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AIBU to have told my friend about my concerns over her husband

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Stacy2024 · 27/06/2024 19:40

I don’t want to post specific details online but imo he is touching their young kids inappropriately.

I have talked to others and their reactions range from “this is normal affection between a dad and his kids” to “report them to child services.”

I disagree with either extreme so what I did was just talk to my friend about my concerns. She did not react well and ended the friendship.

I thought she just needed time to process everything and that we could discuss it after some time passed. But it’s been two years now and she has not wanted to talk.

I want my friend back but even more so I want her kids to be safe. I don’t feel like it rises to the level of getting police and child services involved. But his behavior is very concerning to me.

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sprigatito · 27/06/2024 19:43

I'm confused. If you were certain enough that his behaviour was abusive that you blew up your friendship over it, how can it not be serious enough to report it to the police/social services who can intervene and make the children safe?

It makes no sense.

Lizzbear · 27/06/2024 19:43

It depends what he was doing. Could you expand a bit. We can then discuss it.

SheddingCat · 27/06/2024 19:42

Absolutely impossible to say anything without a bit more detail. You might have done the right thing but it’s impossible to say.

Andwegoroundagain · 27/06/2024 19:42

If you've not talked to them for 2 years and presumably not seen the kids for 2 years, not sure you've got anything to report ? If it reached the threshold then 2 years ago was the time to report.

I am not sure you can do anything to get your friend back sorry

Mummy2024 · 27/06/2024 19:42

You've got to be joking? You thought it bad enough to tell your friend and not the police? I don't understand at all.

Barleysugar86 · 27/06/2024 19:42

Hard to say... what kind of touching did you think was inappropriate/ what ages? My husband is very hands on cuddly with our toddler but nothing that would ever worry me...

feathermucker · 27/06/2024 19:41

What did you witness?

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