To expect to share alcohol?

I can't believe the hard time you are getting here, OP! THey behaved appallingly, he attacked your DP and posters here are basically victim blaming you, as if you deserved it for being "snobbish" about white bread and baked beans! (subtext: you think you are better than working class people - the only people who obviously like white bread - therefore you deserve being beaten up).
I hope you never have to see them again!

If PPs would actually read @Riversideandrelax ‘s posts, they’d see that the OP says (upthread) that she’s knows she’s not unreasonable about the attack on her husband. That’s not what she’s asking for other opinions about!

She’s asking about the sharing of food and in particular of wine and vodka.

And she’s not unreasonable about that, either. The other couple sound, at best, weird, and at worst, cheap grifters. Spending £90 on crap food - and sliced white bread, instant coffee, and shop-bought fairy cakes are - objectively - crap.

I don’t know why some PPs are intent on putting the boot into the OP. She sounds as though he and her DH are polite and non-confrontational - hence leaving the company of the nasty couple as quietly as they could.

No doubt because one of the arseholes started a physical fight.

Would you stay after that?

Again, why is everybody talking about the bread?

"These people bought me cheap bread. Then they attacked my husband."

And nearly everybody focuses on the bread?

(To be fair, I am rather surprised that OP even mentioned the bread. I can only suppose it was to give context as to how the dispute started. But it really is of no relevance who would or wouldn't be happy with the bread (and the biscuits, crisps etc) compared to the fact that somebody physically attacked her husband).

What an unpleasant and rather judgy post

Why wouldn't someone be irked to pay a considerable food for inedible food, perfectly entitled to that and why wouldn't they leave if someone became violent, sounds rather sensible

I literally have no words.
The ops husband was assaulted and you think op left out details to paint the other couple in a bad light.
Seriously

OP I think you are not unreasonable to have assumed for £90 kitty that you'd be getting some nice brekker and the quantities of food they bought was frankly ridiculous. Especially as they knew one of the party was vegetarian so why so many sausages and bacon?

And all these people who are criticising you for being snobbish ... I don't think they'd also have thought by contributing £30 to a £90 kitty that they'd be getting enormous volumes of cheap ingredients.

For sure, some people don't care about what brand bacon and sausages and what sort of eggs. And that's fine, but then don't ask for a £30 contribution for a couple of fry ups. So I think this couple were honestly really CF to have asked for so much money.

And yes all of this pales compared to the actual incident itself !

It doesn't matter how many times you have said "I didn't want to offend" "I didn't want to appear snobby", you then follow it up by reiterating your snobbery.

I presume this was one weekend ? You could have just sucked it up. Honestly, you aren't coming across well here.

Obviously there is no excuse for someone to "start a physical fight", of course there isn't. Everyone on the thread agrees with that, but how strange for you to then leave. Surely the other couple would have backed you saying to them "I think you should leave in the morning" rather than you scuttling away in the night.

I too, would like to hear the two other versions of what happened - one from the couple who you approve of and one from the couple who you clearly think are beneath you.

What a strange post.

OP why wasn’t a discussion had beforehand about what food was being ordered? Whenever I’ve gone away as part of a group, any food orders are made with each person’s input (or at least, approval of what to buy). Why didn’t this happen? I just find it really hard to believe that you didn’t think to check what they were going to buy.

Sharing alcohol is unusual in my group of friends, most people don’t do this. I’m unsure as to why you’d assume that this would need to be stated outright.

I think there’s a lot of detail that’s been conveniently left out of this story in order to paint the other couple in a negative light.

Well, the short answer is that at least one of them is completely bonkers & has hugely mismatched the shop to the occasion.

That list of food is one that I'd unashamedly have bought for a huge, multi family camping weekend back when my kids were small - my group of friends used to cheerfully cater for the ravenous under 10 early rising masses like this.

Then we'd individually buy nicer stuff, but yes, one family would volunteer to do the big cheap supermarket shop (& be let off a morning breakfast cook in exchange).

I think they fucked up the shopping, ie 6 relatively sophisticated adults in a holiday let =/= 20 hungry camping gremlins. They're maybe just not terribly bright.

Then realised from your reaction & your buggering off to get a cafe breakfast that you were unimpressed, were embarrassed, & festered until the booze came out.

I'd be concerned about the woman tbh. Sounds like she's married to an aggressive arse.

I have read most of this thread, may have missed the odd post, and I must say it strikes me as strange over all, and the weirdest thing is how many of the posts focus on the nature of the food, what type of bread and coffee it was etc.....

THIS MAN PHYSICALLY ATTACKED OP'S PARTNER!!!!

I assume he wasn't badly hurt, or OP would have mentioned it, but fuck me, being attacked by people you have gone on holiday with is SERIOUSLY fucking extreme! (And I don't come from an especially sheltered background, believe me).

The fact they bought food OP doesn't like - inevitable when people are shopping with people they don't know. The failure to share alcohol - happens....

But punching your husband??? He"s lucky your husband didn't call the cops. And I am frankly AMAZED that he was still welcome at the birthday meal after this attack - I'd be very unhappy if my friends continued to socialise with somebody who had done this. Do they understand the extent of it, and that it was entirely unprovoked?

And SIX packets of bacon for 2 meals for 6 people? When one of those people is vegetarian? So for breakfast 5 of them would have eaten over a packet each of bacon? That’s what 8 slices each per breakfast?

That couple were either stupid or - well, thick.

If you tried reading you'd know it was the opposite.

The op said the hosts were on her side, the partying stopped when the yob punched OPs dh and it was all a bit of a mess.

It's easy to accuse other people of being somewhat unpleasant when they go around punching people.

Anyone who thinks punching someone because they are annoying them is a strange person to side with.

I guess you are that kind of a person

The food sounded nasty. I wouldn't have eaten it either.

Pretty normal to assume everyone was sharing as a) the crazy couple came up with the idea of chipping in and buying food for everyone to share and b) crazy couple woman was happily drinking OPs wine so obviously was happy to be the recipient of sharing.

No reasonable person would conclude anything other than all the alcohol was being shared.

You are barmy if you think otherwise. Or obtuse

I'm not joking when I say there was about 12 packets of biscuits! 2 big packs of multipack crisps, I think. Maybe 3 packs of fairy cakes.

A couple of big packs of sausages (40 sausages in total!) . 2 big trays of caged hens eggs. 6 packs of bacon. 6 tins of baked beans. 4 loaves of bread. 2 big packs of sugary cereal. Big pack of teabags, big jar of instant coffee, big bottle of orange squash, 3 cartons of from concentrate orange juice. Pack of sugar, 6 pints of milk.

INSTANT coffee????? Good lord, they are tasteless grifters.

For 12 breakfasts (6 people twice) rough prices from my regular Sainsbury’s shop (prices from memory so rough estimates )

24 eggs: £8
packet of butter £3
packet of real coffee £7
two loaves unsliced rye bread or sour dough £6
12 tomatoes (I buy Sainsbury’s small salad toms, basic but good with eggs) £2
English breakfast loose tea £5
Milk 1litre £2
Jam £2
Fruit bananas, oranges £8 (at most)

Maybe £40 for the lot?

But instant coffee on holidays - bleurgh

Nothing I’ve listed is particularly fancy or snobbish. Just good plain relatively unprocessed food to make healthy but nice breakfasts

Maybe this couple have an eating problem as well, or are particularly boring people who spend their lives sitting around drinking cups of tea and eating biscuits. And PPs’ comments about the man’s violence over alcohol suggests a problem with alcohol.

Luckily, you’ll never have to see these low rent types again @Riversideandrelax

And it’s not even hard to do that politely. ‘Oh that all looks lovely! Thanks but just to say I’m going to stick to my own beer/wine/gin and just use that myself if that’s ok, I don’t drink a lot so just brought my own supply’’

OP they sound like a pair of skanks. Horrible situation but with luck they’ll be drop kicked from the group now.

Wtf the guy physically attacked him?! What are you supposed to do after that, just start nodding and smiling and just go to the party together?

I’d have left too, the point is a celebration, that would be totally ruined and the whole thing incredibly awkward at best so what’s the point?