In short, my nephew has been found, alongside a few other boys, to be calling a girl 'butchy' butch. This is their nickname for her and they found it hilarious to call her this. SIL was called into the school by head of year. The boys got nothing but a slap on the wrist, in reality. We suspect because they're all Set 1 (top set) and still in process of doing their mocks.
SIL says this is not enough. And she is punishing my nephew by saying he isn't coming on the family holiday - Which is also the wedding of my sister.
BIL is backing her.
AIBU to think this is too much? By all means yes, the school have been to soft here as a consequence. But, surely this is too much?
It means missing his aunt getting married. She is really upset and cried on the phone to me about this.
Knowing SIL, she is very likely to follow through.
It would mean him staying with his nan. And she would continue onto the holiday as planned with BIL
High chance she will see this thread of course. But the family is really upset. It's a wedding.