Holiday Nightmare!

I presume so she knew what she was dealing with?

Rule out cold, COVID etc and then you go from there when you feel like shite.

I sincerely hope he gets a horrendous dose and you leave him completely to get on with it.

And so she has a fever and feels incredibly unwell and therefore doesn’t want to sit at the pool.

🤦🏻‍♀️

Thank god you don't have children together.
He's a selfish prick.
My husband and son had it last month, both were miserable and are still coughing a month later.
Red flag that he is so uncaring.
Have a hard think when you are recovered.
Do not commit to growing old with an uncaring prick.

Would you want to be on the sunbed next to someone persistantly coughing?

She's feeling too ill to sit by the pool.

I have got covid at the moment, as has my DH. We have been so unwell that for the first 3/4 days we could barely move. Fever, cough, exhaustion, rough throat, aching. I'm a week in and feel a lot better but stilll very tired. No way could I have sat outside in the hea!

And?

No , I don't think so the matter of covid is neither here nor there .

The point is about her partner not caring.

This is so true.

At least no one has popped up to say 'you can't be that ill if you're typing on MN' like we usually get from the unbearably stupid on any illness threads.

I think this thread would have turned out very differently if the OP had said she was in bed with the flu. The moment she said it was Covid, the MN bat signal went up and a number of posters dashed on here to make sure that we all remembered that Covid - if indeed it exists at all - is not actually an illness that makes you feel unwell in any way and certainly should not prevent you going about your everyday life as normal so just carry on as usual nothing to see here thank you very much.

when I had covid, it mimicked the symptoms I had with meningitis, I would not be up for sitting by a pool or doing anything but sitting in a darkened room with air con.

So sorry for you OP that you're having to go through this on holiday and your partner is being less-than-kind to you while you are feeling so ill. I know if the same had happened to my husband and I, he would be making sure I was as comfy as possible and being as nice to me as possible whilst probably finding time to go and spend some pool time on his own. You are unwell and not being treated well by your nearest which must feel doubly crap.

Oh OP i'm so sorry you're feeling so ill. My partner had Covid last October and i didn't want to move from his side the first 3 days whilst he got over the worst, he panicked every time i needed the loo as being alone really scared him. Your partner is a massive arsehole!

There's some really bizarre responses here, i think the heat has frazzled some brain cells!

Anyhow, poor you, op, that horrendously shit timing and completely not your fault you're ill and your DH of over years 10 years is being a massive dick for not taking care you by getting you food or drinks and leaving his mobile phone so you can't reach him.

What's he like when you're at home and you're ill? Is he also like this?

Very inconsiderate! I can't imagine a caring partner being like this and I find it strange all the excuses from earlier posters. This is seriously weird and wrong.

Presumably if your husband was looking after children that would supposedly justify his horrible treatment of you, or else you'd be in for another Mumsnet martyr lecture whereby someone would tell you 'mums don't get to be ill, just get on with it'.

No, my FIL got Paxlovid in his 70s with an autoimmune condition - not in particularly bad health, but at risk of Covid affecting him badly. Also BIL who had a heart attack in his 40s got Paxlovid, he's not end-stage! Just someone with a history of heart problems. Also my diabetic mum (type 1 if that makes a difference. They are all people who go on holiday, work, lead normal lives but are eligible for Paxlovid.

Yes, but it's also possible (given the lying by the pool) that she is not in the Uk and therefore not bound by the NHS's criteria.

I'm really sorry to hear you're not well. Do you have anything to eat or drink, and do you have a thermometer and finger oximeter?

I've had covid badly twice and it was properly rubbish.

It might be a really good idea to get hold of some n95 masks online if you can. They might stop your DH getting it so badly and if you wear them on the plane home it might prevent everybody else from catching it.

Good luck there.

you’ve avoided answering whether any children op?

suitable for those in the “highest risk” according to NHS eg over 85, end stage heart failure

safe assumption op not in that group

Honestly, OP, buck up! Here is sleepyscientist enjoying her holiday - mind over matter!

No really, I'm so sorry you're ill and your dh is an arse and your thread has been derailed by the 'get on with it' brigade. Covid can make you feel even more down and upset than usual as well as all the physical symptoms. I hope you start to feel better soon.

There's always one who thinks every hiccup in a marriage justifies ending it.