To feel insulted and hurt...

I am surprised how ending it does not work if it is only your house?

Tell hum you want him out in a week.
Start packing his shit.
Call someone to change locks and put his stuff outside.
Done.
Proceed to engage with a solicitor as you share DCs and arrange how to deal with that via court.

The lack of apology isn't really the issue. The issue is that he's such a cunt in the first place

Agree. What a horrible, horrible man. You will be so much better alone @isitme852

You need help- but you need to be firm as well. You need to tell him the deadline that he needs to be out by. You need to approach the police and ask for support to remove him. But you have to be clear in your own mind that he needs to go.

His level of entitlement is off the scale. He is behaving as though you should be grateful to be living in HIS house.

I hope you can find the strength to evict the pair of them.

He hit her and now he wants a key to her house...

Do yourself the favour of your life and sling them both out!

Sorry op, your boundaries are too low.

You’re paying for practically everything.
It’s your house.
You can’t have sex for health reasons and your arsehole dp is pushy and nasty.
You literally spend time arguing with your dp or bending over backwards for him and his horrid dc.

You’re just a cash machine and hotel that’s gets trashed by the customers.

Throw them both out.

Your husbands son HIT YOU.

Didn't you post about your stepson a few months ago? You were scared of him because of his behaviour; he'd broken your fingers, punched you and smashed his room up. The details in the post are uncannily similar to this one.

Whether that was your thread or not the advice is the same. Your partner and his son both need to find somewhere else to live. You and your children deserve better.

His feeling are NOT more importantly than yours, he is selfishly missing the heart of the matter.

The intimacy thing sounds terrible. In such a circumstance I can image my partner says he misses me or our time together and is sad too. This sounds like he is only concerned about his own intimate and emotional needs.

I would say.

1. I am not intimate for reasons you understand.

1. I don't understand why you feel I do not want your DS here. In future set aside time to talk properly and agree a solution together that we are both comfortable with. I will not talk about this in front of the children.

He can have whatever feelings he wants. You can wholeheartedly disagree with them. You do not need to defend yourself against such nonsense.

I would probably ask him to keep vents about these type of feelings to himself. He can have whatever feelings he wants, he doesn't not need to visit these things on you, especially if you have told him they are hurtful.

(I would simply agree with them). He sounds like an arse.

Yet another post of a woman doing all the work, holding everything together for the family at great cost to herself, whilst an absolutely disgusting arse of a man can only think about himself.

That the woman herself is choosing.

I am open mouthed reading that.

He is absolutely disgusting.

I am so sorry OP.

Yet another post of a woman doing all the work, holding everything together for the family at great cost to herself, whilst an absolutely disgusting arse of a man can only think about himself.

This x1000.

He sounds horrible. Your kids don't need to be dealing with him around and all the tension. Get rid. You are not responsible for housing him and his son.

Also you feel hurt, but have you spared a thought to your kids who had to live with these people because of you?

And yes, to add to what everyone has said.

YOU DON'T NEED HIS PERMISSION TO END THE RELATIONSHIP.

It's your decision - nothing to do with him now.

He wants to have sex with you even though he knows it will hurt you.

This is one of the most upsetting things I think i've read on here and I've been around for 15-odd years.

What kind of monster, seriously?

As for the rest of it - he's an abusive shit who is using you. His DS is violent and has behavioural issues that are not your problem.

You have to separate for the sake of your own children, even if you can't do it for yourself.

I have to ask, why are you with this man? He doesn't seem to bring much to the table - his son has HIT you and still you're told that you're not making him feel welcome? I wonder why that is?

He doesn't care that the person he is supposed to cherish is in pain and wants sex regardless? That really is shocking - he doesn't care at all.

He is a cocklodger.

Unless your DP has some amazing qualities unmentioned so far - you should remove his key too and let both males stay on the other side of your door.

You do not deserve to be treated like this.

Hope your op goes well and that your future is better with the removal of all the pains in your life.

You're getting some pretty hard reality reflected back to you Isitme852 - and I'm sorry for that. But this really is an untenable situation and I don't see a way back for your relationship from here.

You don't have to act immediately, take a breath. Think of your DDs and your future. Don't get hung up on his problems (like finding accommodation). And when you're ready - tell him he and his son have to go. Please though - don't leave it too long

You don't need his permission to end the relationship. If that's what you want to do, you have the right to do it. I know it's easier said than done but if you feel you need permission, we are giving it to you!

So angry to read this... what a bully... my friend had endo so severe she couldn't have sex.. I'd see her laid up for days with pain...
Get rid of these two horrible males

And you reply “of course you are, but I don’t like your opinions and I don’t love you anymore. This relationship is over. Please leave”

You don’t need his permission to end it. He will gaslight you and try and make you feel like he is a victim, especially to his son. Those aren’t reasons to stay. You’re sacrificing your own happiness for someone who doesn’t care about you. Put yourself and your children first.

Yes ,I wrote kick them out ...it was just the initial reaction to the situation as I read it
Two men bullying the op ,one for sex and the other for ....
I'm lost for words ...but op your poor daughter in all this .
But yes , people on here will have so much good advice if you want them out

You don’t need his permission to break up with him and tell him to leave.

OP please correct me if I am wrong, but it seems to me that you want them out and your partner is pushing back on this?

If this is the case, please tell us simply, and the wiser on here can advise how to do this safely and clearly and permanantly.

'Chuck them out' isn't helpful. What one under each arm?
Leaving bags on the doorstep is going to cause a furore, with accusations and reasons to return.
He will try to stay. You need absolute clarity here.

If this is what OP wants, can we please discus how she can do this safely?