Holiday Nightmare!

If he's normally quite good and this is not a common behaviour then it might be worth helping him out emotionally (you shouldn't have to do this because you're ill, but in the interior having a happier few days)

Ask him what he had been looking forward to doing together and send him off to do something enjoyable on his own tomorrow (some sort of exploration/adventure) and ask him to bring you back photos or a memento or something interesting to eat together. Then when he gets back pretend to be interested and let him tell you all about it for ten minutes. It should change the dynamic from him feeling guilty and resentful to as if he's doing something positive to reclaim your holiday.

They're like children sometimes. It sucks to do emotional labour when you're half dead but sometimes it's the smart thing to do. You can have the conversation about being supportive to each other when you're better and he is ill!

He should have gone in the children's pool as he is behaving like one 😂

what were you and he like around the stress of no luggage?

this issue aside
is this marriage a healthy and happy one?

what does you have children have to do with it

1. there could have been a drip that you have 6 month old twins and a 2 year old with you
2. that you have children around all this toxicity on their holiday

Well he could quite possibly catch Covid now couldn’t he?
You will know exactly how much loving care and attention to withhold from him when he does.

@Terrribletwos Yes, I’ve read the whole thread, thanks.

oh sorry… I misread it. Still, he’s a poop. Clearly it’s your fault for being sick. Should he ever deign to come down with manflu make sure you threaten to call a waaaaaaahmbulance, let him starve to death, hide the dressing gown of doom and tell him to suffer in his y fronts. How dare he punish you for being ill?

Because she's a responsible human being and doesn't want anyone else getting it off her?

Have you read the thread?

Sorry you are feeling ill, so many people are testing positive for Covid, as they are feeling so ill, they want to know what it is. Do you have insurance that covers Covid confinement, you may be able to claim on insurance and also lost suitcases, might just soften the blow getting a bit of compensation.

No, this isn't right...at all! A decent bloke would not be reacting this way at all!

I'd be considering if I wanted to celebrate another one, if he's this uncaring while you're ill and have no other support.

Well yeah, no one had suggested that the OP has died. Her life is going on, but she's feeling really ill with a fever and can't go sit by the pool because she's too poorly to get out of bed. Why the laughing emojis? It seems a bit unkind.

This. My DH would go off exploring on his own for a couple of hours, bring back food and nice things to drink and then either watch some TV or play on his phone for an hour to check for himself I was ok and not just saying it. Then he'd go off again, come back with dinner and repeat.

It's not what you want but it's not the end of the world. I'd be questioning my relationship if this was his reaction.

What an absolute baby. Sulking because he has to spend two days on his own? Can he not entertain himself? He's sitting by a pool, surely he doesn't need a hand hold for that. He really thinks you should get up and suffer to keep him company 😂. I'd be instantly turned off by that statement alone and wouldn't want his company anyway.

When I had COVID the first time, before we barely knew it existed, I couldn't open my eyes from the headache, couldn't move my limbs without pain and basically spent 3 solid days asleep, unless I was coughing my guts up. I physically couldn't have done anything.

I don't get ill often and usually soldier on with medication etc. but that first bout of COVID absolutely floored me.

Everyone has different reactions to different t illnesses. Try being kind and less condescending.

Does your life go on when you’re unwell? You just rock up to work as usual despite having a fever and feeling too unwell to lift your head off the pillow?

Honestly this thread has really brought out the hard of understanding today.

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life goes on

That's funny, my DH always loses his temper on our anniversary (at an inanimate object or at the cat) he's usually quite good apart from that.

I'm so sorry you're ill OP, it must be very hurtful that the person who is supposed to love you is behaving like this when you're feeling vulnerable. I hope you feel better soon.

I think you should use room service a lot!
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I think if the shoe were on the other foot he would expect you to be caring for him. I think you should absolutely match his energy. Make sure you have your bags packed when it’s time to go. Don’t bother checking that he has everything, etc. Just you look after you. Selfish shit of a man. I’m so sorry you’re sick on holiday but at least you found this out now, and you’re not married to the whiny sod.

Lol I wouldn't be on a sunbed to start with but if I was and someone coughing next to me Id move. Still no difference whether it's covid flu or something else. Try looking at the quote I replied to

He sounds like a total arse OP, I'd be really upset if my partner treated me like this.

I'm far from the kind of person who advocates LTB over every little thing, but unless there's some real back story that you're not telling us, his behaviour would really make me question the relationship. It's just a total lack of basic care and consideration for the person he supposedly loves.

If he gets it, remind yourself how he treated you, and treat him in the exact same way.

I hope you feel better soon