted their kids to stay?
i offered for dd to return

All those that want their children to stay untill late 20s early 30s, would you have wanted to stay with your parents that long?

Genuine question, I can’t relate at all because I was homeless at 16 and my life took a turn I would never want for my kids but I can’t imagine waiting that long to start my own independent life.

my eldest is at uni now and he is welcome to come back, his room will be available of course, I just kind of assumed he would make a life in his uni city rather than come back to our small town.

My son has moved out (26). My 24yo has no real plans to just yet due to how much it cost to buy/rent and she’s currently single so nobody to share costs with. I also have an 18 and 15yo so hoping they all think about a place of their own by mid 20’s.

I moved out for uni and never went back (now 26), DH moved out at 24 when we bought our first home. DSIS at 24 last year when they bought and her husband at 27. We're buying a house at the moment that'll be okay for our two boys to stay in indefinitely with larger bedrooms and an ensuite for us so they'll have their own bathroom

It makes no odds when people moved out.

Things are more difficult now.

My two are early 20’s. Not expecting to move in the next 2 years but I hope they do in the next 5.

I bought my first house age 21 for £25k despite only working part time however with the cost of house prices, I doubt they will be able to afford to buy one for at least 5 years. A two bed rental property is costing in excess of £1000 monthly where I live without utilities and I live in the north where it’s cheaper!

Our children are welcome to stay as long as they like. They'll also be welcome back anytime when they do leave. They're all young adults and teens now, they all pull their weight and are good company.

My rules would be the same as my parents for us. Once in full time work, pay around 1/4 of wages as housekeeping. Laundry and cooking would still be done as part of the family meals and laundry but if they want something specific they'd do it themselves. They'd be expected to pull their weight by cooking a family meal regularly, helping keep on top of housework etc.

When they're ready. They can stay as long as they want, as long as they're contributing to the household in some way.

It's their home as well, and if they have partners, there be welcome as well.

I was 25 when I moved out, my brothers were similar ages.

However, as we have four children in a three bedroom house they're likely to want to move out earlier for their own space!

@Homesweethome23

I moved out aged 24 and would move home tomorrow if I could!“

why?

i did say to dd 24 that she could move back if she wanted to save, but i cant imagine that happening!

by 30?
i cant say because two moved out after university
one didnt go to university which slowed the move
i never pushed him and cant even remember when he went, perhaps 26 ?

i never pushed any of them away, it is just a natural stage of life