Holiday Nightmare!

It's outside. Just keep a distance from others

Some people feel really ill with covid. I know I did. Sitting round a pool
would have been the last thing I would have wanted to do with fever and
chills and raspy sore throat.

I really hope the berk catches it too. He's bloody horrible and a man child. I'd be furious and let him have it with both barrels once you get home. Speedy recovery to you op x

YANBU. He is being a selfish dick. Do please get some medication for your fever though and take it religiously - then you won't feel quite so horrendous. Hopefully, within a day or two you'll be feeling better and able to get on and enjoy your holiday, but bloody hell, if my DH behaved like that when I was ill on our last holiday (could've been Covid - I didn't test - but it was a horrendous coldy/fevery thing), I'd have been really pissed off. No one wants to be ill on holiday! No one does it on purpose! FFS. As the one who isn't ill, you just make the best of it and get food/drink/meds/whatever for your ailing OH and hope they recover quickly.

Ah, you're married. How has he been when you've been ill in the past? Must be out of character or you wouldn't be posting about it? I hope so at least.

Exactly.

They say holidays are the test of a relationship - well being ill is even more so. He's shown you you can't rely on him in a crisis and that he's selfish, sulky and useless.
Bin him when you get back. Don't forget his treatment of you here.

The poor girl has already said she feels like shit and has a fever can't imagine her wanting to sit by a pool in the sun or even the shade.

He has shown you who he is and how he feels about you.

LTB 💐

People are really underestimating this new strain of Covid. I’ve been ill for two weeks. It’s absolutely vile. Sorry it’s wrecked your holiday

@Doubledded123 He sounds awful. Next time he is ill - do same.

what a thoroughly shite way to live

Of course it's your fault for going out and purposely catching covid! Is he always thos awful? I'm so sorry, covid I'd awful and you should not have to deal with his behavior. Rest up as much as you can and after have a good think on what kind of partner he truly is

When my son was a teenager struggling with anger issues I figured out how to give him space to calm down and later he would admit to being out of order. He has grown up into a very calm and thoughtful man who looks out for his disabled sister.

completely different to your grown assed adult husband

really can’t say i’m interested tbh in your views re when to panda to men

Oh no that's shit. Got covid at easter from plane back from hols. Sooo ill, I can sympathise, in fact am just in last stage of recovery.

Can you claim on travel ins fly back early?? Most policies will cover this.

He sounds awful. Next time he is ill - do same.

Late 40s, had my DC young.

I don't want to distract from OPs thread but if you want to start a thread about when it's appropriate to pander to a childish partner I'll reply and you can dismantle me there :)

@trextape

there’s no specific treatment for covid

No. However knowing what you are unwell with does rule out other illnesses or infections that do have specific treatments.

So knowing it's Covid means the op can focus on getting better with over the counter / paracetamol treatments etc and knows they don't need anything like antibiotics.

People get so uptight about Covid testing, but for most people now it's just so they know what's wrong with them.

how old are you @Ambleberry ?

Haha I don't think I am! Have had terrible DV relationship in past and now with DH of 12 years who is a lovely man who helped me protect and bring up my children when I escaped, but occasionally behaves like a child himself.

When my son was a teenager struggling with anger issues I figured out how to give him space to calm down and later he would admit to being out of order. He has grown up into a very calm and thoughtful man who looks out for his disabled sister.

I use that technique on my DH once or twice a year for an easy life and I'm not ashamed! If I was being childish and grumpy I'd want him to help me snap out of it too. Why both be miserable if you know a way to snap out of that dynamic?

What a shitty holiday for you so far OP. How long do you have left there?

You are both allowed to feel disappointed. But he cannot take it out on you. And needs to show some kindness.

If you can bear it, can you give him an effusive welcome when he returns, with a long lingering kiss, exchanging maximum volumes of saliva….? Perhaps have a nice clearing cough just before.

No advice, but my god what an awful set of events! I hope you’re feeling better soon. 💐

Be done with this man child OP. Life should be better than this for you.

I just couldn't treat a fully grown adult like that. Giving him little tasks and adventures like a toddler. She's ill, she shouldn't have to pander to sulking bore who isn't capable of entertaining himself for a couple of days or bringing his wife a drink or snack when she's ill.

Fml I see the handmaiden has entered the chat 🙈

No absolutely not. He is not a child and this is absolutely not the way!

@Ambleberry are you one of these ‘surrendered wives’ we’ve been hearing about?