"Your boobs are lovely!"

I think you need to work on your brain perhaps, not your body.

Losing the weight (even with the boob consequences) will be amazing for your long term health. I'm so many different ways.

Your boobs have nourished 3 babies. That's amazing. Well done to your body and your boobs!

Now time to work on your brain to find a some love for the fantastic things you've done with your body.

Honestly - get surgery. You've work too hard on your body and health to not be able to enjoy it because of your boobs. It's great that your husband thinks they're lovely - but YOU have to like them, too!

This. My DH loves my saggy old body because it’s me and it brings him joy.

Bodies come in all shapes and sizes , and there is so much variety. The body in the pic is a normal body too.

The problem isn't your body , it's how you feel about it. Yes surgery exists for those who choose that route. I don't have any advice about how to suddenly love yourself.

I'm sure your husband is being sincere, he may be basing his opinion on how they feel if he fondles them .

You comfort ate 100lbs. Have you had extensive therapy? Because if not, you'll just focus on a different thing once your boobs are sorted.

Yeah the PIP scandal says otherwise.

Sorry you are feeling like this, op. I don't think your husband said anything wrong or untrue- I suspect he does think they are lovely and that you are letting your own feelings affect your interpretation of what he said.

I wouldn't have surgery- we are all aging and changing and the secret is to find a way to come to terms with it rather than try to hold back the clock. The people I know who have had surgery have not stopped at one surgery- once you commit to thinking that the righg think to do about imperfections is leap onto the surgeon's table, you'll never stop because you will never be perfect.

If you feel really bad about it and you can afford it then just go get the surgery! Seriously, life’s s too short!
I got implants when I was 19 and it was literally the best thing ive done for my self esteem. Ive had them almost 20 years now and didnt need to replace anything yet. But yes, that will eventually happen.
several friends of mine got surgery after giving birth and nobody regrets it.

If you want to change something on you and you have the means, just go for it.

I agree with this, you'll be looking at your breasts for the rest of your life, make it easier on yourself & as for the "having my nipples off makes me gag" yes but you've had three children & we all know the indignity of childbirth!

Just go for it because it sounds like this is not only your mental heath that's suffereing but your relationship too

Your lovely husband probably meant every word. I am 48, overweight and never been a looker. My fit, active and still attractive husband loves every part of me. I don't get it, but I do appreciate it. I feel for you, it isn't easy feeling bad about yourself.

I wouldn't bother getting operated on because if you did that, you'd probably focus on something else once you 'sorted' your boobs.

Stomach
Thighs
Teeth
Wrinkles
Bum

You're better off working out how to give less of a shit.

I know nothing about boob surgery but I think if you have implants you don’t need to have your nipples moved?

IME men have very different scale of "good" when it comes to boobs. He may have been telling you what he thinks!

I got a boob job after lost weight and my tits sagged.Not for everyone admittedly but it was right for me.

I still think the boobs in those demonstration pics are lovely.

It’s not worth the risk of going under GA with three young kids.

So many women are taking their implants out these days due to implant sickness.

There’s lots of things you can do to feel better about your body without surgery, eg. Go to therapy, get a good fake tan, start weight training. Some exercises may naturally lift them.

I’m sure your husband meant what he said. He didn’t say he thought they looked as good as a 25 year old lingerie model’s boobs, he said they were lovely and it’s totally believable that to him, they are - mostly because they’re part of you!

If your husband complained about his thinning hairline then it would be a lie to say he had lots of lustrous hair, but it wouldn’t be a lie to say “your hair looks good” if you genuinely felt that it does still look good, even though it doesn’t look as full as it used to.

I know the pictures you posted are google not you - but I think they are fine. Very normal/ordinary. The person probably wouldn’t go out in such a low cut top but that’s about it as far as anything being unusual.

Your body has grown you 3 kids and I assume is still going strong - allowing you to live your life and look after them. Don’t hate on it. If you want to get surgery then do but nothing wrong with having a mum bod. I have one too as do many others.

Boobs and hair are completely different so you are being unfair.

To him your boobs are lovely.

Telling him he has thick locks if he was receding is a false fact.

So many things that can be said to you but only you can change your mindset about them.

Bollocks to surgery, especially implants, you never know how safe they'll be in x years time. Carving yourself up for a fleeting moment of happiness. You aren't frumpy, you aren't horrible, it's just a perception, not the reality.

In your position I would go for some consultations about an uplift - you don't need to have implants necessarily.

He loves you, he likes your boobs. You are the mother of his children. He sound like a great guy tbh

I had boobs like that OP and I had a boobjob and then an uplift. Its been about 12 years now and im still really happy with them, but I wish I hadnt been so unhappy with them, because logically i know it doesnt matter, and I wish i could have just embraced it all
Tbh, you either learn to accept your body the way it is, or if you really can't accept it, then surgery is the only other option surely.
I dont see the point in being cross that your husband says he loves your boobs. I expect he really does think they're lovely. Hes unlikely to be looking at your body as critically as you do.

but if he told me his receding hairline was bothering him I wouldn't insist he had lovely thick locks.

That's not a comparison though, is it?

If you thought he looked lovely with receding hair (I do think my DH looks lovely) then surely you'd say so and it wouldn't be a lie?

He didn't say your boobs are small and perky, did he?

He said they look lovely, so they probably do to him.

If you can afford the surgery, why not? Life's too short to loathe looking yourself in the mirror. I'm late 50s and they're sagging a bit as I'm an F cup but still look fab in a good bra. If I hated them or they were very wrinkled, I'd probably do surgery.