Holiday Nightmare!

Me too. I remember falling asleep around 10 in the morning and woke up in the exact same position 7 hrs later. Hadn’t moved. Just to fall asleep again.

@SoupDragon I'm surprised at your ridiculous thick response. She has a fever and feeling absolutely sick and you think sitting in the sun is the brightest idea? Some people smh.

I agree with you, it's ridiculous.

I think some people have never had proper flu or Covid. I was ill in bed for 6 weeks with Covid last year. I could barely move, I have never felt so ill in my life.

So you weren’t ill then, because if you are truly ill you would not want to drink cocktails by the pool. You would take paracetamol every 4 hrs and it would likely hurt just moving your head.

Your post is ridiculous.

I can only assume you've never been very ill @sleepyscientist! Perhaps your family have very impressive immune systems.

Nevertheless, for us mere mortals it's more sensible to follow the advice of rest and fluids along with meds to recover rather than vigorous gardening or drinking alcohol.

Yes my ex always behaved strangely. If I was ill it could never change our plans. It was part of his control and selfishness.

I was once ‘made’ to go to visit his mum when I was obviously sick. I sat outside ‘green’. My MiL asked ‘ what on earth are you doing here, you should be at home in bed’ Really difficult to say ‘he made me come’.

Quite abusive.

Because it’s still helpful to know if she gets strange symptoms later on they’ll look for blood clots in the lungs etc. I’m guessing you don’t want your urine sample checked at the gp for infection or a throat swab taken with the chemist either, or ever have any bloods taken.

So clearly you didn't feel as rough as the OP

Who wants to sit in the sun/shade outside when they have a temperature and feel terrible?

She's best in the room sleeping

Given you've mentioned it's Covid, why oh why do some people insist on ignoring the fact that you actually feel ill. Do they not believe that people do feel ill with Covid? Surely it doesn't matter what the illness is, would you want someone with a temperature and looking rough, eating their dinner at hotel restaurant alongside you, when they obviously have an infectious disease? Would it be acceptable if it was flu? Norovirus? Do some people think it's OK to do this, and ruin everyone else's holiday by passing it around? I'm sorry you're feeling so bad OP, and as a result it's ruining your holiday. The only appropriate response, from both your DH and MN, is sympathy. It's not like you got ill on purpose.

Oh I wouldn't. Having lived abroad, there is nothing worse than the searing heat and sunshine. I felt like I was shrivelling up.

With food poisoning I continued with a beach trip, making my friend come with me (also ill). The worst day ever, what a waste, both of us miserable and making the family with us miserable too.

A hangover in the sun always feels 10 times worse too.

Honestly, what’s wrong with you. She has a fever and is ill.

What a bastard. Change your flights to come home early, change the locks and dump his stuff on the drive. You deserve so much better than this.

Oh no, what a massive shame! I can see how you have no interest in sitting by the pool, I was roasting when I had covid and it would have been absolutely unbearable. I was sweating sitting still.
Try and get as much sleep and fluids as you can. I really hope you feel better in a few days.
Some people are really odd when others are ill. It's not like you've done it on purpose! My dad can be like this with my mum. I'd love to know the psychology behind it.

@BoneChinaPlate pretty much tho using the correct drugs dosed properly at the correct intervals usually keeps the fever down. We also take sufficient upset stomach relief on holiday, make use of the lacks attitude in chemists etc with plenty of caffeine for fatigue. DS had an ear ache last year, chemist at 9am by 1pm the drops had released a lot of the pressure and he was back to normal. Wouldn't even have a NHS GP appointment in that time.

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails. DH has the same attitude be spent COVID isolation gutting the garden

Hope you feel better soon OP. The last time I had covid was at the height of summer and the high temp / fevers were horrible combined with the heat. Just rest up

Why would not taking the test make her less ill?

Similar happened to me. Was on holiday abroad, woke up with agonising abdominal pain, couldn't move. I asked partner to go chemist, he stomped off to pick some bits up, threw them on the bed, then got a beer and a book and ignored me, quietly seething on the balcony.

I told him to go out and enjoy himself, rather than stay sat on balcony in a mood with me. He did as I said, but when he popped back for things, was still in a mood with me.

Long story short, I called a doctor, who called an ambulance. As I was being taken to hospital, he was bleating "We are meant to check out tomorrow!" I shouted back, "Well best pack then!"

He didn't offer to come to hospital with me, didn't speak to reception to see if we could have a late check out and didn't text me to see how I was. I was alone in a foreign hospital, in pain and petrified.

I was moved to ICU for 12 hours and the next day was moved to a side room, he then turned up with our luggage, still in a mood. Sat there tapping on his phone furiously, still ignoring me.

A couple of days later, I was allowed to go home, but we needed to book new flights. His mum sent us the money (we would pay her back the following week) and when he left his phone unattended to go out for a fag, I checked his phone and he'd been texting his mum saying how disgusted he was that I wasn't acting more grateful towards him for his mum lending us the money to get us home.

I was so upset that he didn't show a shred of care towards me and was furious at me for being ill. We'd been together three years, I was so shocked.

We split up shortly after. I ended things.

Suggest you think long and hard about the person you're with. Hope you feel better soon.

That sucks OP.

I was away with a friend for 5 days once and she was ill in bed for 2 of those, and still very fragile the last two days.

Yes it wasn't ideal for me and I may have fleetingly wondered if she was being dramatic, but then I gave myself a talking to and said of course she ins't being dramatic. Who would chose to spend their holiday in bed if they didn't have to?

So I went about my holiday myself, checked in on her every few hours, made sure she had enough food, water, and medicine, sat with her sometimes so she wasn't always alone.

Hopefully your partner realises he's being a dick and starts being nicer. And I hope you feel better soon and can have a lounge by the pool

If you were at home you’d be sitting at home alone trying to avoid giving it to the rest of the household.

It is proper rotten to be unwell on holiday but whilst he is showing a lack of empathy in his reaction he’s probably sad that his/your shared holiday is ruined, plus unseen to spend time with someone who is contagiously ill. I’d be wanting a separate room. And a bit worried that I couldn’t because I was on holiday.

I agree his reaction isn't great. But I couldn't hand on heart say I would be any different if the roles were reversed.

If my DH fell ill at the start of a holiday and needed to stay in bed all day in the room, then as much as I might feign a bit more sympathy than your DH is displaying, I would still be disappointed and pissed off. I would try to make the best of it, but it still wouldn't be the holiday I had been anticipating. But I would try not to show it.

Hope you start to feel better soon. Keep hydrated and taking paracetamol and/or ibuprofen if you can and get as much sleep as you can.

You can take paracetamol & ibuprofen together. Hope you start to feel better soon OP. I couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t show care when I’m ill, especially on holiday. DH has his faults but he used to be a medic & is a great person to have around when you’re poorly.

She has a fever and feels really ill. I wouldn't want to be dragging my ill self out of bed and down to the pool to sit in hot sun if I had a fever and felt very unwell. I'd be in bed probably sleeping a lot.

Sorry he’s not being very caring 😞

pragmatically it probably is best for him to get out and enjoy the pool etc as he’s more than likely to feel ill himself soon….

Sorry to read this OP. Do you have a room with a balcony, if not you should request one. The first few says of covid are usually the worst. Hopefully you will be well enough to be down to the pool side & out & about soon.