To expect to share alcohol?

Thank goodness that man did ‘share’ his alcohol! Sounds like he had enough to drink anyway. How silly of him, all he had to say was a) This is mine, get your own or b) Who’s getting the next bottle when this one’s done?! Simple!

Good you got out of there. Leave him and his precious vodka to it. Have you heard from your other friends today? Does the bloke feel like a petty twat for starting a physical fight over a bloody bottle of vodka?

Whether you share alcohol or not isn't relevant, I don't tend to with DB and SIL because they like sweets drinks, fruit cider or alcopops , SIL once offered me candy floss flavoured gin with cream soda, I like dry white wine , but in those situations if offered I just say no thanks I'll stick with what I've brought I'm a bit fussy with drinks!

The big issue here is that the man physically attacked your partner!!

That acquaintance couple sound pretty low rent. You & your DH did nothing wrong.

I think the man was the violent one, not the woman?

You keep saying things like “within this friendship group we share” “in our group” etc. but you weren’t in “your group”, you were with one couple you usually socialise with and one you don’t. It’s coming across as very mean girls, superior and exclusionary which makes me wonder if there’s more to this.

You're coming across as really obtuse.
If the couple don't want to share all they had to do was say so.
But the woman was happily drinking the ops wine.
You can't have it both ways.
It was up to the violent couple to tell the others don't touch my alcohol.

Was it an expensive bottle of spirit and you bought cheap wine?

This is one thread where I'd love to hear the other couple's version of events.

Plus even the OP doesn't know what was said among the men when they were getting drunk.

Disclaimer: I'm not saying the guy was right to clump the OP's husband.

But I do wonder why the other couple didn't insist they guy left instead of OP and her DH.

To be honest I think your DH may have been a bit out of line, but there was no excuse for the row that followed or their reaction.

I'm assuming you offered to share your bottle of wine? They didn't just go and help themselves to it?

If you DH just assumed that he could have some of their spirit because you offered to share your wine and he kept drinking it I'd be a bit miffed with him too. I would never just start drinking something that didn't belong to me, or that I hadn't bought, it is rude.

I’d have burst into tears at that shit ‘breakfast’ so don’t worry about your ‘shocked face’ op!

What the actual fuck, are you serious?

You would have burst into tears over some breakfast items??

I think OP is coming across a bit superior - ‘oh I wouldn’t normally eat that kind of food’, ‘nice nibbles like crisps, olives and breadsticks’, ‘in my group we do it this way’.

it isn’t showing much grace or understanding for people maybe coming from a different economic background to her or that people not in her friendship group are not bound by her normal friendship group. Maybe they didn’t want to be seen as too ‘wasteful’ with someone else’s money either.

That said, I do wonder if the man of the other couple is prone to heavy drinking and violence. I would check in with the wife if you had been getting on with her before the fight as there could be more going on there.

It is easy to accuse people of being tight if they are helping themselves to your stash, and kicking off if you drink theirs.

It is wrong to accuse someone of being tight if they've said 'Look, the alcohol is off limits. We have brought what we can, and that's for us'.

I wouldn’t expect to share alcohol as my friends all like different drinks (I love my mini bottles of sparkling wine which aren’t very shareable). One of my best friends is the nicest people you’d ever meet but if anyone touches her New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc she really really doesn’t like it. My DH made this mistake once.
I wouldn’t share with my DH’s side of the family either as they are very much ‘wine police’ and I can’t be doing with it.
So over the years I find it’s best to keep
alcohol for personal consumption at group events.

They sound utterly vile. Violent grabby twats. I’d have burst into tears at that shit ‘breakfast’ so don’t worry about your ‘shocked face’ op! You did the right thing to get away asap.

Does the birthday person know what kicked off? what are their thoughts?

Aside from who paid, cheap teabags, spirits and wine, I just wouldn’t want to holiday with someone that physically fights over a bottle of whiskey or whatever. They sound like scum. Glad you left. You did the right thing.

It is easy to accuse other people of being tight if they have to be more careful with money than you. It is easy to be generous and spend money on others when you have the money.

You have basically said that you've reflected on this and realised some of your errors. The biggest of which was allowing them to do the shop when you are a vegetarian. I'm vegan and wouldn't dream of agreeing to give money to people to purchase food for me, even if I highlighted I was vegan. Unless they also followed the same diet of course.

Regarding the alcohol, I don't think yabu in the slightest. They do sound tight and the man's behaviour to attack you partner is disgusting. Sorry you went through that.

And truthfully, you brought at least 3 bottles and beer and and you say the other couple brought similar. That is pretty heavy drinking in my books whatever you think. A couple of large glasses of wine is easily half a bottle of wine.
I find though people who regularly drink a lot never think they do.