Have you had a Sliding Doors moment in your life?

Made my day this thanks!!! 😂

I loved reading your post OP.

Not sure why another poster said it's been done before? Came across a bit dismissive.

I've never thought about sliding doors moments. You're talking about the really significant ones aren't you. Not the everyday ones. I never wanted a second child. Went around to a friends house when I couldn't be arsed and saw her new baby. Woke up the next morning with an overwhelming desire to have a second baby. Was pregnant 4 weeks later. Another one was just before Christmas 2023. Woke up one morning and decided that after nearly 20 years of teaching that I wasn't going back. I never did and it's been the best decision ever. Mine tend to be really really strong gut feelings that I get that I can't move past.

Ah who cares? I personally didn’t see those threads you have mentioned.

Yes. I made the wrong decision and it cost me 20 years of happiness. I'm still making up for it.

Trust your gut people x

I went to find some change in my husbands pocket - he said it was there and to get it - as I did he jumped up to stop me - but I had already pulled out the cinema tickets for sliding doors... there were two tickets, and then the penny dropped. I realised why he'd brought new clothes, new aftershave and had been out with the lads a few too many times.

I was pregnant and we divorced

I'm sure life is filled with lots of mini sliding doors moments,

Sliding doors moments are all a bit nonsense because your comment above is the crux of it. The fact is every moment is a sliding door moment that you don't even know about.

You stay 10 minutes longer sitting in a cafe because you can't be bothered to move. If you'd left 10 minutes earlier, you'd have bumped into Mr Perfect For You who you used to be a school with/work with and have reconnected. You don't even know because you were on Path A so have no idea of Path B at all.

because if my friend had never had the courage to tell me that my first H was cheating, I would never have left him, and I would never have met my lovely DH

This is just your perception but it's probably completely wrong. You probably would have found out he was cheating at some point or he'd have left you. That woudl have freed you up to meet someone else. For all you know, if the timing was different you could have met someone even better suited to you than your DH.

Every moment of every day is a sliding doors moment in reality. Human nature is to make the best of a bad job and to view the Bad Thing as a Good Thing to make themselves feel better.

Like Thank God I didn't get into Cambridge University because I was so Happy at Durham University. In fact, Cambridge would probably have been just as good if not better but its a human need to convince yourself.

Thank God I didn't get that promotion in the company where I was really happy that I desperately wanted because it lead me to apply to my new company where I am paid more. In fact, you'd probably have been happier being paid more on your promotion that you didn't get in your old place where you really liked it but its a human need to convince yourself.

In your case, you are Thank God my friend told me he was cheating but in fact you'd have been better off not marrying the first one in the first place at all.

We all like to fool ourselves. I do it. You do it. We all do it in order to live deludedly happily.

There was a thread on this 18th June. Also one before in 2023 ...