Page 3 | To feel so upset and frustrated when things like this happen?

sayhelloooo · 2024-06-29T07:42:04+00:00

No one’s fault, just one of those things. Ds has weekly swimming lessons which aren’t cheap and for the past two weeks hasn’t been able to go because his costume has vanished. It turned up during the week but this morning had disappeared again. (Normally yes everything is ready but this week has been very disrupted.) I am so frustrated and upset with myself I feel like crying. And yes am ordering him a new one!

GettingAwayFromYou · 29/06/2024 09:08

Could you ask another parent to bring an extra one for him to borrow? Don't know if people are grossed out by that kind of thing.

opalsandcoffee · 29/06/2024 09:07

I hate this. it always happens when I am stressed already. That is when I put something down somewhere and suddenly don't know where it is when it was in my hand a few minutes ago. Its being stressed that leads to doing something forgetful, which multiplies the stress and leads me to be more and more forgetful, until I literally feel like screaming

Willmafrockfit · 29/06/2024 09:06

i avoid buying black for this reason, ie black gloves, hopeless

Overthebow · 29/06/2024 09:05

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:47

He’s only three so no

Normally I take him but felt pretty bad last weekend so asked DH if he would. I packed the bag with everything but then we got the timings confused. Went to get the bag now and costume has disappeared.

Why him being 3 mean he hasn’t hidden it? My dd is 3 and this is definitely something she would do if she didn’t want to go to her lessons.

MissingKitty · 29/06/2024 09:04

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:01

You’re missing a week Kitty. He missed last week, he’s missed this week. I am buying him another today. I’m not really sure what else you want me to say!

From the wording of your OP I thought he’d missed the last 2 and then you can’t find it again today. Not sure what you want anyone else to say either, you were ill so didn’t check and you’ve ordered an extra costume. It’s not something that particularly requires sympathy and you don’t like anyone’s suggestions 🤷‍♀️

Testina · 29/06/2024 09:04

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:59

I guess he’s just never needed two … we go once a week so it’s been fine. And they are expensive and he grows quickly. But you know the original one will turn up the second I take the tags off the new one

Expensive? I’ve just seen 2 pair set for £6.67 on Amazon! I don’t want to be that arsehole who assume £6.67 is easy to find for anyone, but he’s in private swimming lessons at the age of 3, so I’ll assume you can afford that.

Girlputyourrecordson · 29/06/2024 09:04

How annoying for you! I've definitely sent ds to swimming with dh without his swim shorts. I'd told ds to put them on under his clothes but he hadn't. So annoying. Luckily, the leisure centre sells them though, so dh just bought some on the way in. Now we have a spare pair which is good tbh.

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:02

Roundroundthegarden · 29/06/2024 09:01

You still aren't answering how if you've packed it yourself, it 'disappears'.

Because I don’t know, do I? That sentence is ‘said’ in a bewildered tone not an aggressive one by the way but seriously how can I know that?!

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Circularbreathing6789 · 29/06/2024 09:01

For the future op, buy a drawstring swim bag and gym bag, and say football bag (or whatever sport he does) hang them on dedicated pegs on the back of a downstairs door, and as soon as it comes back from school, wash and dry and be absolutely fanatical about putting it straight back in to bag with his towel. This system avoids specialist items of clothing going AWOL all over the house.

You can make a similar system with school uniform and dedicate one special area to school underwear, socks, sweat shirts, polo shirts and trousers etc, and wash enough for an entire week.

It saves all kind of hassle. And make sure everything is labelled.

Good luck.

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:01

You’re missing a week Kitty. He missed last week, he’s missed this week. I am buying him another today. I’m not really sure what else you want me to say!

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Roundroundthegarden · 29/06/2024 09:01

You still aren't answering how if you've packed it yourself, it 'disappears'.

Furrydogmum · 29/06/2024 09:00

What time is his lesson? Call for one at Sainsburys or similar en route.

MissingKitty · 29/06/2024 09:00

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:59

I guess he’s just never needed two … we go once a week so it’s been fine. And they are expensive and he grows quickly. But you know the original one will turn up the second I take the tags off the new one

You say he’s never needed 2 but this is week 3 of missing swimming because you can’t find the costume, so he does!

Alittlefrustrated · 29/06/2024 08:59

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:56

@Alittlefrustrated the thing is you’re doing that MN thing of assuming that because you or your child have or had your lessons at a pool that sells costumes and that you live somewhere presumably with lots of supermarkets and so on everyone does.

DS has his lessons at a private pool which certainly doesn’t sell costumes and the journey there is a twenty minute one through beautiful country but unless you want to buy eggs or fresh milk you will not spend any money!

Fair enough

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:59

I guess he’s just never needed two … we go once a week so it’s been fine. And they are expensive and he grows quickly. But you know the original one will turn up the second I take the tags off the new one

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:58

@MissingKitty well yes someone must have but it wasn’t me and they didn’t tell me they had.

As I say it’s been a busy week, I’ve been very unwell and so everything is in chaos but I don’t get any particular sympathy for it so came here (ha!)

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Testina · 29/06/2024 08:57

It’s so frustrating because I always keep all the swimming stuff in one place I just feel really bad for DS, there’s only a couple more sessions left until summer break. It’s one thing missing it for genuine reasons but through just bad organisation is awful really.

These 2 sentences just don’t fit together. When you say they turned up last time, where was that? An obvious logical mistake place like still at the bottom of the wash basket - or somewhere random which would suggest deliberate hiding?

Roundroundthegarden · 29/06/2024 08:57

How on earth is it getting lost. Seems ridiculous that if you physically packed it, it then disappeared? 3x too? How does that happen. Why doesn't he have two though ?

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:56

@Alittlefrustrated the thing is you’re doing that MN thing of assuming that because you or your child have or had your lessons at a pool that sells costumes and that you live somewhere presumably with lots of supermarkets and so on everyone does.

DS has his lessons at a private pool which certainly doesn’t sell costumes and the journey there is a twenty minute one through beautiful country but unless you want to buy eggs or fresh milk you will not spend any money!

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LlynTegid · 29/06/2024 08:56

Use it as a starting point about tidiness and putting things in a set place that are important not to lose. Better that as a starting point and you may save grief as he gets older and keeps losing a bus pass or keys.

Even given his young age.

MissingKitty · 29/06/2024 08:56

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:52

I do say in my OP that I’ll be getting another one but I can’t do that just before the lesson. There’s no need for the face, I’m upset with myself as it is.

@MissingKitty it was packed the WEEK before. But if the costume isn’t here it isn’t here.

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It clearly needed double checking OP which is better to do the night before than on the morning. It’s not a big deal missing swimming, just frustrating for you, but it’s obviously not actually just ‘one of those things’ that costumes walk off after packing, someone took it out or it wasn’t put in in the first place. So it’s best to double check the night before

MasterBeth · 29/06/2024 08:55

Just buy trunks at the pool.

TotHappy · 29/06/2024 08:55

I'm not upset per se but I am unable to let go of a similar missing swimming bag. Dd has loads of costumes so it hasn't caused a problem but she went swimming with her aunty about a year ago and dropped her bag somewhere when she ran in. The bag has never been seen again. WHERE is it??? Aunty insists it wasn't left in the car and has double checked. Both insist she carried it in. It was her school drawstring bag with goggles, costumes, towel. All have replaced and forgotten now by all but me - WHERE IS THE BAG. It niggles at me when nothing else is on my mind. How can something completely vanish.

Testina · 29/06/2024 08:55

Long shot, but if you’re sure you packed it… is your husband an arsehole who is annoyed at being made to actually parent, and has “lost” them? Seems a leap, but frankly MN is full of arseholian husbands.

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:55

It’s so frustrating because I always keep all the swimming stuff in one place. I just feel really bad for DS, there’s only a couple more sessions left until summer break. It’s one thing missing it for genuine reasons but through just bad organisation is awful really.

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