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Husband raging for turning off music.

59 replies

Ivyiris · 29/06/2024 15:42

Walked into my house to blaring music/noise , kids screaming. Asked him what the noise was and he preceded to tell me 'i don't know' so I go over to the speaker and turn it off so I can hear myself think. He then screams at me calling me selfish, swearing at me, telling me he wouldn't dream of doing that to me, because I've turned off the music he was listening to even though he told me he didn't know what it was. Try to but it back on but he is raging. Aibu?

OP posts:
migraineagain · 29/06/2024 16:10

I bloody hate noise end of but i do have my reasons.
But op you new what the noise was bit silly to ask what it was when you knew what it was.

Anotherparkingthread · 29/06/2024 15:53

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 29/06/2024 15:47

Ah come on, you knew the “noise” was music. Saying “what’s the noise?” Is a rhetorical question calling the music shite, not a genuine oh my what could that noise possibly be? 😇

and then you shut it off. 😬

I actually agree with this.

If somebody came in and I was listening to music and playing with my cousins kids (I don't have any) I'd think they were miserable sod if they turned it off and made passive aggressive comments about it.

He wasn't hurting anybody FFS.

cocoloco23 · 29/06/2024 15:52

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 29/06/2024 15:47

Ah come on, you knew the “noise” was music. Saying “what’s the noise?” Is a rhetorical question calling the music shite, not a genuine oh my what could that noise possibly be? 😇

and then you shut it off. 😬

By ‘noise’, I thought the OP meant the screaming children, not the music.

OP - could your H not hear the children over the music? Or did he just not care while they were screaming?

He sounds horrible. Why are you with him?

TomatoSandwiches · 29/06/2024 15:50

He sounds charming.

Why were the kids screaming, how old are they? Was he supposed to be caring for then and decided to ignore them with loud music instead?

cupcaske123 · 29/06/2024 15:50

I don't think anyone has ever screamed at me. An awful amount of people on MN seem to be screamed at.

There's no way I'd put up with being screamed at . If a grown man was screaming at me, I'd feel terrified. I wouldn't want my children subjected to a raging, screaming man. I can imagine they're also frightened.

I suggest you take your children somewhere safe, away from his raging. I can't imagine this is the first time he's screamed and raged, he's probably got form.

Unless you want to spend the rest of your life, treading on eggshells, in case he screams at you, I'd leave.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 29/06/2024 15:47

Ah come on, you knew the “noise” was music. Saying “what’s the noise?” Is a rhetorical question calling the music shite, not a genuine oh my what could that noise possibly be? 😇

and then you shut it off. 😬

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/06/2024 15:45

Leave. Won’t get better.

trextape · 29/06/2024 15:44

poor neighbours

trextape · 29/06/2024 15:44

lovely
just lovely environment for children

let me guess

this marriage is otherwise a bit shit generally