DH booked a trip for him for my birthday

Looking at the site info there’s no power, and there is a camp fire to cook on but you have to take your own utensils, oh and toilet roll. Ha!

Does this even qualify as glamping?

I thought the point was that you didn't have to take anything except clothes, toiletries & food if you want to.

Your DH probably thinks this will be a lovely break for you as he finds holidays so relaxing, that's because you organise everything, and pack, look after the kids and do all the clean up after. Let him do it all Op, you do what he normally does, if he complains just remind him you said No trips. As soon as you give in and take over he'll learn nothing

@MrsDurrells
And go buy and pack ALL the food. Pack all the toiletries and extra necessities. THEN, when you get to this trip you did not want, for your birthday, cook all the meals, do all the cleaning up. Don't forget when you get home to do ALL the unpacking, the washing, the cleaning of shoes, etc. Then do another shop for food now that you are home.

ALL for the trip you did not WANT for your birthday. After all, what is important is what the "man" (using that term loosely) wants to do for YOUR birthday.

For your NVDH's BD, be sure to have a spa day, with body waxing, eyebrow plucking, mani-pedi etc. for the two of you. Then go to a fancy hotel for a tea party. He should love that as much as you will love this "glamping trip".

I have a horrible feeling there's no WiFi at the campsite ... 🥺

pandasorous,

Yes. drop something unpleasant and run. Of course it's a man.
We are getting more and more of them popping in to give us the benefit of their wisdom.
They cannot see how pathetic it makes them look.

it's not drama to enforce previously laid down boundaries.

are you a man?

Let him take the kids away for the weekend and you spend your birthday doing what you would prefer to do.
You'll probably get lumbered with the laundry when they return but at least you have a couple of days to yourself.

I would rather go thru labor again then this trip. At least the hospital has ac.

Ugh. Do any real women fall for this ‘we are so useless…’ bollocks? Yeah, not useless when it comes to stuff you actually want to do, or paid (more than women) to do are you?

But donkey work and domestic slavery you’ll happily sit back and leave it to us ‘fantastic girls’. This whole post is misogyny hidden behind a charming tousled-hair man-boy persona. Utterly cuntish.

He caused a mess.
UGH.
Lots of deleted comments and rage, I see.
Hopefully, the OP will be able to enjoy herself and put her feet up....at least for good couple of hours.
The bloody "glamping" for her birthday got me.
Young children as well.
I'm not sure how I would approach the situation from here, no such experience, no love for "glamping", no kids.
(And I sometimes pack for my husband,
for many reasons, his age being one).
The kids probably gonna like it.
What difference it would make
if this damn husband listened to the OP.

send him glamping with DC and you have a weekend at home alone - perfect!

Well you're probably on the way now so I would relax and have a good time making clear it's your birthday treat, which means not preparing meals etc and sitting there with a nice glass of wine while DH plays with the kids. I wouldn't mind it tbh and it sounds as though he tried to get it together, apart from obviously ignoring your initial request!

I thought we were 'fantastic (and complex)'. Is that just until any of us disagree with you?

'OH MY GOD IT"S HIS WIFE'

No, mine's cute.

OH MY GOD IT"S HIS WIFE

Lol, I run a couple of businesses, and employ a few. But I'll delete my post now because I see it offends a few wet behind the ears that don't accept true life.

Unfortunately men playing dumb and doing exactly as they wish, whilst dumping on their wives is true life. We reserve the right to be offended by it and reject it.

You don't run a couple of businesses and employ a few. Guess how I know?

‘I’ve booked us a trip that is in a place you don’t want to visit and it doesn’t have all the facilities like a private bathroom or electricity that we have at home. Even though you clearly said no trips, I booked it anyway because I don’t care about what you want’

What kind of shit birthday present is that? I would have refused to go.

You can't delete your own posts and fortunately there are plenty of men who would be embarrassed to be as incompetent and unthinking as you

You might want to take on board what the grownups are saying

You clearly think you're being funny but I wonder whether your wife thinks you are

Oh, and less of the 'wet behind the ears' comments Sonny Jim.

I'd be mortified if you were a son of mine with an attitude like this

Lol, I run a couple of businesses, and employ a few. But I'll delete my post now because I see it offends a few wet behind the ears that don't accept true life.

I hope you're not actually the 12 year old boy you sound like.

Do you manage to hold down a job?

How?

Oh this is ridiculous!

He thought about it and did it anyway?

I think if I'd expressly told my husband that I did not want to go on a trip for my birthday, and he planned one anyway, I wouldn't go.

We don’t do camping / glamping as I know it will fall to me to sort. Please do stick to your guns while you’re away and let him address any problem 100% himself.

completely echo the poster who said some men think going on holiday means holding their passport through passport control. The week before May half term someone at a party asked dh where we were going to on holiday. He couldn’t name the country we were going to, much less the resort. All the other men thought it was hilarious, me, not so much.