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Holiday Nightmare!

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 11:55

AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

OP posts:
BoneChinaPlate · 01/07/2024 04:57

How do beer, whisky, wine and sun cure colds or flu?

It's recommended to keep hydrated with a cold or flu - alcohol and sitting in the sun will dehydrate you. It will make the sufferer feel more ill.

Being a covid denier is neither here nor there - the OP has a fever of 39. Anyone who has ever had a fever knows you rest, take paracetamol and drink fluids (not alcohol!)

IVFlife · 01/07/2024 01:23

I never understand the "I had that and I was fine" attitude. Some people can work 12 hour shifts with tonsillitis others need hospitalised for complications from it. Some people spend 3 hours after giving birth in hosp , some are in for a week. Should the nhs chuck everyone out after 3 hours by that logic?

This thread is one of the most batshit I've read in over 15 years of being on here.

IVFlife · 01/07/2024 01:19

Omg it doesn't matter if it's covid or flu or whatever. That's not the point. The point is she is very ill (assuming people still beleive in illnesses and dont think drs are all liars and that no virus in the world exists) and her husband is being an arse. The point about covid is irrelevant. Insert the name of an illness you believe in. Poor op has come on for some support and has had everything fighting amongst themselves. What a load of utter nonsense to prove yourselves right at the expense of someone feeling ill.

Berlinlover · 01/07/2024 00:54

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I agree with this.

sleepwouldbenice · 01/07/2024 00:49

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ConfusedConfusedConfused
Aren't you bored of this by now
Go read the Light and get yourself some new rubbish to spout

AnnieSnap · 01/07/2024 00:23

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I’m reporting your ignorant post

Scruffily · 30/06/2024 23:56

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Do tell us all about your credentials as a scientist, and the peer-reviewed research you've done that supports your learned findings.

DogsandFlowers · 30/06/2024 23:48

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Christ here we go!
I suppose you believe the earth is flat?
Saying covid isn't real is akin to saying the common cold and influenza don't exist either.
I smell a troll

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 23:35

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OFFS

They're still around... Confused

And you are generally extremely poorly with flu

GabriellaMontez · 30/06/2024 23:29

I hope he catches it.

Then you can fly home and take his charger.

likethislikethat · 30/06/2024 23:27

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Frances0911 · 30/06/2024 22:22

I currently have covid bad and live with my elderly father. He hasn't caught it yet, and didn't get it from me last time I had it.

Sorry buy your partner sounds heartless. I hope you feel better soon.

BuggeryBumFlaps · 30/06/2024 22:00

What the in thing these days 'match his energy' when he gets Covid

BuggeryBumFlaps · 30/06/2024 21:58

Well he sounds like an absolute prince! The luggage and illness are t your fault and he shouldn't be taking his frustrations out on you! What an awful man

AnnieSnap · 30/06/2024 21:40

AzureOrca · 30/06/2024 18:19

I was in hospital for two weeks, my husband came to see me three times. I was told that he wasn't coming because of thebtraffic, it was too busy. Eight years later it still upsets me. Think about your future I am still with my husband, married nearly 30 years,but it is very difficult.

Why are you still with him? I ended my marriage after 30 years. That was 16-years-ago and I have been so much happier since then. I didn’t expect to ever want another serious relationship, but I met a great guy shortly after. Things blossomed. We have been married 9-years now and we are each others first priority.

Wingingit247 · 30/06/2024 21:20

Absolutely not being unreasonable. I’m astounded how many people are telling you to go and sit by the pool when you’re feeling so poorly, wtaf??? It’s your holiday too, you didn’t get ill on purpose, wanting a little kindness and compassion from your husband wasn’t too much to ask and tbh feeling sorry for someone you love when they feel like shit comes naturally to most of us! It’s a crap situation all round but he’s made it entirely about him, is he usually this self-centred? As for all the people who are telling you to drag yourself out and sit in the sun when you feel so ill, not to mention potentially spreading the illness further, ignore them completely, total idiots! I’m so sorry OP, you must feel so alone 💐

RecklessGoddess · 30/06/2024 20:09

Gogogo12345 · 29/06/2024 11:57

Why can't you sit at the pool?

Firstly, she said she's really not well, and secondly, she's clearly not as inconsiderate as whoever she caught it from!

hoggyhedge · 30/06/2024 19:39

The original post says just two of them on holiday

hoggyhedge · 30/06/2024 19:37

Sorry you’re not well but he didnt take his phone to the beach because he probably wanted to swim in sea.

why does he need to check on you?

He isn’t being fair but neither are you

Sally27 · 30/06/2024 19:35

I feel so bad for you OP. I am sorry but your hubby doesn’t sound very nice or caring! It is irresponsible of him to have gone out and left you alone with no way to contact him when you are feeling so unwell, and to be so far away from home too. I hope you are ok. Sending get well soon vibes xxx

MyDearOliveDuck · 30/06/2024 19:15

Wait until he catches it then you can get your revenge 😏

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 19:10

I really hope the husband gets it as soon as he's home

And I hope the OP goes out for the week and leaves him alone

What a horrible man

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 19:06

BrendaSmall · 30/06/2024 06:53

Yesi would be outside at home!
yes I’ve been so ill I’ve literally felt like staying in bed but I didn’t as I’d rather be up and about sitting with my doors open getting fresh air

30° isn't fresh air in my book!

I would be in bed with those symptoms too

There's nothing comfortable about a sunbed

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 19:03

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:57

He has just returned from the beach!

I have aired my points stating that he hasn't even checked on me, he didn't take his phone so was reachable.

He said he doesn't need to ask how I am, he knows how I am.

Said don't worry tomorrow I won't move out the room. I said I absolutely would not expect you to do that and nor would I want you to, what I would expect though is just a mere asking if I need anything or am I okay.

He said if it was him, he would be getting up and getting out!! In 30 degree heat with a fever when I keep nodding in and out of sleep.

He said how do you think it feels me having to spend the last two days on my own!

I said ditto! At least you get to go out and sit in the sun at the beach or pool! Not in bed!

Did you not point out that he hasn't bothered with food or drink for you?

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2024 19:03

AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:37

I haven't avoided the question however I struggle to see the relevance!

We have two children between us but not together and they are older so no they haven't come away with us.

What does that have to do with anything?

Whether they were with you or not?

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