Why did school mum do this?

People would know me as that mum, chatty one day, in another world another, there is honestly no rhyme or reason and I’m sure people think I’m crazy/ rude/ don’t care, but you just have to catch me on the right day, which sounds awful and weird but sometimes I need the right lead in from someone. And I know you say she spoke to someone else fine but that happens to me too, or maybe she had to to organise something. I would say it’s totally not you and you may gel again

I'm rubbish at recognising faces. She might be too.

I'm a bit face blind for some sorts of faces and yeah I honestly will not recognize some people in the street unexpectedly (like my next door neighbour being the most recent). I compensate for it sometimes by recognising clothes, walking patterns etc but without my glasses at a distance it's hopeless.

I found quite a few of the school mums were like this, they were absolutely hateful. I was glad when my children moved to bigger schools where there was less contact with other parents. Unfortunately some people are totally mannerless and seriously up themselves. Simple as that.

Yes, I once had a long, lovely conversation with a woman I met in the playground, and was very taken aback when she totally blanked me the next day and for weeks afterwards - I only found out from neighbours months later that she was very visually impaired, and wouldn’t have been able to see me unless I stood very close to her and spoke. She was perfectly cordial when I ended up sitting next to her on the bus.

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Does she actually recognise you? I used to do school pick up straight after the gym so had gym clothes on and my hair back in a pony tail.
I was blanked at a social evening by someone I chatted to every day. Turned out they are a bit face blind and with my hair down and a dress on I looked like a total stranger.

The other week I went to pick up my Dd from a play date. I sat in this families kitchen for the best part of an hour and chatted and drank tea.
The next day I went to pick my Dd up from cricket and managed to walk straight past, with no acknowledgement, the father from the exact same family. I was so distracted I just completely missed that it was him. I was mortified.
I don’t know anything about this woman but it’s possible she didn’t do it on purpose.

Did she blank you or just didn't hear? I've done that many times, totally ignored someone as I was in my own little world, and didn't realise they'd spoken to me until I'd walked past and my brain got into gear.

I have a colleague like this. We work different days so I don't see her all the time but some times when I see her she's really chatty and friendly, then other times she blanks me or just sort of grunts when I greet her in the morning.
It used to bother me but now I see it as her issue not mine. I know I've done nothing wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have a few friends who don’t wear their glasses when they should

Im pretty bad at not spotting people till it’s too late too to be honest .

might be nothing in it - if there is it says more about her than you

Maybe she has things going on in her life that she's upset/worried about? 🤷‍♂️

Why would you immediately conclude it was all about you?

The most logical answer is she didn't hear you.

I am partially deaf and if I'm facing you and we are talking you probably wouldn't realise. If I am not looking at you when you start talking I won't hear you.

Or she was just preoccupied and didn't notice you. I wouldn't take it so personally until it happens more than once.

Had she been drinking?

She might be socially awkward and avoids talking to people if she doesn't have to.

Absolutely what PP said- she probably didn’t see you, either because she was lost in her own thoughts or because she’s a bit short sighted (it happens!)
Please don’t take this personally like so many people on MN seem to

Like most things it will be about her not you.

She was probably busy thinking about something and didn't see you