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To let Dd skive off tomorrow because of sports day?

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Cadela · 27/06/2024 21:14

Honestly, the way the school organises it is horrendous. It’s FOURTEEN different ‘sports’ that you have five minutes at, and the kids have to perform in front of their peers so it’s already stressful. Plus there is no races, no medals, no winning!

Last year Dd was crying the whole way round because she was so worried about looking silly in front of the year 6s. She’s 7.

Usually I am very much of the let’s crack on and show ourselves we can do it! Mindset, but honestly Dd has been crying about this every bedtime and I just don’t want to force her to do it.

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pinkspeakers · 27/06/2024 21:26

My DD (now in her 20s!) got really upset about sports day at primary school. One year she was crying about it for weeks in advance. I spoke to the teacher and they arranged for her to do a "special job" that day which did not involved running etc. She was fine in future years. I think I did the right thing. I'd definitely suggest talking to the teacher rather than just keeping her home.

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Cadela · 27/06/2024 21:25

EatTheGnome · 27/06/2024 21:24

I think you tell her DD that it's not up to you and if she's worried she needs to talk to the school. We don't need to solve all our kids problems for them.

She’s 7 and yes I will solve all her problems for her. That’s literally being a parent.

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EatTheGnome · 27/06/2024 21:24

I think you tell her DD that it's not up to you and if she's worried she needs to talk to the school. We don't need to solve all our kids problems for them.

Shinyandnew1 · 27/06/2024 21:24

I kept DD home for the Y4 sports day-she was shattered and just really didn’t want to do it.

She did all the others and appears to have got to adulthood without missing that appearing to have any sort of negative affect on her!

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Cadela · 27/06/2024 21:23

Dabralor · 27/06/2024 21:21

With the greatest of regret, yabu.

Kids need to learn to cope in tricky situations - life is full of things that we think are hard and you can't just opt out of all of them.

But the hard stuff we HAVE to do we do, like the dentist and doing a performance in assembly.

I don’t know why forcing Dd to perform sports (which she hates! Give her a maths problem any day) is going to benefit her in any way?

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Dabralor · 27/06/2024 21:21

With the greatest of regret, yabu.

Kids need to learn to cope in tricky situations - life is full of things that we think are hard and you can't just opt out of all of them.

TheOccupier · 27/06/2024 21:16

Of course she has to go. Why is she so afraid of looking silly? Work on that.

LizzieSiddal · 27/06/2024 21:16

Have you spoken to the teacher about this? They should be supporting her. Can you go and watch?