Why do stories like this become all about the man?

The bbc link you posted does not substantiate your assertion. There are more tributes about the woman than him. The police referred themselves as clearly one of the victims had contacted the police about the other recently, which could be DV or mental health related. Seems like it was the woman but we don't know for sure.

I have never seen many/ any tributes to someone convicted of murder; the likely assumption that will be made with this story will be that it was his doing.

Your focus seems somewhat left field!

I think the fact the police have referred themselves to their governing body suggests they’ve had recent contact with the couple, I expect it to come out there’s a history of DV.

Poor girl, 22 and had to live her short adult life in fear before being murdered by the person who is supposed to love and care for her.

I think a lot of it is for shock value. The media made a lot about how Lucy Letby was as gentle as a sheep, an angel, etc.

Just do a quick Google search – most headlines about mothers who kill (or even torture!) their kids / family use the words "overwhelmed", "erupted from the stress/tension" etc. Then you have lots of testimonies about how lovely and responsible and wonderful and all they are, and sometimes a whole bit about their traumatic upbringing.

I totally 100% believe in gender bias, but not in this case. I strongly believe female murderers are more kindly regarded and sympathised with in mainstream media (and even on Mumsnet) than male murderers. Especially white middle-class ones but also ones outside this demographic (eg I read a UK article earlier this week about a black foreigner murderer mum, quoting her about how she only killed her kids because she loved them so much)

I remember at least 3 cases in Ireland that the man was the perpetrator and he was "a lovely man" "pillar of the community" "wouldn't hurt a fly" One of these men had murdered his 3 children and his wife. Makes me sick

I'm open to your theory, but IMO it's more that articles tend to fixate on killers (and their morbid motives), and killers tend to be men.

Even when mothers have killed their children (quite frequent in fact), or women have killed other women, or women have killed children (eg Lucy Letby), I've noticed the articles barely gloss over their victims, and mostly focus on the killer women and dissecting their lives. This is especially so if the killer woman is white and middle-class.

In recent years, within mainstream media, there's been a movement to not give killers attention (e.g. by using victims' photos instead of killer's photos in headline articles). But this has been accompanied by the rise of True Crime where people love hearing about murderers' personality, lives, upbringing, motives, etc.

In the initial article, there were many tributes to the man involved and just one regarding the women, which simple said ‘she was no trouble’. The article has since been revised.

No information apart from the fact that the police said it’s a murder investigation, I guess.

You have lost me. Unless they were found in a smoking ruin a gas leak seems to be an odd thing to assume

Why would you assume a gas leak? There doesn't seem to any information released on how they died.

Which is the point I was making.

Why would you assume a gas leak? There doesn't seem to any information released on how they died.

Again, all this speculation is painful for the families and could possibly hinder any future legal proceedings.

However, they initially said a murder investigation, but did not repeat that when they updated with not looking for anyone else.

So let's just wait, shall we?

This! I'm confused if they've revised it or something because it really doesn't reflect what the OP is saying. And I do think there's a problem with this kind of representation of men who murder their significant others, but this article is a poor example.

That's what I understood from the article.

Thanks for explaining @HoldingTheDoor, makes a bit more sense now.

The article you shared is literally half and half (if anything her bit is longer) and mentions her first.

Can you share better examples so we can see if you even have a point, or are just trying to turn this poor woman's death into something else to make your point?

I agree with you OP.
It makes me so angry.

Police have referred themselves to the IOPC because of previous police contact with the deceased.

I’m trying to work out what this might mean. Are they talking about contact In a professional capacity- paramedic and police? Or something else? And why would the police need to refer themselves to IOPC? Sorry if I’m being dense, just trying to make sense of it.

How does it usually pan out in these cases?
The articles also make numerous references to his previous mental health issues, the fact that he wrote a ‘disturbing’ letter before the incident…