To expect to share alcohol?

I think you can like different food, but then it was your error to agree to let them buy and share food.
Their food sounds fine to me.
But i wouldnt be happy if it looked like they pocketed extra money.
Even as vegipgie you aphad choice of
Toast
Beans
Cereal
Eggs

OP stop justifying yourself - you are correct.

I have unfortunately learned that there are people who think it's appropriate to, for example, bring a bottle to your house and expect to sit and drink only that. They just don't realise that this is the height of poor manners and not the reverse. If you are coming to someone's house, you bring a gift for the host and then drink what you are served (unless you're a 16 year old at a house party). Even if you would have preferred to drink/consume your gift, you accept that as a 'sunk cost' of attending a social event which someone else has kindly hosted for you. In a communal situation, the correct etiquette is that everything is communal. This is not in question unless you have no manners.

Why are on earth are you going on holiday with the type of people who start physical fights?!

Oh no I agree...I just found it odd you (OH) would take wine and beer and then drink vodka...seems strange leep.

If you don't drink it often perhaps taking too much.

I think you were just very different with very different expectations and although I think I would be somewhere in the middle I lean toward your approach.

Regularly get together as friends both at home and on holiday and what we bring is fair game unless it's very specifically mentioned. I do think this is a failure to communicate clearly but that doesn't mean violence is ever ok!

Burst into tears? It was bog standard bacon, sausages, baked beans and toast, not a baby unicorn!

YANBU. If you like someone enough to go on holiday with them (even people you don't know that well), the social norm is that you like them enough to share with them and the group. Surely even toddlers know that?? Even from a purely practical note, it's impossible to make everything completely "fair", eg) everyone having exactly a 6th of the resources, in this case. The obvious exception being if one person is visibly contributing nothing at all and are just freeloading. But in what you are describing, you are not unreasonable at all - they are definitely the ones acting in an extremely odd and unpleasant way. You would have thought if they felt that strongly, they would have stayed somewhere just the two of them? Where they could keep their precious vodka and margarine safely under lock and key 😂

Please don’t listen to the people calling you snobby or superior op. I live in a working class deprived area but most of the people I know would turn their nose up at cheap as shit basic stuff brought to a communal event where people had chipped in.

Even if you eat Asda Smartprice at home all the time, nobody with half a brain brings that to a party. Especially with other people’s money. And other people you don’t know well. That’s just tightwad CFers who are thick and don’t have any social graces.

You aren't big drinkers
And you brought wine and beer....but OH still had more than one vodka before dinner?
Who drinks vodka before dinner?

If someone offered me a glass of wine, a beer or a vodka I wouldn't just help myself to a second...I would ask.
It would be different if I had a bottle of wine and said to a friend would you like to share the wine...then she can help herself (but most people try to keep it even)

This couple sound like tight killjoy cheapskates, and know you weren’t wromg to assume they would share cheap vodka when they were happily tucking into your stuff! If they had said no thanks we will stick to what we brought you might have gathered they were of a different view, but them taking yours happily would give the impression sharing was all good! What a nasty piece of work to punch your dh as well. And I would be equally horrified if I’d pitched in for breakfast and they’d shopped like that!

But going forward I don't think this couple would be invited again

Have you spoken to any of the friends since you both walked out that night? What was said?

Obviously groups of people from very different economic / social backgrounds.

I feel a bit sad reading it.

The fact that you looked visibly "shocked" at the cheap bread and crisps they'd bought won't have made them feel good. And they will have noticed that you'd snuck out for breakfast rather than eat the food they'd bought.

(Also, it sounds like you didn't tell them you are vegetarian, is that right?)

Two sides to every story, but I'm willing to bet they picked up on your snobby attitude and emotions were running high due to that.

OP, you’ve picked up some weird responses on this thread, presumably from people offended on behalf of crisps and baked beans.

Why do you think he tried to batter your husband then?

And what did the other couple say once your husband sobered up and came to collect the car?

Thank goodness that man did ‘share’ his alcohol! Sounds like he had enough to drink anyway. How silly of him, all he had to say was a) This is mine, get your own or b) Who’s getting the next bottle when this one’s done?! Simple!

Good you got out of there. Leave him and his precious vodka to it. Have you heard from your other friends today? Does the bloke feel like a petty twat for starting a physical fight over a bloody bottle of vodka?

Whether you share alcohol or not isn't relevant, I don't tend to with DB and SIL because they like sweets drinks, fruit cider or alcopops , SIL once offered me candy floss flavoured gin with cream soda, I like dry white wine , but in those situations if offered I just say no thanks I'll stick with what I've brought I'm a bit fussy with drinks!

The big issue here is that the man physically attacked your partner!!

You keep saying things like “within this friendship group we share” “in our group” etc. but you weren’t in “your group”, you were with one couple you usually socialise with and one you don’t. It’s coming across as very mean girls, superior and exclusionary which makes me wonder if there’s more to this.