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AmbTurn · 2024-06-29T10:55:56+00:00

AIBU here? We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc. Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday. Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad. Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous. Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me. Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room. At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2024 14:29

trextape · 29/06/2024 12:17

there’s no specific treatment for covid

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Paxlovid is a medication for people with Covid.

user1492757084 · 29/06/2024 14:28

Your DH can not really help.
Tell him to ensure you have a supply of water, paracetemol and your favourite snacks and then to go and holiday the best he can.

Bad luck.

caffeinepls · 29/06/2024 14:28

I have it just now and feel utterly horrendous, worse than the two previous times I had it.

Big hugs op.

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:27

TinaCx · 29/06/2024 14:00

No! you are not being unreasonable. If you took time out of your holiday to try and locate everyone else's suitcases the least your partner could be is 'more sympathetic'. You probably caught covid before him due to the stress. If he totally ignored you, not offering to bring you food, drinks ect. Then that's really selfish of him. A stern word to him would be called for once you recovered.

He hasn't offered to bring me drinks or anything as he went to the beach this morning at 11.30am and has left his phone here in the room so I haven't heard from him!

Just took the bank card to get a few beers from the shop for himself at the beach.

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biscuitsnow · 29/06/2024 14:26

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails.

Well you're incredibly dim then arent you? because alcohol increases inflammation, dehydrates you, and lowers your immune system.

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AmbTurn · 29/06/2024 14:24

sleepyscientist · 29/06/2024 13:27

@BoneChinaPlate pretty much tho using the correct drugs dosed properly at the correct intervals usually keeps the fever down. We also take sufficient upset stomach relief on holiday, make use of the lacks attitude in chemists etc with plenty of caffeine for fatigue. DS had an ear ache last year, chemist at 9am by 1pm the drops had released a lot of the pressure and he was back to normal. Wouldn't even have a NHS GP appointment in that time.

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails. DH has the same attitude be spent COVID isolation gutting the garden

I am not sitting outside in 30 degree heat when my temperature is 39 degrees!

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chaostherapy · 29/06/2024 14:22

Very sorry you are ill OP and hope you feel better soon

I guess he will change his tune within the very near future when he comes down with it too.

Holidays do come with an increased risk of sickness due to the travel itself and being in a different environment/part of the world. Holiday companies market a perfect happy ideal, but the reality is that you are just as likely (if not more) to be ill or a victim of crime on holiday and so really only undertake a holiday if you are happy to take the risk and live with the consequences, including having a decent travel insurance policy. Sorry for the doom and gloom, but holiday companies are not doing us a favour, they are a profit making industry that increasingly is pursuing very intensive and misleading marketing and advertising. If it were so great, they wouldn't need to advertise and market it so aggressively and continuously would they?

gruberandassocs · 29/06/2024 14:19

Get as much rest as you need, no doubt you DH is disappointed that his holiday is not going the way he wants. Hopefully he will realise he is being a dick or at least realise that he could go down with it in a couple of days and may need someone to take care of him. Keep the fluids up and hopefully in a couple of days you might start to enjoy your holiday. I am loving the responses from the "if its not a&e then its nothing" posters - fuckwitts!

adriftinadenofvipers · 29/06/2024 14:19

Createausername1970 · 29/06/2024 13:14

I agree his reaction isn't great. But I couldn't hand on heart say I would be any different if the roles were reversed.

If my DH fell ill at the start of a holiday and needed to stay in bed all day in the room, then as much as I might feign a bit more sympathy than your DH is displaying, I would still be disappointed and pissed off. I would try to make the best of it, but it still wouldn't be the holiday I had been anticipating. But I would try not to show it.

Hope you start to feel better soon. Keep hydrated and taking paracetamol and/or ibuprofen if you can and get as much sleep as you can.

You can be disappointed - and I'm quite sure the OP is too. You can be understanding though and not be an arse.

With a bit of luck, he will get a taste of his own medicine and get it too @AmbTurn and hopefully you will be feeling better and you can in turn piss off and leave him to it!!

swayingpalmtree · 29/06/2024 14:15

fancylemons · 29/06/2024 14:12

Plus it’s actually dangerous advice to tell op to get out in the sun and get on with it. Her body is telling her to rest.

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Yep. My God, now it's apparently wrong to rest when you are ill?

This place 😂

fancylemons · 29/06/2024 14:12

swayingpalmtree · 29/06/2024 14:10

people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it

You get on with it? How lame. I give 110% when I'm ill, not the bare minimum of just getting on with it. Thats a really lazy, half arsed attitude.

Plus it’s actually dangerous advice to tell op to get out in the sun and get on with it. Her body is telling her to rest.

Sunshineguy · 29/06/2024 14:12

OP, sorry to hear you're feeling so rotten. Your OH is acting like an idiot. If you're sharing a room, chances are he will catch it unless he has had it recently. I always wear an N95 mask when on planes. They are hotbeds of transmission. A recent study showed people are 16 times more likely to catch Covid on aircraft than in other settings. Feel better soon.

Riversideandrelax · 29/06/2024 14:11

Movinghouseatlast · 29/06/2024 13:50

I agree with you, it's ridiculous.

I think some people have never had proper flu or Covid. I was ill in bed for 6 weeks with Covid last year. I could barely move, I have never felt so ill in my life.

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Some people don't like to admit that COVID is anymore than a 'cold'. Completely ignoring all the people seriously ill in hospital or in bed at home. No we can't all be 'gutting the garden' when we have COVID!

swayingpalmtree · 29/06/2024 14:10

people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it

You get on with it? How lame. I give 110% when I'm ill, not the bare minimum of just getting on with it. Thats a really lazy, half arsed attitude.

fancylemons · 29/06/2024 14:10

sleepyscientist · 29/06/2024 12:45

@BoneChinaPlate people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it. Paracetamol/ibi is dosed based on current weight husband pushes is luck a bit further.

OP can you go float around the pool? I find being in the cold pool nice if you don't feel 100%

A different attitude? Just get on with it? Float around the pool?

You might not ever have been really ill, but your head certainly isn’t 100% right either.

Scruffily · 29/06/2024 14:08

SoupDragon · 29/06/2024 12:16

And?

It's outside. Just keep a distance from others.

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Who the hell wants to sit outside in the heat when they have a fever?

Riversideandrelax · 29/06/2024 14:07

SoupDragon · 29/06/2024 12:16

And?

It's outside. Just keep a distance from others.

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Have you never felt so unwell that you had to stay in bed?

When I had COVID it was horrendous. I had to stay in bed and certainly wouldn't have been able to sit round the pool even if I did keep a distance from people!

Anonym00se · 29/06/2024 14:06

sleepyscientist · 29/06/2024 12:45

@BoneChinaPlate people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it. Paracetamol/ibi is dosed based on current weight husband pushes is luck a bit further.

OP can you go float around the pool? I find being in the cold pool nice if you don't feel 100%

OP doesn’t not “feel 100%”, she feels ill. I had Covid and couldn’t get out of bed from the day before Xmas Eve till the day after Boxing Day. Christmas was cancelled. I didn’t need A&E but I was far too poorly to “get on with it”. I literally had to crawl to the loo, I couldn’t wash or eat. I absolutely couldn’t have dragged myself to a swimming pool! I can’t believe that nobody in your house has ever been really poorly.

ManchesterLu · 29/06/2024 14:04

littleredcaravan · 29/06/2024 12:15

Testing isn't all about isolation.

Some people just want to know why they feel unwell so it can be treated accordingly?

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Yeah exactly. Covid can make you feel awful, but it can also put your mind at rest to know WHY you feel awful.

Cinai · 29/06/2024 14:04

Poor you, I hope you feel better soon! And I think your DH is a bit of a dick in this situation.

fancylemons · 29/06/2024 14:02

johnd2 · 29/06/2024 13:59

Yeah totally agree, I learned how to fit a cannula on YouTube so I just rig up a few drugs I bought on eBay whenever anyone's ill in my family and we just get on with it.
I had a broken leg, shotgun wounds and pneumonia and I still hiked up Everest no trouble.
Some people are just soft whingers

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Yeah some people have excuses for everything 🙄 If I had two broken legs I’d still run a marathon.

lacefan · 29/06/2024 14:01

fancylemons · 29/06/2024 13:55

Me too. I remember falling asleep around 10 in the morning and woke up in the exact same position 7 hrs later. Hadn’t moved. Just to fall asleep again.

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Yep and it's also quite risky to fall into deep sleep in very hot sun- you could get easily badly burnt.

TinaCx · 29/06/2024 14:00

No! you are not being unreasonable. If you took time out of your holiday to try and locate everyone else's suitcases the least your partner could be is 'more sympathetic'. You probably caught covid before him due to the stress. If he totally ignored you, not offering to bring you food, drinks ect. Then that's really selfish of him. A stern word to him would be called for once you recovered.

johnd2 · 29/06/2024 13:59

sleepyscientist · 29/06/2024 13:27

@BoneChinaPlate pretty much tho using the correct drugs dosed properly at the correct intervals usually keeps the fever down. We also take sufficient upset stomach relief on holiday, make use of the lacks attitude in chemists etc with plenty of caffeine for fatigue. DS had an ear ache last year, chemist at 9am by 1pm the drops had released a lot of the pressure and he was back to normal. Wouldn't even have a NHS GP appointment in that time.

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails. DH has the same attitude be spent COVID isolation gutting the garden

Yeah totally agree, I learned how to fit a cannula on YouTube so I just rig up a few drugs I bought on eBay whenever anyone's ill in my family and we just get on with it.
I had a broken leg, shotgun wounds and pneumonia and I still hiked up Everest no trouble.
Some people are just soft whingers

FrenchandSaunders · 29/06/2024 13:58

Everyone behaves differently on hols in this situation. I had an upset stomach/sickness for a couple of days last year and DH stayed in the room with me. I kept encouraging him to go out but he didn’t want to.

I remember thinking I wouldn’t have done the same … I would have been kind and caring but would have gone to the pool and for a walk, popping back to see him.