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Holiday Nightmare!

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 11:55

AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 20:15

IWishIWasABaller · 29/06/2024 20:07

Fgs swallow a few paracetamol and go sit at the beach under an umbrella. A gentle swim in the sea will cool you down and grab a few ice cold drinks and ice creams. No way would I be wasting away my holiday holed up in a bedroom. He must be fed up. Mask on in communal areas life goes on

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I've got a high fever and can't move out of bed!! Ffs what's wrong with you! Have you never been that poorly your bed bound?

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IWishIWasABaller · 29/06/2024 20:07

Fgs swallow a few paracetamol and go sit at the beach under an umbrella. A gentle swim in the sea will cool you down and grab a few ice cold drinks and ice creams. No way would I be wasting away my holiday holed up in a bedroom. He must be fed up. Mask on in communal areas life goes on

trextape · 29/06/2024 20:01

a grown assed man actually said to you basically

“I have just message my mummy to tell her what’s happened and how upset i am”?

🤢

trextape · 29/06/2024 20:00

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 19:18

@trextape I wasn't shouting! No one on any balcony heard us!

i didn’t say you were shouting

but so easy to hear conversations when out on balcony / doors open and all in such close quarters

and i’m guessing voices were… a touch raised!

As i say, entertainment for the other guests! so not a bad thing!

Combattingthemoaners · 29/06/2024 19:49

The usual pathetic responses from the pedantic police. Ignore them.

He is being a knob and you are right to feel pissed off. It’s not like you’ve asked to be unwell! Hope you feel better soon.

randomusernam · 29/06/2024 19:33

Make sure you keep a record of it all so you can claim on holiday insurance. This is what it's for

randomusernam · 29/06/2024 19:32

Gogogo12345 · 29/06/2024 11:57

Why can't you sit at the pool?

Yes because sitting in the hot sun is just what you want to do when you feel terrible. Why is there always people like this on mums net?!

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 19:18

@trextape I wasn't shouting! No one on any balcony heard us!

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trextape · 29/06/2024 19:14

He messaged his mummy

fgs this is all so… weird

trextape · 29/06/2024 19:13

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:57

He has just returned from the beach!

I have aired my points stating that he hasn't even checked on me, he didn't take his phone so was reachable.

He said he doesn't need to ask how I am, he knows how I am.

Said don't worry tomorrow I won't move out the room. I said I absolutely would not expect you to do that and nor would I want you to, what I would expect though is just a mere asking if I need anything or am I okay.

He said if it was him, he would be getting up and getting out!! In 30 degree heat with a fever when I keep nodding in and out of sleep.

He said how do you think it feels me having to spend the last two days on my own!

I said ditto! At least you get to go out and sit in the sun at the beach or pool! Not in bed!

i bet your neighbouring guests out on their balcony were riveted!

This marriage can’t possibly be otherwise happy and healthy?

Sharptonguedwoman · 29/06/2024 19:03

FrenchandSaunders · 29/06/2024 12:05

You might feel well enough tom to sit by the pool or bar, hopefully.

Not near anyone, please! Those of us who are clinically vulnerable would like to feel safe. I'm sorry your partner's being such a tit.

placemats · 29/06/2024 19:01

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 18:43

Thank you. I've just had the speech of dont worry I won't leave the room tomorrow then I can get you whatever you want and I won't get moaned at!!

I honestly just want to go home.

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Is there anyone in reception that you can confidently talk to? Though be wary, he may already be moaning about you, some will be on your side. Keep that thought.

I understand that you want to go home. I would be the same. Once you feel well enough do it!

LordSnot · 29/06/2024 18:54

Ambleberry · 29/06/2024 15:56

Haha I don't think I am! Have had terrible DV relationship in past and now with DH of 12 years who is a lovely man who helped me protect and bring up my children when I escaped, but occasionally behaves like a child himself.

When my son was a teenager struggling with anger issues I figured out how to give him space to calm down and later he would admit to being out of order. He has grown up into a very calm and thoughtful man who looks out for his disabled sister.

I use that technique on my DH once or twice a year for an easy life and I'm not ashamed! If I was being childish and grumpy I'd want him to help me snap out of it too. Why both be miserable if you know a way to snap out of that dynamic?

You've learned how to pacify men immediately to avoid abuse. That's not a good thing and not something you should be advising others to do.

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 18:43

placemats · 29/06/2024 18:33

Firstly well done @AmbTurn for getting the luggage sorted out. If I was on holiday with you I would be singing your praises for this. I understand the disappointment, however I would be making sure you have all you need and be looking after you.

I would be keeping my phone on me at all times if I went out and making sure you are okay. Holidays come and go but a loved one is precious and requires taking care of.

I hope you get over your covid infection soon. However take it easy and look after yourself. Don't let him take the card, you need to have access to that.

All the best to you x

Thank you. I've just had the speech of dont worry I won't leave the room tomorrow then I can get you whatever you want and I won't get moaned at!!

I honestly just want to go home.

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placemats · 29/06/2024 18:33

Firstly well done @AmbTurn for getting the luggage sorted out. If I was on holiday with you I would be singing your praises for this. I understand the disappointment, however I would be making sure you have all you need and be looking after you.

I would be keeping my phone on me at all times if I went out and making sure you are okay. Holidays come and go but a loved one is precious and requires taking care of.

I hope you get over your covid infection soon. However take it easy and look after yourself. Don't let him take the card, you need to have access to that.

All the best to you x

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 18:31

@BrendaSmall I've got a raging temperature body aches headache cough and you wouldn't be in bed! Okay!
Well I'm not about to sit outside around other people who could catch it either

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BrendaSmall · 29/06/2024 18:28

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 29/06/2024 15:12

Does your life go on when you’re unwell? You just rock up to work as usual despite having a fever and feeling too unwell to lift your head off the pillow?

Honestly this thread has really brought out the hard of understanding today.

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Yes!
some of us got no choice and if I was on holiday I definitely would wouldn’t be spending it in the room no matter how ill I felt!!

MariaLuna · 29/06/2024 18:11

Oops! Wrong message. A few tabs open....🙄

Hope it all works out for you OP.

MariaLuna · 29/06/2024 18:08

The issue with the cases is annoying, but unless there was something critical in there (such as medication or credit cards).

NEVER EVER put stuff like that in your suit case but carry it on you.

Sorry your son is going through this OP but it will be the making of him. Been there, done that.

HannaLaura · 29/06/2024 18:00

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:57

He has just returned from the beach!

I have aired my points stating that he hasn't even checked on me, he didn't take his phone so was reachable.

He said he doesn't need to ask how I am, he knows how I am.

Said don't worry tomorrow I won't move out the room. I said I absolutely would not expect you to do that and nor would I want you to, what I would expect though is just a mere asking if I need anything or am I okay.

He said if it was him, he would be getting up and getting out!! In 30 degree heat with a fever when I keep nodding in and out of sleep.

He said how do you think it feels me having to spend the last two days on my own!

I said ditto! At least you get to go out and sit in the sun at the beach or pool! Not in bed!

You have married the wrong guy, he needs to be married to @sleepyscientist

A perfect match…unless of course he us sleepyscientist, undercover….😂

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 17:54

He's just sent a text to his mum saying work hard all year just to chuck money away!

When I pulled him on it, he said the first 3 days were ruined by the luggage! I said you can't predict someone is going to get ill.

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Bumblebeeinatree · 29/06/2024 17:52

I got German Measles on honeymoon, my DH asked if I'm always so spotty! He was not at all sympathetic, but really didn't understand I was really ill. I guessed what it was and said we had to go home because I would be contagious. We were driving in the UK B&Bing so went home. Of course a few days later DH got it really badly of course, much worse than me. To cap it all after we recovered we went to a friends house parked outside and left my pretty ancient camera with all my honeymoon pictures (such as they were) on it and someone robbed the car and stole it. We survived.

beenwhereyouare · 29/06/2024 17:42

trextape · 29/06/2024 12:00

why did you take the covid test? i’m guessing you’re not isolating and still getting food from the hotel buffet?

What would make you assume that?

ThatsAFineLookingHighHorse · 29/06/2024 17:33

I see there are a number of 'it's just a cold' covid deniers are here.

For some people, 'it's just a cold' or like a cold. I was lucky to be one of those people.

For others, it does indeed feel like they've been hit by a bus and many have long term issues as a result. I know people who were unlucky enough to be come of those people.

Sorry you feel like crap, OP. Your husband is being a selfish twat if he thinks behaviour that appears to 'blame you' for falling ill is your fault. I'd have to think about how I felt about him after that.

IAlwaysTellTheTruthEvenWhenILie · 29/06/2024 17:31

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:57

He has just returned from the beach!

I have aired my points stating that he hasn't even checked on me, he didn't take his phone so was reachable.

He said he doesn't need to ask how I am, he knows how I am.

Said don't worry tomorrow I won't move out the room. I said I absolutely would not expect you to do that and nor would I want you to, what I would expect though is just a mere asking if I need anything or am I okay.

He said if it was him, he would be getting up and getting out!! In 30 degree heat with a fever when I keep nodding in and out of sleep.

He said how do you think it feels me having to spend the last two days on my own!

I said ditto! At least you get to go out and sit in the sun at the beach or pool! Not in bed!

Any initial disappointment should have faded by now.
He's not a nice person, op. I'd leave someone like that, who wants to grow old with such an uncaring arsehole?

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