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To feel so upset and frustrated when things like this happen?

90 replies

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 08:42

No one’s fault, just one of those things. Ds has weekly swimming lessons which aren’t cheap and for the past two weeks hasn’t been able to go because his costume has vanished. It turned up during the week but this morning had disappeared again. (Normally yes everything is ready but this week has been very disrupted.)

I am so frustrated and upset with myself I feel like crying. And yes am ordering him a new one!

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Barrenfieldoffucks · 29/06/2024 12:21

Go via Sainsbury's/Tesco etc and buy one.

Goggles are our killers, we are always losing them

Firtreeandpinecones · 29/06/2024 12:19

So frustrating!

Has it gone through a wormhole to a parallel universe?

Moier · 29/06/2024 12:18

My Grandson has 5 pairs of swim shorts.
Surely you could nip to primark and buy a couple more pairs

Crunchymum · 29/06/2024 12:15

Why didn't you just send him in shorts / pants?

Why all the angst?

Inspireme2 · 29/06/2024 12:11

Yoir child doesnt have a pair of shorts or boxer ubderwear he could wear?

Stripeysocks1981 · 29/06/2024 12:10

I really don’t understand this. It isn’t growing legs and climbing out of the bag itself?
also they’re not expensive you can get cheap swimmers for a three year old for a fiver. I’d buy him a few pairs.
pack his bag and leave it in the car! Also pack if the day before so you’ve got time to plan if you can’t find his things again.

BibbleandSqwauk · 29/06/2024 12:08

@ShallWeGoToTheFirepit op has said they live rurally so no nearby supermarket on the way. OP I would say this actually gets worse as they get older and you aren't in the changing room with them. Mine are early teens and do my head in with the amount of stuff they lose. I do recommend ordering a couple of spares of pretty much everything if you can afford to, a size up will be fine in an emergency and then they're not wasted.

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 29/06/2024 12:05

Swing by a supermarket on the way? I don't understand all this upset about a pair of trunks.

Heparit · 29/06/2024 11:59

Alittlefrustrated · 29/06/2024 08:54

Yes, but you can buy one at the pool, or, cheaper, supermarket on the way. My 3 yearold was plenty able to hide things. I used to find shrivelled veggies in my ornaments in rooms other than the kitchen!

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One of mine went through a stage of hiding things in footwear. Check your boots OP!

Moveoverdarlin · 29/06/2024 11:54

My 3 kids have swimming on a Thursday. I stick all their towels and shorts and costumes in the wash as soon as we get home. Next day it’s all dry and I pack their swimming bags and stick them in the car ready for next week. Shorts for a 3 year old will be about £2 from Primark. Go and buy 3 pairs.

Scottishshortbread11877 · 29/06/2024 11:50

Scottishshortbread11877 · 29/06/2024 11:46

Swimming costumes are for sale at the pool.

Just saw your private pool does not have any.

Scottishshortbread11877 · 29/06/2024 11:46

Swimming costumes are for sale at the pool.

poppiepudding · 29/06/2024 10:10

just stick a pair of underpants on him?

Mrsdyna · 29/06/2024 09:34

Just keep spare trunks in your boot, try and preempt things like this as much as you can.

EatingSleeping · 29/06/2024 09:29

You're getting an unnecessarily hard time here. It sounds like life has been full to the brim and the swimming kit has been the last straw for you and you understandably want to have a moan and stamp your feet. It's compounded by feeling like a bad mum.

Like others I lose things and I tend y have multiples to make my life easier. Things like uniforms. And when everything is going smoothly yes I check the bags the night before and I'm a model efficiency human. But when life is full and I'm frazzled I just don't and that will be the time that the shorts will be missing or I can't find a lunchbox you can guarantee.

Cut yourself some slack out the TV on and get find it buy some new shorts later. Yur kid won't be irreparably damaged by missing swimming one (or even three) weeks and it sounds like you could do with a lazy morning

AmiShitsaline · 29/06/2024 09:20

Can’t he just wear shorts or underpants for this time?

Codlingmoths · 29/06/2024 09:19

I am sorry for the upset. Unfortunately it’s clear it has happened because your dh doesn’t take responsibility for the house and parenting. I suggest you change that when you’re better. I’ve never packed a swim bag for when Dh takes them swimming. And I’ve had sharp words about getting it all rinsed and cleaned afterwards.

Beautiful3 · 29/06/2024 09:19

This used to happen to.me too. I bought bright coloured waterproof bags (red/yellow). As soon as the swimming costumes and towels were washed and dried, I'd stick them straight into the bags. I'd hang them up on the coat rack. It worked.

Testina · 29/06/2024 09:18

You still haven’t said where it turned up last time! That might help to understand what’s going on.

I groaned at this though - not another MN useless husband. Tell him to drive to supermarket / sort the replacement.
”It’s more likely DH has put it somewhere. It’s why I should not get ill!”

MissingKitty · 29/06/2024 09:17

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:13

I was pretty upset @MissingKitty and there have been some nice kind posts which make me realise it’s one of those annoying things that happen from time to time and not me being a crap mum. Don’t worry though, yours wasn’t one of them <sigh>

@opalsandcoffee totally. I can’t see DS hiding it himself, if he hid something he’d come to say something like ‘I have hidden my costume so we cannot go swimming ha ha!’ It’s more likely DH has put it somewhere. It’s why I should not get ill!

Yeah I didn’t suggest you were being a crap mum, I said it’s better to check the night before, way to dramatise though 🙄

DidILeaveTheGasOn · 29/06/2024 09:16

Op, I'm sorry some of the replies haven't been very supportive. I don't think it's really about the swimming trunks at all. It sounds like you've been really poorly and now you've got that double whammy of recovering and also realising the house has begun to descend into chaos whilst you've been poorly. It sounds like you could do with a hug and a bit of TLC to be honest!
Hope you're back up to 100% soon.

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sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:13

I was pretty upset @MissingKitty and there have been some nice kind posts which make me realise it’s one of those annoying things that happen from time to time and not me being a crap mum. Don’t worry though, yours wasn’t one of them <sigh>

@opalsandcoffee totally. I can’t see DS hiding it himself, if he hid something he’d come to say something like ‘I have hidden my costume so we cannot go swimming ha ha!’ It’s more likely DH has put it somewhere. It’s why I should not get ill!

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Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 29/06/2024 09:12

sayhelloooo · 29/06/2024 09:02

Because I don’t know, do I? That sentence is ‘said’ in a bewildered tone not an aggressive one by the way but seriously how can I know that?!

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Well, things don't just unpack. So if you didn't, someone else did. 3yr olds CAN hide things!

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 29/06/2024 09:10

Are you sure it's not wrapped in the towel?
My son's swim bag comes home from swimming, stuff washed and dried and straight back in the bag. No need for two costumes etc.

FizzyStream · 29/06/2024 09:08

@Overthebow agreed. Off topic but when I was three I hid my mums car keys because I preferred going on the bus. 40 years later and she's still not let me forget it!